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Delilah
10-11-2007, 09:03 PM
Hi girls! Right now I am having mixed feelings about wearing panties and nylons. I want to do it, but my wife will blow her top if she finds out. So for now, I will have to do it when she is not home. I am 58 years old. I have worn nylons around her in the past, but only about once a year. I am getting ready to order some panties. Thank goodness I have places to hide them from her. Have any of you been in a similar situation? I don't know if I will ever go the whole route. I especially like the feel on nylons and undies. Thanks for reading my post.


Delilah

Laurengrl01
10-11-2007, 09:31 PM
^ I'm there Delilah. I have been doing the same for the past 24 years of marriage. I wish we had discussed this long ago(like B4 marriage)... now I'm just trying to find a way to let her in on this (no easy way; I think she would also "blow her top"), because I'm tired of skulking around and she deserves better. Great joy and great pain, all at the same time. Best wishes.
- Lauren

Billijo49504
10-11-2007, 09:49 PM
Nope!!!! I have worn lingerie since I was a youngster. Give ita try. Here is the place...

Ðarissa
10-11-2007, 10:22 PM
The hiding and skulking stuff must be a drag (from the wife I mean and I'm not married). I've decided quite awhile ago that any potential GF will be told about my CD'ing. I've already told a couple ladies and one was actually into it but she had other issues. heh. I don't think I could do the skulking thing at all.

annekathleen
10-11-2007, 10:25 PM
I've always worn panties and sometimes stockings around the wife, and she never knew. Sometimes I'd put them on after she left for work, Sometimes I took them off before she came home, Sometimes before I went to bed, I would used the bathroom and change into my male underwear and conceal my panties in my pants pockets. A lot of us wear panties without the knowledge of our significant others!

Sarah Plumber
10-12-2007, 04:31 AM
Whoa...

Sounds just like me!
I've been buying, stashing and hiding for the last 15 years. Every so often my good lady would find the stash go loopy and it would all go in the bin. Then I'd rebuild and the same would happen all over again. We are now in the situation where she finds something, bins it and then gives me the cold shoulder for a while until she finally admits " I found some more"......then we geet on with life.

I've been trying very hard to make her understand for the last few weeks. All I get is "I can't live with it in my life". I try to be very honest and that just makes it worse.

I do the same thing with the bathroom, wait until she's up and about to get dressed. I've got hiding places all over the house and it makes me feel a little sick to think I have to do this to her. I just can't help it.....as you may well appreciate....

rustynail
10-12-2007, 04:54 AM
I too have been into feminine lingerie all the 25 years of my marriage so far. At first I used to purge from time to time and she discovered the some items. Eventually she realised that this "addiction" was not going away. She does not like it but now i keep all my slips, panties, bras, suspender belts, stockings, camisoles and bodies etc in 2 wide drawers of our chest of drawers. i have far more then I used to have. I even sell stuff on e-bay (without her knowledge i hope)

Deborah Jane
10-12-2007, 05:01 AM
I used to hide everything, but since my wife and i split up i wear what i want when i want!! When i meet somebody new, i shall tell her before things get too serious!!

newtothelife
10-12-2007, 06:14 AM
I guess I'm one of the lucky ones, My wife knows and understands. I do not have to hide anything from her. I try to keep it toned back so as not to abuse the trust or the support she has shown for my dressing. Mine found out the hard way about my cding. She came home early and caught me in her lingerie. We talked and she covered all the normal questions. After these discussions I no longer hide it from her , I just don't throw it in her face either. Every once in a while she will even include it in our lives together. Those are the days a realize just how special she is and how lucky I am to have her.

Michelle 51
10-12-2007, 10:42 AM
Delilah I think you'll find most of the married one's on here have been where your at.I started with panties and nylons sometimes when we made love and now when we're alone i wear a skirt and heels around the house.I also wear panties to bed and under my pants when i go out.She has trouble understanding why i do it but she teases me now in a loving way and we laugh about it.She just after 33 years wonders why i want to wear dresses.I tell her when i understand why i'll tell her also. Justabit

Jilmac
10-12-2007, 02:26 PM
i had to hide everything from my wife and kids for years. now that i'm an empty nester and widower, i don't have to hide anything anymore. i miss my wife but now i am able to dress without fear of consequences.

charlie
10-12-2007, 02:47 PM
Hi girls! Right now I am having mixed feelings about wearing panties and nylons. I want to do it, but my wife will blow her top if she finds out. So for now, I will have to do it when she is not home. I am 58 years old. I have worn nylons around her in the past, but only about once a year. I am getting ready to order some panties. Thank goodness I have places to hide them from her. Have any of you been in a similar situation? I don't know if I will ever go the whole route. I especially like the feel on nylons and undies. Thanks for reading my post.


