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marykrissmithcd
10-02-2007, 05:38 AM
As most of you know, I am older (54) and like going out dressed although not very often. I read from some of the older girls that they don't go out much. Is this because you don't feel there are very many place you can or want to go? Alot of the younger girls talk about going to a Tri-ess meeting and then going clubbing. While that can be fun, are there those who would prefer just going over to someones house for dinner and drinks. Four or 5 girls getting together for a potluck evening together. Clubbing for me is difficult since I have hearing difficulties in large rooms with crowd noise and loud music. All the background noise drowns out anyone trying to talk to me. It's frustrating not being able to hear the person right next to me. Guess I'm old fashioned and prefer quite more intimate settings. Wine cheese and jazz party anyone?

Wendy me
10-02-2007, 06:06 AM
well my wife is not supportive so my going out is a sneak out shopping during the day .. or when she has to stay over her mom's to take care of her ....i go out at night no clubbing to the store in the city to do some shopping ... then the pharmacy to pick up some girlie maintain things .... we got a new wall mart 24 hour store so might stop in for a peek..... but no clubs i never been out dressed with a other cd.......

Suzie Green
10-02-2007, 07:11 AM
The situation is similar here too MaryK...my wife is 100% supportive, so almost everything that I like to do also involves her. TriEss meetings and going out to nightclubs sounds fun, but at 59 it's not really my thing to hang around in Boston at 1 AM. I too would love meeting other CD's and their SO's, and a wine and cheese party or a potluck dinner would be a great time. The problem usually revolves around finding others in your area with the same enthusiasm.

Now if you want to move from WI to MA, you're most welcome to a get-together! :love:

Suzie (and her better half)

JoAnnDallas
10-02-2007, 08:05 AM
I guess my Tri-Ess chapter is not the norm. The average age is 50 and the most we do after a meeting is have coffee at the local IHOP.

DonnaT
10-02-2007, 08:38 AM
I don't belong to any groups like Tri-Ess or TGEA, who's members do get together and go someplace like a restaurant or movie or shopping, etc.

I'm 52 and go to a club in Richmond sometimes. The girls meet in the lower level, where there' a bar, pinball machines, televisions and pool tables , just to chat. The middle level has the dance floor and LOUD music :D The upper floor has another bar and cushioned couches among other seats. Mostly the gay crown hangs there, but some do come down to hang with the girls and play pool. When the lower level bar closes, everyone who's still there goes up to the top floor to hang out. The place closes down at 5am.

And getting together with other girls at someone's house is cool too. Done that once.

Denise Anne
10-02-2007, 09:28 AM
Hi and you are so right!

I am 51 and have been out and about around the Green Bay several times. Unfortunately there are only a few clubs to go to here and they are so loun and annoying. I for one would rather meet a few other girls at thier houses or somewhere rather quiet so we can just chat and enjoy each other company for the evening.

My wife and I have had another Cd and her wife over to our place for a Bar-B-Que once and then we went out for the evening together. That was so much fun and more relaxing then having to shout at one another over loud music.

Denise Anne

Michelle (Oz)
10-02-2007, 11:41 AM
I'm later 50's and enjoy going out en femme pretty much on a weekly basis. I don't enjoy clubs whether en femme or en homme and I can't get to the equivalent of Tri-ess meetings in Australia.

Depending on the amount of time I have and the time of day, I might go shopping, to a restaurant or devise some other excursion. The majority of time it is by myself although I have now a few friends who are not CDers. It just is great to get out dressed and experiencing "normal" life.

Michelle (Oz)

Mitzi
10-02-2007, 12:02 PM
My wife is very hostile towards my dressing, and rarely spends more than a few hours away from home, so going out as Mitzi has constraints.

When the opportunity arises, I'll dress and go to Carla's (http://www.carlas.com) in San Jose and meet with whomever gurls are there. I also go shopping occasionally en femme.

I've always looked much younger than my age, both as a male and female, so even in my 60's (when I had more freedom to dress) I used to go to tg clubs to ogle and be ogled:D.

Now, if I had the chance, I'd probably still go to clubs, just for the rush, but no longer with any illusions of being ogled:(.

Mitzi

Billijo49504
10-02-2007, 08:13 PM
Well today I went to Lane Bryant and tried on some dress slacks, bought 2 pair, went to VS to pay my bill, 2 grocery stores, the first didn't have one thing I wanted. Then it was off to the hobby shop for some RC car parts. And on the way home, I stoped to get a bottle of elixer of life (booze). :drink: Oppps! I forgot I went to Good Will to get 3 pair of pants for my new, part time job, if I get it. I had on white tennies, black capries, a raspberry hoodie and my wig. I wear panties because I want to and a bra because I should, for support. Not one problem. Oh, by the way, I'm 60 yrs young....BJ

krisinpink
10-02-2007, 08:20 PM
I'm 41 and would like to join in on a quiet evening with wine and cheese, AND I'd like to try clubbing sometime too!

Charleen
10-02-2007, 08:49 PM
I'm a widow and 59. Went out today in light makeup, ladies enbroidered jeans, polished nails, lovely blouse, and sneaks. Went to Wallyworld, then to Payless where I tried on a darling pair of short boots with a 3" heel. The SA said they looked great, and that a full mirror was in the back. When I paid for them, she asked if I wanted a handbag to go with the boots. I declined. Went food shopping after wearing my new boots. No problem.

sterling12
10-02-2007, 09:40 PM
Well, I'm 57 and as a lot of you know, I'm pretty active with my Tri-Ess Groups.

Sometimes a few of us will go to a straight club, sometimes we go someplace like The Parliament House, or Peppers. (definitely not straight) Sometimes we just go for coffee afterwords.

The nice thing about it, no member is forced to go anywhere. Some just go home, after the meeting. Sometimes they just have a discussion in someone's motel room. Actually there's quite a bit of variety.

Age doesn't seem to be the determinant for after meeting activities. Has a lot more to do with mind-set and your sense of adventure. I think, Your just about as old as you feel. So as usual, I suggest to everyone, go find a Group and try it. You have nothing to lose, maybe a lot to gain.

Peace and Love, Joanie

Lori SC
10-02-2007, 10:21 PM
Mary, You just need to find the right group of friends.

My Tri-Ess group (Sigma Epsilon) does a weekend meeting where we all meet in the hotel room for discussion, usually have an afternoon activity (besides shopping) and a nice dinner where we can talk. Those so inclined, go clubbing in the evening. The best of all worlds. (And the wives participate to some degree).

I know quite a few CDs who do just what you suggest - inviting others to their house for dinner or drinks. But where do you find them?

A big city is a good place to start, but CDs are everywhere, you just need to look. A local TG group may be a good place to find some local people. I'm sure there are other nearby who want to do the quiet evening (As well as other who want to go clubbing).

You just have to organize it - It won't happen if you wait for someone else to do it.

Hugs, Lori

Glenda58
10-02-2007, 10:52 PM
I don't go clubbing. But I find many things to do. Going to the movies A casino
the theater. Meet someone from the forum go to dinner. Go golfing, biking go to a wine tasting. Open the paper there are many things to do. Go to a Cider Mill. BTW I'm 60