My son, now 38, and I met for lunch last month, when he told me he had to come out about something important. He then proceeded to tell me that through the last few years he had gone through much soul searching and came to the conclusion that his religion wasn't working. He went on to explain it wasn't his, but something he was brought up with, and that being an atheist has now made more sense to him.
He drew a long breath and looked to me like a big weight was lifted. I told him that if this is his decision, and I'm fine with it. We talked about it until it seemed he was done with all he had to say about it, and satisfied that I was inclusive and accepting of him.
Then, I asked him if he minded me coming out with something also. He nodded like he was well aware of what I needed to say. So I went on to tell him that my transgender side has never gone away, and that it looks like its here to stay. He then smiled, and said "it's ok dad, I've always known that it's not something that you can NOT quit, because you were born with it and it is a part of you."
That afternoon, we talked at more length about both of our issues, then we parted company and went back with a greater understanding and more love for each other.