Delilah

Hello Delilah!
Yes I have been there. I used to buy a few undies, wear them, pull on nylons and then throw the stuff away so I would not get caught. Then I found a short skirt at a Thrift store. That over black nylons (can't shave my legs) took me to another relm. I then would go to the Thrift store and buy whole outfits. Wear them a bit and toss them. The last was a pair of high heels! Heels and hose are fantastic. I could only find a women's size 10 at the Thrift store, way to small for size 10 mens. So I bought the black heels anyway, cut the sides at the toe away and used black electrical tape to fashion the bottom part of the shoe. Try it Delilah. Heels, a skirt and nylons feel and look great great!

Angie G
10-12-2007, 04:07 PM
At one time I was now the wife knows and I dress 5 day a week and when not at work I'm in panties 7 days a week :hugs:
Angie

Eugenie
10-12-2007, 04:08 PM
Hi girls! Right now I am having mixed feelings about wearing panties and nylons. I want to do it, but my wife will blow her top if she finds out. So for now, I will have to do it when she is not home. I am 58 years old. I have worn nylons around her in the past, but only about once a year. I am getting ready to order some panties. Thank goodness I have places to hide them from her. Have any of you been in a similar situation? I don't know if I will ever go the whole route. I especially like the feel on nylons and undies. Thanks for reading my post.
Delilah

Hi Delilah,

Indeed many members of this forum have been through this phase of being excited while wearing nice lingerie and nylons. Many still feel that way, even though many have also evolved towards a different and broader interest in women clothes.

From what you are writting, you seem to be just starting on this lingerie interest. It is never too late :heehee: I'm sure you will enjoy it...

Now, with regard to your wife's reaction, it isn't sure that she will react as negatively as you think. Most wives are very upset when they discover that their husband has been x-dressing for years without telling them. It is often the hidding that is most source for grief. They have the feeling of having been cheated on... Of course many wives dislike the fact that their husband is X-dressing, but hiding it behind their back is even more a source of resentment.

This is not your case, if I understand well. So there is only one cause for her being discontent, at least with regard to wearing undies and nylons...

I don't know how your wife is with regard to "kinky intimate relations" but if she is ready for some experience you might discuss the theme of fetishism and say that you have a fantasy with wearing lacy undewear and nylons. After all, between consenting adults there is no harm in having some fun...

Of course if she is not too interested in "games" forget it...

But one thing is for sure, hidding yourself is always a risky position... If she discovers by herself, then she will really be mad at you. Don't forget women's sixth sense...

Well, I'm not in your shoes...

Good luck for your future...

:hugs:
Eugenie

Shelly Preston
10-12-2007, 04:17 PM
Hi Delilah

Just to add to what Eugenie has said

Please be prepared to tell her if she does find out so try to at least think

about what you will say should you get caught

Delilah
10-12-2007, 07:52 PM
Thank you all for your replies. This weekend I am going to order some panties and nylons. I just about had the courage to talk to the wife about it. It just didn't seem the right time. She wasn't in the best of moods. I think I am going to order a couple pair of Nancy King breifs and a couple pair of thigh high nylons. If you have any suggestions on what type to get, please let me know. The softer and silkier - the better. Mens underwear is so boring.


