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marykrissmithcd
09-30-2007, 05:59 PM
I'm 54 years old and love dressing up. Recently I begun to think about the future as I age. Is there a point you call it quites simply because of health or some other factors? If you are married with an understanding/supportative wife, no problem. But what happens if she passes first or are single divorced. Especially if you depended on her help each day. Maybe by the time I retire there will be a retirement community of crossdressers that are there to support each other. Never know, you might need help getting your dress zipped. Crossdressing can be very lonly if you don't get out to a support group to meet other CD's. Sitting locked up in your house or apartment gets boring after awhile. :sad:

docrobbysherry
09-30-2007, 06:41 PM
I'm quite a bit older than you, and only started CDing the last 6 or 7 years. Although my pics look like I'm 30, max. I never go out dressed, and probably never will. If you like to go out dressed, you will need friends that support you, or dress up also. You probably need them now, more than ever. If not, I don't see the problem. Eventually, if we live long enough, we'll all need someone to help us out of bed and to get dressed in the morning. Whether she helps you put on ladies clothes or mens clothes, I don't think it will matter then. Meanwhile, all of us on this site, are a support group of sorts. It least, I feel that way!
myspace.com/robertsherry

Daintre
09-30-2007, 06:41 PM
That seems like a good question, I have health issues and I don't know if I will end up in some form of seniors place. I think it would really cramp the dressing, well depending if I needed any help with daily living. I don't look forward to that at all.

KarenSusan
09-30-2007, 06:48 PM
I will be 62 soon and I have thought of exactly the same thing. My sister and her family do not know that I CD. I feel that there is no compelling reason to tell them. I figure if I got some kind of terminal disease I would have time to get rid of all my female stuff but I often think if I had a stroke my secret would be out. CDing is so important to me that I cannot imagine saying to myself something like when I am 70 I will get rid of all my female clothes, so I really don't know what I will do. I am single with no SO.

trannie T
09-30-2007, 08:43 PM
I'm 60 not quite ready to wear support hose with my miniskirt, nor am I ready for the old crossdresser's home. I did come out to my brother a while back so he won't be surprised if he goes through my stuff after my demise.

sissystephanie
09-30-2007, 10:07 PM
So far, I am the old man here at age 75. Been crossdressing as long as I can remember! I go out dressed almost every day, but not trying to pass! Just a man wearing female clothing and shoes. Before my wife passed away, we went out as two girls frequently. But since she always did my wig and makeup, I don't go out like that anymore. I suppose if I do have to move into a retirement home, or worse, I will have to give up being a CD!:sad: Will cross that bridge when I get there!

Sissy/Stephanie

More Girl than man sometimes

TerriM
09-30-2007, 10:52 PM
Im 59 and my wife knows. What will happen when i get older I dont know. But I do know I will continue to dress as long as I'm physically able. I have CD friends in their 70's and they still get out and do their thing. My attitude is life is too short, 911 made that even more real to me.

Yours Terri

ArleneRaquel
09-30-2007, 11:01 PM
To an Old Crossdress's Home for Hot little Beyonce, who plans to go out while cutting a rug. :happy: :love: & :hugs: Beyonce Welch - Saying No to OLD AGE ! :happy:

Jamie001
09-30-2007, 11:03 PM
Stephanie,

Why would you noy be able to dress if you move into a retirement home? Just have them treat you like a woman.


So far, I am the old man here at age 75. Been crossdressing as long as I can remember! I go out dressed almost every day, but not trying to pass! Just a man wearing female clothing and shoes. Before my wife passed away, we went out as two girls frequently. But since she always did my wig and makeup, I don't go out like that anymore. I suppose if I do have to move into a retirement home, or worse, I will have to give up being a CD!:sad: Will cross that bridge when I get there!

Sissy/Stephanie

More Girl than man sometimes

Khriss
09-30-2007, 11:04 PM
sad to hear about the loss of Your understanding Partner (Wife)..
Your post gives me hope , to dress by myself , or find someone who understands my "desires" !? Thank You for Your insight ! xx"K"

Suzie Green
09-30-2007, 11:56 PM
I'm 59 and my wife knows and is 100% supportive too. My grown kids know as well, so there won't be any surprises if I suddenly happen to check out. I think if my wife were to go before me, I'd find it pretty difficult to find someone else who is as understanding. I'd probably stay single and be more of a private CD. When I do go out, I like to have my wife along for company, and I might find it terribly hard to do it alone. I'm not looking forward to it...I'd rather not think about it. Just live in the moment and enjoy today. If you are planning on tomorrow, you might be disappointed!

