When I'm dead and gone

[annekathleen]

Ever wonder what your family is gonna think when they have to go through your closets, your dresser drawers, and your cedar chests when you're dead and gone???? Not that I'm planning on going anywhere for a long long time, but someday, someone is going to discover my hidden treasures. Are they going to think:
A) Dad was a crossdresser
B) Dad had a huge collection of bras and panties and womens clothing belonging to himself?
C) Dad must have had a lot of ex girlfriends who must have left alot of clothes behind after they split up and they moved out
D) Is it just a coincidence that all of the sizes of all of the clothing just so happen to be Dad's sizes?
E) What about all the shoes, boots, high heels??? They're Dad's sizes too!
F) What about the breast forms in the dresser, and the wigs hidden in the closet? We didn't know that any of Dad's girlfriends wore wigs or if any one them may have had mastectomys or were just plain flat chested.

Do any of you plan to purge your possessions before you die?
Do any of you have any arrangement with any friends to get rid of all of this stuff before the family members discover all of it?

[Ruth]

It's my ambition that all my family circle will eventually know about me, so disposing of my personal effects will be no problem. It is definitely not a secret I would wish to take to my grave.

[Shadeauxmarie]

You can care what people think or you can be dead. You can't do both.

[angelfire]

I'm out to my parents already, so it shouldn't be a huge shock. All though some stuff might be. :eek:

[Deborah Jane]

I,m going to put provision in my will to have it all buried with me!!...We don,t know what comes next, but at least i,ll have something nice to wear!!

[Julie York]

I thought of this.

There's a lot of things I wouldn't want anyone to see or read when I died. Maybe someone should start a company and if they don't have a call from you for 3 days they go round and clear the place out.

There was a joke on a Brit Sitcom and this guy said "He's my porn buddy". When he came to explain himself he meant if he died suddenly, his "Porn Buddy" would go to his place and clear out the magazines before his Mother found them.:D

What we need is a Panty Buddy?


:D:D

[Marla S]

In case I am insecure whether I fear to get "caught", the item has to go or my fear.
Those who know me, even when I am not completely out to them, shouldn't be too surprised finding the one or other non-male item.

[Lisa Golightly]

Everyone knows, but in my early days I had a pact with a friend that they'd clear my place before the family arrived.

[charllote34]

im not bothered when im gone its the living bit im making the most of!

[Claire3]

When your gone,your gone.What the hell(No pun intended).

[Michelle04240]

If I live to see 100 (my plan :P) I don't think my dressing will be much a part of my daily routine. If it should happen before that? I'm not gonna be in the mood to care what others are thinking.

[Marlena-4now]

I think we should all try to care and agonise less about others opinions of what we do. It's our life and we do no one any harm so I wouldn't worry yourself about it ?!
However, being older and more of a risk taker I have no doubt I'll go before my SO and I'm sure she will be glad to chuck the stash in the event....

[BarbaraTalbot]

I am assuming that Dee would just merge the two wardrobes. If we both went, hmmm there is the matter of the bedside drawer.....maybe a self destruct sequence is needed....

[angelfire]

hmmm there is the matter of the bedside drawer.....maybe a self destruct sequence is needed....

Also what I am currently more concerned with. The clothes my parents expect. The little surprise there, Nobody is ready for. :eek:

[serinalynn]

My wife knows I crossdress, so I believe it won't be a shock for her when i die. My son and daughter also know I crossdress so they will be prepared also. beyond that It doesn't matter. My wife tells me when there are sales at Lane Bryant Stores and lets me go buy something for my self. I suppose I have as much womens clothing as she does.:devil:

[Joy Carter]

Although no one knows except for my lovely wife, I'm not embarrassed in the least about being transgendered. Why ? Because when this stuff is found I'll be dead. :rolleyes:

[LilSissyStevie]

Never mind the clothes. Wait till they see what's in the toy chest!!! Oh my!!:devil:

[trannie T]

This is one reason I came out to my brother this year. Now if I die before he does he will not be surprised. It was also fun telling him, I find it still entertaining to play with his head.

[shauna 9]

When your gone,your gone.

[Tina Dixon]

I just wonder whos going to haul the s##t back to the salvation army?

[Angie G]

I think I'll let them find the stuff :hugs:
Angie

[docrobbysherry]

Most people prepare wills to avoid problems for their children. I've done that. However, I AM concerned about the rooms full of ladies gear my kid's will find if my plane crashes.
I wonder if my estate attorney would agree to storing it in her garage when I'm off on holidays?
RS

When your gone,your gone.

[KarenSusan]

Do any of you plan to purge your possessions before you die?

I probably will if I have time, i.e. diagnosed terminal.

[Jazzmine]

tranny T that is funny, I like it!

