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Vivian Best
05-22-2004, 08:14 AM
I was posting a reply to a thread a few minutes ago and that got me to thinking of the agony I went through as a young teenager crossdresser. There wasn't any information available and the internet was still thirty years in the future. Many things went through my mind. Why was I the only boy/man that wore women's clothes? Should I have been a woman? Did something go wrong internally with my chromosomes? Questions, questions, and no answers!

Age brings on a certain amount of acceptance of your life's situation. I guess that also means crossdressing. I have been crossdressing for some 55 plus years so this certainly is not new to me and is as much a part of me as my hands. I have come to accept myself as I am. I no longer condemn myself for wearing feminine clothes, they are mine! I bought them for myself! I no longer think of them as women's clothes, they are mine, they are what I like and what I need.

I've reached the point in life that I'm comfortable with what I am and what I do. I'm not apt to change at this age. I dress as often as I get the chance. I go all the way with makeup, jewelry, wig and everything. I know I will dress the remainder of my life.

Have any of you ladies reached this point in your life?

Vivian:o

Nina
05-22-2004, 08:30 AM
I think society stinks, Why can't we just be accepted for what we are.
Why should it be any different for us to go out dressed up as a woman than for a woman to go out with short hair jeans and slacks. We are doing no wrong. Why should women get the choice of any outfits and hairstyles and to wear makeup or not. Why can't it be the same for men.
IF I went out in my home town fully dressed up, I would probably get beat up or worse and all my friends would hate me and i would more than likely lose my job as well.
Nevermind oneday I would love to move away where no one knows me so I can be Nina all the time(I can only dream)

eleventhdr
05-22-2004, 01:28 PM
Yes exactly that's the way it should b but very still unfortuatly it is not yet but it does continue to go our way bit by bit and maybe some day very soon we will be alloed to be who and what we want to be. Yeah I know I have reached a point where i think I do realize I should have been a girl in this lifetime as I am way over due to be jsut that. I have been this in many more past lives then male and can tell you it is really better being female then male I wish I could change right now . Oh well one of these days they will come up with that also and tehn we who do want to be female can revert to our better selves. It's really the only and most natual way to be as all life does begin as female anyway it's the male who is really secondary. I take being feamle anyday over male. Being male is not what everone seems to think it is I am regretting it more and more everday now. Oh well I know and undestand how you do feel. Thank's Jay Suzy Ann my girl name for myself!.

newfemale
05-22-2004, 02:24 PM
I agree with Nina 100%! Society does stink, and everyone seems to be against me except for my friends and family. I am a Jewish, Japanese/Chinese/American cross-dresser/transvestite and I'm considering SRS! People hate me so much just for my religion alone, but coupled with being a CD/TV it gets even worse! I was on the verge of suicide when i was 15, but then i changed schools and met these 4 girls. All of them helped me so much to get over my depression, and they even helped me cross-dress! It's all because of their, and my parents support and help that i look so good, and feel better, and that i am still alive!

Julie
05-22-2004, 04:22 PM
Acceptance! Isn't that what we all dream of? https://home.comcast.net/~julimarie/images/emoticons/jumping47.gif

When you think back on the history of this country you can see many prejudices society had that are gone today. :D When's the last time you heard of a witch being burned at the stake? :eek: Many today are still outraged at the ignorance that led to that.

When you say 'crossdresser' or 'transvestite' an image comes to mind. For the vast majority that image is one of a hairy gay man in a dress who engages in perverted sexual acts. They shudder at the thought of ever meeting one or can't wait for the opportunity so they can beat the crap out of him.

What they don't know is we are regular people just like them.http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/3/3_4_23.gif (http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb001) In fact I would imagine almost everyone of those with this perverted image knows and likes at least one crossdresser. They just don't know he is a crossdresser. http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/15/15_1_119.gif (http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb001)

Every pioneer http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/15/15_4_124.gif (http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb001) had to endure criticism, prejudice, hatred and rejection. But after society became educated about their cause all that gradually went away. Society encourages everyone to dare to be differenthttp://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/15/15_8_200.gif (http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb001), be a leader not a follower, as long as you are just like themhttp://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/15_1_56.gif (http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb001). The pioneers braved their way through horrible treatment but once they emerged on the other side they felt immense joy from having won their battle. http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/23/23_30_104.gif (http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb001)

We need to be pioneers, each in our own way. Complaining about something to others in your situation is singing to the choir. We need to educate that same society that now has a prejudice against us. How? One step at a time. http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/15/15_1_54v.gif (http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb001) It can be as simple as supporting the issue when it's brought up https://home.comcast.net/~julimarie/images/emoticons/S_THUM~1.gif or as radical as stepping out your door to go to work fully dressed .http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/3/3_4_7.gif (http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb001) They have to get to know us to accept us. They have to be shown that the stigma crossdressing has is all wrong. But that can only happen if we give them the opportunity to know who we are.

Once that happens we'll have to all get together and talk over drinks http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/13/13_1_104.gif (http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb001)

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GirlyGirl
05-22-2004, 04:49 PM
Thanks for the pep talk Im behind you all the way but im scared of getting beat up by the mean girls.

JustmeBear
05-22-2004, 07:59 PM
When I was little..I went to school dressed like a boy..I got called alot of names and it was hard for kids to be nice...I swear...I was called heman....sheman sometimes even shera..Kids can be so cruel..There was one good thing about school though..I had met another girl just like me and we were best friends..Yeah people made fun of us but we stuck together...

Now that I am older and yes it would be quite nice for people to be accepting but I have come to learn that if people can not like/love you for who you are then it is their loss.....

My sister is accepting of me..and my girlfriend..they are the only two people in my life that have come to accept me for me and well I love them more for that...Now I just wish my parents could accept me.... I just told them not too long ago and I haven't heard from my mother since...I guess it is too much for her to take in...I do not know what I do....All my relatives live in another state and the only person I have in my life is my girlfriend...I do not get to spend as much time with her as I would like......

So I am kinda depressed...You know I just want someone to "hold" me and for some reason my girlfriend is having difficulty showing that kind of emotion for me....Some times I feel secrets are better kept untold..I do not know

:(