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Heather_Marie
10-13-2007, 11:14 AM
So I have a question for all you gals.

It goes something like this. Have you ever wondered what makes us tick?
Is it the fact we just enjoy wearing women’s cloths? Or is there something more to it than that?

For an example do we make to much estrogen? Or could it be we have too much of one chemical and not enough of another chemical?

I have always in the back of my head though of this it would be interesting to know what it is? However I do not think I will every change I enjoy it too much.

Your thoughts? :happy:

nikki_t
10-13-2007, 11:38 AM
Personally I think every one of us is different and that includes our "wiring". We all seem to do this for different reasons. Just my :2c:

Melinda G
10-13-2007, 11:50 AM
If you find out, let us know.:D

sara_also
10-13-2007, 11:51 AM
Yes I like the feel of all of the wonderful clothes,But I think there is more...
For example. I think I look so much better as a female than as a male.
I also desire to look pretty.
I also desire to feel pretty.
I like to smell better.
I like the better posture.
I like to have hair. ( not much left of my own)
and on and on...........
Just a small part of my motivation..

Marla S
10-13-2007, 11:51 AM
It is certainly not a question of hormones (perhaps testostereone is involved when it gets sexual).

As for other chemicals. A rough guess brings the dopamine based "reward system" of the brain (nucleus accumbens) to mind.
That could be involved when people say it is so relaxing, or I do it in order to relax, or develop some kind of addiction like behaviors (i.e. shoe shopping :D). But this doesn't explain why it is more fun to buy women's shoes :heehee:

Other than that, I agree with nikki.

nikki_t
10-13-2007, 12:17 PM
But this doesn't explain why it is more fun to buy women's shoes :heehee:

I never even contemplated this before. I only have 3 pairs of guys shoes and they seem to last me forever. In fact, I literally hate having to buy guy stuff (such a boring chore) but when it comes to buying girly stuff I just light up. :D

Jill
10-13-2007, 12:19 PM
I remember when I first got online and talked to others like me, the burning question that I wanted to ask before all others is this same question, why do we do it? I was dissapointed to learn that there really seemed to be no real reason or a definite decision that applies to everyone. Everyones case is different, everyone works on different levels.

As a student of psychology, I've read up a little bit on it and invested some thought into it. It definitely has nothing to do with biology or chemicals. An excess of estrogen wouldn't be the cause. Even women who have lots of estrogen hate wearing pantyhose and heels. Some say that men just want to escape the pressures of being masculine and manly all the time. Some say that men want to switch their gender role as a way of taking a break. And some say that it's an addiction.

charlie
10-13-2007, 02:01 PM
So I have a question for all you gals.

It goes something like this. Have you ever wondered what makes us tick?
Is it the fact we just enjoy wearing women’s cloths? Or is there something more to it than that?

For an example do we make to much estrogen? Or could it be we have too much of one chemical and not enough of another chemical?

I have always in the back of my head though of this it would be interesting to know what it is? However I do not think I will every change I enjoy it too much.

Your thoughts? :happy:

I tend to agree with Jill. I think it is an addiction. It is certainly antisocial behavior in the eyes of society, yet we risk the censor of society to do it. It must be an addiction in my case because I think about it often and dress whenever I can!

docrobbysherry
10-13-2007, 02:38 PM
I think Nikki nailed the original question. As for Jill/Charlie's comments. It's gone beyond an addiction for me. Now, it's a COMPULSION!
RS


I tend to agree with Jill. I think it is an addiction. It is certainly antisocial behavior in the eyes of society, yet we risk the censor of society to do it. It must be an addiction in my case because I think about it often and dress whenever I can!

Sasha Anne Meadows
10-13-2007, 03:33 PM
I wear every day comfortable womens clothes most of the time. It just feels much more natural now. I love to feel like a woman but I don't know why, though I am glad to be this way.

Ruth
10-13-2007, 04:01 PM
There are a lot of reasons and I think Jill hit two of them with escaping the pressure and switching over to take a break. That's how I feel anyway. Obviously we do have something else going on, otherwise every man who ever felt under pressure would CD!
I honestly believe we all owe it to ourselves to try and find out something about what causes this in ourselves, but there is no need to try to find a general answer.

trannie T
10-13-2007, 04:40 PM
Why am I a crossdresser? I have no clue.