Rosaliy Lynne
10-01-2007, 03:16 AM
I'm 54 years old and love dressing up. Recently I begun to think about the future as I age. Is there a point you call it quites simply because of health or some other factors? If you are married with an understanding/supportative wife, no problem. But what happens if she passes first or are single divorced. Especially if you depended on her help each day. Maybe by the time I retire there will be a retirement community of crossdressers that are there to support each other. Never know, you might need help getting your dress zipped. Crossdressing can be very lonly if you don't get out to a support group to meet other CD's. Sitting locked up in your house or apartment gets boring after awhile. :sad:

I can't imagine ever calling it quits. You can't stop being who you are as I well know at only 58. I agree that sitting at home gets to be a bit much which is why I make sure I have a social life AND I get out daily en femme.


I'm quite a bit older than you, and only started CDing the last 6 or 7 years. Although my pics look like I'm 30, max. I never go out dressed, and probably never will. If you like to go out dressed, you will need friends that support you, or dress up also. You probably need them now, more than ever. If not, I don't see the problem. Eventually, if we live long enough, we'll all need someone to help us out of bed and to get dressed in the morning. Whether she helps you put on ladies clothes or mens clothes, I don't think it will matter then. Meanwhile, all of us on this site, are a support group of sorts. It least, I feel that way!
myspace.com/robertsherry

I never thought I would go out dressed either. Oh as a kid in high school I would make some night time walks en femme. Of course I did not have long hair or a wig so I looked out of place with a kerchief to cover. I was in my 50's before I started outside the house again and at first it was night time to go check the days mail when I might escape notice. Now that I have been out - I prefer to get even my groceries en femme. It's great to be who you are.


That seems like a good question, I have health issues and I don't know if I will end up in some form of seniors place. I think it would really cramp the dressing, well depending if I needed any help with daily living. I don't look forward to that at all.

It might cramp the dressing on the one hand but who knows? As for me, I'll dress the way I want to dress.


sad to hear about the loss of Your understanding Partner (Wife)..
Your post gives me hope , to dress by myself , or find someone who understands my "desires" !? Thank You for Your insight ! xx"K"

I am so pleased that there are many out there who have fully supportive SO's. So far though, I haven't been so lucky. First wife was not ready for marriage. Second started out supportive but turned off quickly, in all areas of our relationship. Last wife would never accept Rosaliy. I've pretty much decided, for now at least, to be single. At least my cats don't care how I dress.


I'm 59 and my wife knows and is 100% supportive too. My grown kids know as well, so there won't be any surprises if I suddenly happen to check out. I think if my wife were to go before me, I'd find it pretty difficult to find someone else who is as understanding. I'd probably stay single and be more of a private CD. When I do go out, I like to have my wife along for company, and I might find it terribly hard to do it alone. I'm not looking forward to it...I'd rather not think about it. Just live in the moment and enjoy today. If you are planning on tomorrow, you might be disappointed!

All I can suggest is build a support group of family and friends. It will make all the difference in the long run and that is where I am planning - the long run.

Joanne f
10-01-2007, 03:38 AM
The only thing that i have thought about some times is that if i ever had to go into hospital in a hurry i only have fem night wear and undies and wonder if it would be ok to wear them in there.

Brianna Lovely
10-01-2007, 03:40 AM
I'm in my sixties and only started dressing/going out last year. I intend to keep dressing and going out as long as I'm able.

As far as pulling my zipper up, I'll follow the lead of other ladies, mature GGs, and not wear things with zippers, giggle.

I don't have a SO and most likely won't in the future, so I'll have to fend for myself, to th best of my ability.

Kate Simmons
10-01-2007, 06:33 AM
I've had this idea in my head for awhile now, telling myself it won't be practical to dress as I get older (I'm 60), so I'm getting to where I'm comfortable either way. I've been going to the club dancing as Rich and having just as much fun as when I'm Sal. Seems I've gotten past the inhibition stage of how an older guy should "act". I used to fail back to acting like a "stick in the mud" as a guy because the prevailing attitude is that guys are supposed to be laid back, macho, serious and just concerned about sex all the time.What a crock. Well, I've laid that myth to rest, at least for myself anyway.
Even so, after weeks of not doing so, I went to the club Saturday and had a great time dancing all night as Sal. The feedback was incredible even with my less feminine denim look. What I didn't realize is that a lot of folks are boosted by watching me dance as Sal. I just do it because I have fun and am certainly not looking for attention.Go figure. Guess it's not quite time to hang up my wigs just yet.;):happy:

Jere Oneil
10-01-2007, 06:36 AM
I am in my 60s, and I don't go out dressed, but old farts can get away with lots of things younger folks can't.

MsJanessa
10-01-2007, 06:39 AM
I suppose I will do it as long as I want to or as long as I can physically manage to zip up My dress

Wendy me
10-01-2007, 06:48 AM
you know i thought abought this too ....but for now things are just fine .......