Delilah

Delilah
10-14-2007, 11:50 AM
I just ordered 3 pairs of chiffon panties. I guess I will have to hide them for now. She has let me wear pantyhose when it gets cold as my legs ache without them. I almost discussed it with her last night, but decided against it. We are empty nesters and have the grand kids over night once and awhile. Women can get away with wearing men's clothes, why can't men wearing women's clothes be accepted? I don't know if I will do the "whole" enfemme make over. My arms and back have a lot of hair. I would like to get a nice soft silky nightie or pajamas and sleep in those. For right now, I will just take one step at at time. Delilah

serinalynn
10-14-2007, 12:06 PM
Well, Ladies, my wife knows i CD and usually lets me wear what I like. She and I talk about it a lot and she knows what I have and I don't have to hide anything. Talking about it with your wife of SO may not be a bad thing. My wife was against it in the beginning, but has to some extent come around and be tollerant of my crossdressing. She know that I will not embarass her or us while out in public and that there are some places I won't go in womens clothing. My wife told me that I have as much womens clothing as she has.

Deanna2
10-16-2007, 01:52 AM
I don't have jocks or socks. So it has to be panties and pantyhose.

Claire3
10-16-2007, 03:21 AM
Pantyhose and tights are how it started out for me,ive progressed somewhat since those early years and im so glad i have

Delilah
10-16-2007, 04:16 PM
I discovered my size for clothing is that of my wife's. Today, I ordered pantyhose, 2 tops and a sweater. She is aware I placed the order and hopefully we can share these clothes. I am getting very close to telling her about me. The thing with makeup, is not in my plans at this time, nor will I leave the house enfemme. If I went that route, I would have to buy a wig because my head is follicly impaired - you know, almost bald! They say bald is beautiful, but in my case, I would just scare people away! :heehee: Like I said I have had the desire to wear lingere for quite sometime. I don't think it will be a sexual thing for me, just a stress reliever. The feel of the soft silky material is what I am looking forward to. I read the posts concerning wearing hose and decided to go with panties and then pantyhose. I wear jeans on the job and hopefully I won't be discovered with what I am wearing underneath. Kind of looks like I have changed my mind as far as just panties and nylons. Not into Bras yet. Trying to take this slowly.

Delilah

Carol Panty
10-16-2007, 05:13 PM
We are living similar worlds,,about the only difference is that I am 59. I understand your needs and feelings completely. I find myself feeling even more feminine as I age, so I think I will just have to come out to my wife soon...wish me luck....

Mona
10-16-2007, 05:42 PM
I used to have to hide my panties and thigh highs and only got to wear them when she was gone. Now I'm divorced and a lot freer!

Delilah
10-16-2007, 06:07 PM
Thanks for the comments. I hope what I am going through doesn't change our relationship. Hopefully it will make us closer. I like clothes that are silky and smooth. I just wish that clothing manufacturers would make more men's clothing that feel this way. Unfortunately they do not.

Delilah

xxx.sabrina
10-16-2007, 07:09 PM
From my own experience, I must say that telling her about it and having her freak out a little is a lot better than having her find the stuff and wonder if you are having an affair... she may employ the logic of "If they are his, then why is he hiding them from me?" and then you are under constant suspicion.

Imelda
10-16-2007, 08:07 PM
I used to hide nylons and slips from my wife one haloween I had the Idea to dress up I told her what I wanted to do and she agreed .I told her I got some stuff from the thrift store witch I allready had and bought some new pantyhose pretended I did not know how to put them on It was really fun I told her It really turned me on so she would go for it once in a while that way when I get caught i say I was thinking of you LOL years later we split up and now I can dress anny time I want so dont worry you know you love wearing pantyhose and jacjing off so either way you are good to go I am very happy now and have about 30 pair of heels of some sort hard to hide you know so be yourself and do not worry about what others thing make yourself happy . do it now .

Imelda
10-16-2007, 08:10 PM
Aint that right jonnie B

Delilah
10-20-2007, 08:45 PM
I bought the wife 2 tops from JMS. She informed that one of them probably will not fit her. I told her no problem - that I would wear it. It is sexy looking with sheer sleeves and is burgandy in color. She remarked that she couldn't wait to see me in it. Here's keeping my fingers and toes crossed that she will accept my crossdressing and be a part of it. We do share one common hobby, hopefully this "new hobby" will be another one we can share.

