Brianna Lovely
10-08-2007, 07:29 PM
I've just been looking at a number of threads discussing various things like presentation and acceptance.
This brought up an interesting thought. Although I'm out every day in fem clothing, I'm not always presenting as a woman. And even though I'm out in the daytime, doing normal things, I very seldom get a comment from the general public.
I also go to a number of Gay venues, not because I'm Gay, but because I feel more at ease with GLBT people, perhaps I think they're more accepting of my being a TG person. That being said, and adding,
that I've been with "small" groups of thirty people to large groups of several hundred, I've analyzed my own observations, and here they are.
Now, I'm only using Gay Men as an example, but feel this could apply to any group of people.
If I walk into a room, in my semi-fem mode (skirt, fem top, light jewelry, nails done, lipstick and carrying a purse), out of ten men, the general reaction is this.
Four out of ten, look at me, but seem to pay no attention and carry on with what they were doing.
Two out of ten, look at me and seem to show disapproval. (I feel negative vibes from them).
Two smile and maybe wave.
One will actually say something like "Love your nails".
And one will say "Hello, Honey" or "Hello, Sweetie", with a genuine smile and a feeling of warmth.
So, I wonder, is my perception of "Gay" people's reactions, really any different then any CD's perception of "social acceptance" from the general public?
This brought up an interesting thought. Although I'm out every day in fem clothing, I'm not always presenting as a woman. And even though I'm out in the daytime, doing normal things, I very seldom get a comment from the general public.
I also go to a number of Gay venues, not because I'm Gay, but because I feel more at ease with GLBT people, perhaps I think they're more accepting of my being a TG person. That being said, and adding,
that I've been with "small" groups of thirty people to large groups of several hundred, I've analyzed my own observations, and here they are.
Now, I'm only using Gay Men as an example, but feel this could apply to any group of people.
If I walk into a room, in my semi-fem mode (skirt, fem top, light jewelry, nails done, lipstick and carrying a purse), out of ten men, the general reaction is this.
Four out of ten, look at me, but seem to pay no attention and carry on with what they were doing.
Two out of ten, look at me and seem to show disapproval. (I feel negative vibes from them).
Two smile and maybe wave.
One will actually say something like "Love your nails".
And one will say "Hello, Honey" or "Hello, Sweetie", with a genuine smile and a feeling of warmth.
So, I wonder, is my perception of "Gay" people's reactions, really any different then any CD's perception of "social acceptance" from the general public?