Donna Marie
10-01-2007, 08:37 AM
Well, I'll be 71 in November (assuming God doesn't play a little joke on me), and I'm still at it. I don't go out much, though. I kind of lost my courage on that issue, but you never know - I might still give it a go. As for giving it up just cuz I past 70 at the last turn, .......Why??

Ashly
10-01-2007, 08:42 AM
....the more I like it to go out wearing skirts. I am 60 and showing off my skirts is great fun. Some people don't know what to think about, because my style of clothing is skirts and more male attire.....so..like one little boy once said to his mom:" Mom, he is wearing a skirt like you, but he looks like a man"....;)

eliot
10-01-2007, 09:21 AM
72 and fortunately in good health, dressing one day at a time.:D

gennee
10-01-2007, 09:38 AM
I am 59 and have been dressing for only 2 1/2 years. My wife and son know that I dress. I will continue to do so. I have been out in public many times and will continue to do so. I haven't thought about a nursing home but God forbid if I end up there. Ever since I had heart surgery three years ago, I have made every moment count.

Gennee

JoAnnDallas
10-01-2007, 09:40 AM
When I went to HEF2006 last year, a couple of older sisters were there. One was using a walker, the other had a scooter.

Sasha Anne Meadows
10-01-2007, 09:45 AM
I am 61 but did not start fully dressing until I was 50. I am retierd and live full time at home now with a supportive wife but don't go out. I share the fear of having to be in some kind of assisted living facility some day. I cant imagine not living as Sasha Anne. I would just kill me. So I am hoping for the best but I dont think anyone of us could stand it to stop dressing.

Joy Carter
10-01-2007, 10:38 AM
The only thing that i have thought about some times is that if i ever had to go into hospital in a hurry i only have fem night wear and undies and wonder if it would be ok to wear them in there.

Joanne. I've been in the ER twice with my women's underwear on. Nothing was said and I wouldn't have cared if they did. :p

Cristi
10-01-2007, 12:50 PM
I'm getting just old enough that I've thought about this more than a bit.

First, while I might lose my desire/ability to go out and have 'adventures' dressed, I don't think I'll ever give up the day-to-day things (panties, sleeping in a nightgown, wearing tights in cold weather). These things are so much a part of who I am now that I can't imagine giving them up.

Secondly, I've noticed that people appear more androgynous as they age, so I'm hopeful that when I am a senior, I might be able to 'pass' casually without even much of an effort (and even if I don't pass, who's going to give a 65 year old CD a hard time?). Perhaps in 20 years society will also be more accepting as well. Wow, finally something to look FORWARD to about aging!

Finally, I've thought about the circumstance that has been mentioned about what happens if I can no longer take care of myself. I would HOPE that by then I am strong and confident enough to stand up for myself. "Yes, I'm in a nursing home. Yes, I sleep in a nightgown and wear panties. Do you have a problem with that?" Maybe they'll just chalk it up to senility. :D


The only thing that i have thought about some times is that if i ever had to go into hospital in a hurry

I 'underdress' almost all the time. I'm sure the odds are that at SOME point in my life I'll be in an accident, or have some other medical emergency and will end up in the hospital. I can just imagine the ER staff ripping open my shirt to attach the EKG wires to find... a lacy red underwire bra! I just hope I have my matching panties on that day. I would be really embarrassing to have an unmatched bra/panty set on. :(

The other thing would be to be in an accident the a leg injury. The EMTs cut up the leg of my pants to get a look at the wound to find tights, or better yet sheer silk stockings with a garter belt!! Oh well, I guess I'll live. The only 'issue' is that I'm in a small enough town that I'm sure word will get around. There is no such thing as 'anonymity' in a town this size no matter WHAT the medical confidentiality laws say.

Ruth
10-01-2007, 02:59 PM
I feel like a youngster in this thread, being only 58. Most of us appreciate that life does not go on indefinitely, and we will all lose the benefits of an independent existence some day, but I don't see it as a threat or a worry. It will come and we will get through it.
Enjoy today.

Jilmac
10-02-2007, 03:43 PM
hey mary i know what you mean about the boredom. i've been dressing for many years,mostly in secret. i'm 62 and my wife just recently passed away. i'm free to dress as often as i want now, and i do. i don't think age really makes a difference in when you stop dressing. i probably won't stop until i croak. are threr any tg groups or meetings around wausau? maybe appleton, oshkosh, fond du lac, or green bay. i live in muskego and plan to attend a gemini gender group meeting on oct 13, so that i can meet othre dressers. if you need a friend i'm here. Jill

Katie Mathos
10-04-2007, 08:35 AM
I'm in my mid 50s and have been dressing since age 13. As I get older I find myself wanting to dress more and to meet with other "sisters" to discuss our sisterhood. Can not see giving up the dressing as I reach my retirement years and in fact see myself dressing more when the wife is not home.