Genevera
10-13-2007, 04:44 PM
"There are a lot of reasons and I think Jill hit two of them with escaping the pressure and switching over to take a break." Ruth

Funny as it seems the above quoted is true. But why it is so who knows ???
The social and interpersonal ramifications of what we do should cancell out those aspects of crossdressing, yet we continue to do it over and over again, even in the most anti CD situations we still feel the need and somehow manage to do it regardless of the consequences. :bunny:

Yet there is something within us that demands that we do this, thank God for privicy and accepting SO's.

charllote34
10-13-2007, 04:50 PM
Hey its not hormones i promise you i have so musch testostorne im my veins its untrue (dam body hair!) The reason i do this goes back has long as i can remember and personally i am really happy that i do cross dress as i wouldnt want to miss out on this side of me , and if i didnt cross dress i wouldnt have met you wonderful people who have helped me through a very difficult time in my life x x

battybattybats
10-13-2007, 05:05 PM
It's definately not addiction. The word is seriously misused. For example there is no such thing as internet addiction, porn addiction or sex addiction either (according to the Australian Radio National psychology program All in the Mind discussion on the subject some weeks ago). Those are actually problamatic deferment behaviours caused by other problems such as depression, shyness and others.

Just as sexuality is not an addiction but a natural drive so to is gender expression according to current research.

It would be good to know the cause, however most things in science are at best vague and incomplete answers.. broad directions with much still to learn and understand.

So what is important to know?
Is it wrong.
We already have the answer to that question thanks to philosophy.
No it is not.

We will never have a complete answer. If you feel driven to find more of an answer then by all means participate in, run or help fund the research. I'd be interested to know to.

But at the end of the day we will have to make do with what answers we have. We will have to accept the situation as it is right now. Right now there are no cures, no treatments, no 'I told you so' blood tests or brain scans that we can wave in others faces.

Right now the truth is it isn't wrong. It is learning to accept that answer right now that we have to do and if foetal hormone bath theories prove accurate in the future or some other thing is discovered we can sit back and say "Ahhh so that explains it." in a decade or two.

Right now there is just you, an ethical and moral desire, an oppresive and restrictive imoral and unethical but weakening view amongst general society and the things you want to wear.

It's good to fight against tyranny. That alone is a sufficient reason why, a sufficient justification, even if it isn't the main answer.

Maddie Knight
10-13-2007, 05:19 PM
I gave up questioning why a long time ago. Now I just accept that I am who I am and I'm happy with that.

Brianna Lovely
10-13-2007, 06:41 PM
in human evolution.

Woman + Man = Whole Person.

Perhaps, without being aware of it, we are the next link in life's chain.

charlie-50
10-13-2007, 06:53 PM
When i was a young it was purely sexual...but now that im older (and wiser)i realy injoy geting dressed and watching the tube or even going on line...its very relaxing for me now....charlie....:hugs:

Rita B
10-13-2007, 07:59 PM
In my case I truly believe that i have a hormone inbalance. Perhaps it is the result of too many surgeries and antibiotics or whatever, but I have no hair on my legs, very light hair on my arms, and a light beard and no adams apple. Either I am producing too much estrogen or not enough testesterone. Whatever, I always feel femining ( not swishy, just feminine)

Robyn2006
10-13-2007, 08:49 PM
My father was rarely around when I was a kid and I was mostly raised by women, by my mother and two older sisters. So for me, wishing to be femme seemed a completely natural development, though I knew it was "wrong" and hid it completely. My older sister, as I have said in numerous other postings (ad nauseam, I think), was and is just about as gorgeous as any supermodel you could think of. So, what was this boy to do? All I knew was I wanted to be like my sisters, wanted to be able to just go into the bathroom and put on the makeup and become just as beautiful. As for any hormone imbalance factor that led to this desired, I can't say... don't care, really. Just so glad I am now ok with it and so love to be able to be a guilt-free girl!

Robyn
P.S. The attached is not my sister, but close. This just to give you all a sense of who I grew up with...

Billijo49504
10-13-2007, 09:07 PM
For me, I think it's TIMEX, or a pace maker...BJ