I will be so brassed off that I'm dead I don't think I'll have time to worry about the femme clothes!
If I'm really old they'll just think I've gone bonkers and forgotten I'm a man.
Actually if you die over 100 years old there's probably no one round that you still know anyway so why worry?
HUgs Jazzmine

[Jonnie B]

Yes, that does worry me a bit. Still fit at 74 but if one is run over by a bus no forward planning is possible.

Would definately be

A) Dad was a crossdresser
or
B) Dad had a huge collection of bras and panties and womens clothing belonging to himself?

None of the others.

[Andi]

I am assuming that Dee would just merge the two wardrobes. If we both went, hmmm there is the matter of the bedside drawer.....maybe a self destruct sequence is needed....


Dying is easy, living is the tough one. But what's with the bedside drawer?? I don't have one, should I get one? What part of CDing am I missing?? So much to learn, so little time left! :heehee:

[Annesah]

On that day, or shortly thereafter, I have instructed my sister to donate everything to charity. Charity, providing she is my size, will be pleased! :D

[Charleen]

At some point I'm going to tell my son. He has alot of stuff going on in his life right now, so I ain't going to spring the fact of Lily on him. What I have done in the mean time is put a copy of "Why we dress" from the Central Florida chapter of Tri-ess in my dainty draw.

[Ðarissa]

I think I'm more worried about all the raunchy sexual drawings I made and have stashed, than my collection of feminine stuffs. Oh well, guess somebody is going have an eyefull when I do the dirt nap. Besides you could be tits up tomorrow, it's not likely you'll know your time is up and will have time to get rid of your stuff beforehand.

[Kim_Bitzflick]

Except for my wig & breast forms, all my stuff can fit my wife, so no big deal. But even if they figure it out - I'm DEAD. What can they say to me?

[WendyCD]

My dad died suddenly and unexpectedly when he was 63 a few years ago - I was early 40's. I CD'd since I was a kid and I know he knew a little about it... careless borrowing of other's clothes, stuff I may have left behind when I went off to college. NEVER a word between us, except some opinions expressed when CDing was a topic on TV, media or comments (questioning, not critical) on something androgynous I may have worn.

I didn't know he CD'd until we cleaned out his basement - a stash behind the wall!!

I didn't dwell on it - with myself, wife, siblings... It was his personal space, that he chose to keep private. This new knowlege really changed nothing about how I felt about him...And, hard to explain, I consider CDing to be an earthly pleasure (or, to those with perspectives different than my own...sins of the flesh (?)) and not relevant to the spiritual.

And, surprisingly, not even relevant to my own personal space, er, closet...:straightface:mmm, did that come out right?

Sometimes when I'm not as careful as I should be with my personal items, I wonder what would happen if I died...Hopefully I'd get the same respect.

[Wendy me]

i never thought of doing this ... if i get lucky i won't have to my wife might come around to my dressing ....

we had a group of people that had a clean out pact if some thing should go wrong .... was not abought dressing ..... not telling ether lol..........

[Paula Wilder]

I keep all my things out of the house in a u-store facility between my home and work, for about $27 a month. I don't have my home address or phone on their records, and I've told them if I don't pay my bill for a couple of months they can sell or donate the contents of my stash - problem solved, I think. Unless they search my male name which is on the account, there is no way for them to come in contact with any of my family if I "disappear".

[dann]

Well being that i'll live forever this may be irrelevant but....when i die i really hope that somewhere during the funeral proceedings the fact that I am a crossdresser is acknowledged. Maybe like in one of those picture collections we often put up for our loved ones when they pass on.Even if it were something subtle that the untrained eye might not be immediatly aware of.

I know this would be really hard for my wife, but it is a part of who I am....or in the situation, who i was......oh...how morbid!:eek:

as for finding my stash...well I don't know nor do i really care, i'll be dead. my Grandfather was a CD who suddenly died alone in his apartment one day of heart failure. For years and years me and my fellow grandkids would go snooping through his stuff when he wasn't the wiser. Things were always there.(ofcourse, unkown to the other kids, even at the tender age, i had a pretty good understanding of what was going on)However, the day after he died and we went in to start getting his things together it was all gone. And we were the first one's there since he had died.Who knows, maybe even at his age of 84, he was still suseptible to bouts of purging and his death caught him in that moment.It was never really discussed in the family if Grandpa had ever came out as a CD or if it were just one of those things that everyone in the family knows but never says anything about and lives in denial over for whatever reason........
damn..I miss Grandpa.
Good topic.it's got me thinking.

[Carol Panty]

Getting older here, and yes I do think about it often. I do not want to purge again, done that way to often....so it will be a surprise, but likely not totally to those close to me...but I do hope I have the will to come out completely to those close to me well before then.