Sharon B.
10-04-2007, 04:22 PM
I'm 53 and have found that I want to dress more as I get older. I also learned that I also want to go out dressed as a woman in a business suit and have done so in the early evening.
I have ventured out in the daylight hours and have been seen by a female neighbor, nothing has been said so far.
Still haven't made it to a club but that isn't to far off.
Haven't had an SO for sometime as she couldn't deal with the fact that I enjoy wearing women's clothes.
Now if I was a drunk or drug user she said she could understand but not a male wearing woman's clothes.

renee k
10-04-2007, 05:35 PM
Hi All,

I'll turn 58 next week. I thought I would stop when I turned 50. Like most here I've been dressing since I was in my teens. I'm still having fun and go out. And there's no stopping or looking back. As long as I have my health and enjoy what I'm doing. I'll continue doing what I enjoy!!

Huggs, Renee

Mary Morgan
10-04-2007, 06:11 PM
Yes, when they finally drop that last shovel full of dirt on my grave it will clearly be over, unless I am allowed to dress in Heaven. Of course, in my Heaven I will be free to dress all the time and no one will be particularly interested. On the other hand, if I have to live yet another life on earth because of my lack of perfection this time, I will be a woman and all will be well with the world. As for others finding out. Were it not for my wife's concerns about discovery, they would all know now. I think it would be great if they came to my visitation and found me in the most stunning LBD and accessories. Bless their little hearts. After all, how do you measure the worth of another human being? Certainly not by the clothes they wear.

Sally24
10-04-2007, 07:29 PM
Have to agree with the others. If anything, I may dress more as I get more free time. And men and women do look more like each other as they age. I do worry about losing my youthful looks, really enjoy it when I can look pretty! But I think that as much a problem for GGs as us, we both worry a little bit about what the years will do to our face. Thank god for all the new laser and chemical skin treatments. My skin has mostly avoided sun damage so I think I can keep most of the wrinkles at bay until at least my 60's.

If I can ever retire it would be nice to be able to go weeks without putting on anything drab!

For those girls that are worried they will go back in the closet when they don't have an SO anymore, Find A T-girl Group. We have girls in their 70's that still come out with us occasionally.

Rita B
10-05-2007, 06:13 AM
I may be losing it a bit, but it seems that I did post something to this thread before?????? I can assure you that the joy and the thrill of shopping for new clothes, of putting on make up and getting dressed to go out for an evening never goes away! I am 72 years young and still going strong, so take heart, you can enjoy your femme side until they put you down!

Love to all

Rita B

Cathy J
10-07-2007, 05:54 AM
I'm 75 also and keep right on dressing whenever I can. I've been dressing and in the closet all my life due to circumstance. I have no desire to go out. I just enjoy one day at a time!

Love,

MrsDiane
10-07-2007, 01:20 PM
Well a girl doesn't tell her real age but I admit I will never see the younger side of 65. I have serious heart and kidney problems which cause me periods of weakness and fatigue for days at a time. This spring I went thru a particularly bad time beforfe my kidney specialist got me stable and I feel as horny as ever. I don't ssek ouit physical relationhips but I do a lot of cybersex in chat rooms and still get excited as ever, just can't get the "thing" to respoind as it once did

Annette_boy
10-07-2007, 03:18 PM
I am 62 and proud of it and am told I look 40 I am 61 in the avatar photo and my last Hospital trip I was wearing panties and after the surgury I had friends bring me my fave pink nighty the Nurses and staf never blinked and my room mate was to sick to care I am going to keep going till I am compleatly unable to do for myself and even then I will try to convince my caregiver to dress me fem
I am Cancer Survivor 14 months and still going and going and going......
Annette:hugs:

Victoria Anne
10-07-2007, 03:38 PM
Interesting thread , though only a youngster of 47 I cannot imagine not dressing and by the time I get that age .... if they want me dressed as a man they will have to but the clothes and get a fight of it.

Krystenw
10-07-2007, 04:00 PM
I have been dressing nearly fulltime since I turned 58 last May.
I have been in the medical field for nearly 40 years and the one thing I have found out for sure is that when it is your time, you are history. And it doesn't make any difference what you have on.

So until then I have decided I am going to wear what I want, when I want. If others don't like it, then they can look the other way.

Krysten

Ashleigh
10-08-2007, 12:34 PM
I have been dressing for the last 46 years and I must admit that I get concerned as I age. Since I am never without wearing something, what if I do have a medical problem and can't get stripped down fast enough? In my community I would be put in the public square, whipped, shot, hanged, and burned. Yep all 4. I wish I could feel more like Kristinw, but here, I actually think the medical people would not give the proper medical attention to someone like me. But, I shall press on regardless. Love dressing too much.
Ashleigh :doll:

Eva Marie
10-08-2007, 02:46 PM
What a great bunch of folks - perhaps we should initiate a Geriatric Chapter here.