Delilah

Alice B
10-20-2007, 08:52 PM
I am lucky. I wear nothing but panties and wear nylons whenever it is cool enough. My wife is OK with this and has no problems when I buy new ones. Also wear sexey nighties to bed every night. She still does not want to see me fully dressed, but that's OK for now. Are you sure your wife does not suspect anything. often they know a great deal more than we think.:happy:

Delilah
10-20-2007, 09:08 PM
I don't think she suspects anything - I could be wrong. She knows that I wouldn't fool around on her. I had a stroke 9 years ago and my sex drive has diminshed to almost nothing, due to the medications I am on. Viagra doesn't work for me. She has been very understanding. When I do tell her about my desire to CD, I will also let her know it is not a sexual thing to get me aroused. I just enjoy the softness and silkiness of women's clothing. I will know when that blouse arrives and I put it on what her reaction will be. I am hoping she will be accepting towards me. Most of her clothes will fit me. She doesn't go for nylon/chiffon panties as I do, so wearing her panties (cotton - yuk!) is out of the question for me. She does like silky robes, so I hope to start wearing them to bed along with panties and nylons. My legs ache in the winter due to the cold weather in the midwest and my doctor even suggested that I wear support pantyhose to help alleviate the pain. So, she does accept that. I am hoping she will accept the rest.

Delilah

Ashly
10-21-2007, 09:24 AM
...every day for the last 60 years..joking..guess 50 years ;)
Everybody in my family knows about it..never had to hide a thing..or better..I didn't want to hide ..so I told everybody who wanted to know why I like to wear skirts.

Delilah
10-22-2007, 05:57 PM
My panties and pantyhose came today. I have the panties on and after dinner, I am going to slip my panyhose on. The panties sure feel good and I cant wait for for the pantyhose to be put on.

Delilah

Scotty
10-22-2007, 06:20 PM
Well here's one that takes me back in time - LOL LONG ago in a galaxy far far away!

I wore my wife's garments.....but I was scared at the time. Keep in mind this is 15 years ago too.....I was 25....always wore them when she wasn't home.
She was large breasted and I was flat as a board.....it was curious...
She would not have tolerated it. I would have had to come up with an excuse and lie..

Funny thing is I wore my g/f's bra in college too....looking back I can see where I did this with almost every g/f too. Only with one was it her idea and she was cool with it.......she ENJOYED IT. So if you don't have a wife like that - you're gonna have to hide it.

Tough call.

I guess being single is easier for this.

Delilah
10-22-2007, 06:31 PM
Scotty, for the moment, I am going to have to do it when she is upstairs. My computer is in the basement. I just put my pantyhose on and they really feel good on my legs. As I have said in other posts, I have circulation problems with my legs and my doctor has told me to wear support hose. I have panties on and then panyhose. Had a little trouble getting the pantyhose on. I might end up changing to support thigh highs or get a garter belt to hold support stockings up. Any suggestions gurls on which brands and which way to go?

Delilah

Twyla
10-26-2007, 03:45 PM
I used to hide everything, but since my wife and i split up i wear what i want when i want!! When i meet somebody new, i shall tell her before things get too serious!!

This is the most honest way to go but I have the feeling that it will lead nowhere. Most women don't understand CD but accept it only for the sake of a good relationship. If you tell her about you CD before things get too serious, chances are that they will never get that way.

Ðarissa
10-26-2007, 04:29 PM
This is the most honest way to go but I have the feeling that it will lead nowhere. Most women don't understand CD but accept it only for the sake of a good relationship. If you tell her about you CD before things get too serious, chances are that they will never get that way.This is my approach as well, to let the person know before anything serious and if it means no SA for me, then so be it.

*walks away whistling Green Day's Boulevard Of Broken Dreams*

:whistling:My shadow's the only one that walks beside me.
My shallow heart's the only thing that's beating.
Sometimes I wish someone out there will find me.
'Til then I walk alone.:whistling:

Patti Girl
10-27-2007, 06:37 AM
I guess I started with skimpy men's briefs and thongs which my EX didn't really care for. I also occassionally had something more feminine which I hide and pitched so as to avoid problems.

When I met my current wife, I was upfront very early on. She liked me in tight underwear and that eventually evolved into full crossdressing, which she likes. Often she will come home from the store with some new clothes for "Patti" :) Eventually, she gave away all my male underwear.

I'm fortunate not to have to hide anything and to have full support from my wife.

Patti