Please buy your own clothing.
Sorry sisters, but I feel I have to post this, I am seeing too many posts from new or relatively new members who are supposed to be adults and they are still STEALING clothing from their mothers or sisters or neighbors, or even their significant others.
This is one of the key reasons that many GG's get upset when we finally come out to them and they find out that we have been wearing their clothing. That is truly the worst invasion of their privacy we could possibly commit. That coupled with the fact that we are keeping a secret from them that is so paramount to who we are as a person just adds fuel to the proverbial fire against them supporting us.
Yes, many of us, if not all, started out borrowing (stealing), clothing from our sisters, or mother when we were young, but once we were able to do so, we purchased our own clothing. I personally have my wifes permission to wear anything of hers that I want as long as she does not plan on wearing it, and visa-versa. We communicate (That is KEY in having a good CD/GG relationship) with each other and know what's on the others mind.
So, Please my young sister CD's, buy your own clothing and make-up to wear. Leave their things alone.
Kandis:love::rose2:
Stealing Clothing.........oh Give Me A Break.
Most Cd's who first got dressed did not run off to wal mart to buy a whole new wardrobe, we got the start from wearing clothes from some woman who we live with in the house....I did.... we did not want any one to know what we were doing behind close door and we just had a curiosity.
As time pass we started to feel more comfortable about our dressing and start buying or own cloths and yes it is true that GG will get upset about us wearing some of there clothing, but I do not feel at any time that we were STEALING CLOTHING and now that I have my own clothing she dose wear some of my clothing.........and she dose not ask.. is she STEALING CLOTHING.
LA CINDY LOVE
I agree, buy our own, but about the issue itself....
Kandis, when a woman finds out her guy is wearing woman's clothing, there's a whole lot more going on beyond the fact that those clothes are hers. Most women are willing to share pretty much everything of theirs with their man, clothes notwithstanding. The very idea that borrowing her bra would make her feel 'violated', well, I think that's a load of crap. Women share their clothing with other women at the drop of a hat. Their dresses, their shoes, their bathing suits, even panties if for some reason a girlfriend's clothes get ruined and she has no alternative, a woman will gladly donate, even give her clothes away if she knows another really desparately needs them. Further, women have absolutely no qualms about borrowing our clothes without asking whenever they see fit. Men's shirts have always been fair game whenever women visit our apartments. They don't ask, they just take. I wear nice cotton long sleeve shirts, and have lost a few over the years that the girls have decided to 'appropriate' for themselves. I lost two XXL sized Knick's sweatshirts to women who also liked the team; did they ask, no; they just came back after a commercial wearing them, saying how nice and warm and comfy they were. And we all know how hard it is to turn down anything to a woman who we know is going to continue make us deliriously happy in the bedroom. I would occasionally find my jackets in the closet with the sleeves all rolled up, knowing that she had been using MY coat rather than get hers dirty when raking up the yard or doing something else that might soil 'her' clothes (and that's no excuse either, she had older stuff she used for other chores). I presented this argument to our therapist when she told me basically the same thing that you did, as to why my ex-wife was so upset. She couldn't argue with me, everything I said was true. It's not about the borrowing of her clothes (unless you are stretching them all out of shape, and it's something special of hers, like her wedding gown), because most of the stuff we'd 'borrow' isn't real expensive (bras and panties are staple items in most women's wardrobes, every girl I've ever known had at least a month's worth). It IS the fact that we're wearing 'girl clothes' that freaks them out; It is a shock; one that is so incomprehensible to her that she will immediately start coming up with all sorts of other reasons why she's angry (you took the pair she wanted to wear tomorrow, you stretched those .99 cent panties all out of shape and she can't replace them, what's hers is hers and what's yours is, oh, yeah, well, oh, that's right, what's yours is hers as well). The very idea that you aren't the man she thought you were leaves her feeling vulnerable like never before, and THAT'S WHAT SHE'S REALLY PISSED ABOUT. She's supposed to be the intuitive one. She's supposed to be the specialist in relationships. The concept that you aren't what she thought you to be is the real insult to her. Not that she'll ever admit it, though. So let's be honest here, and face it; they are upset about us wearing woman's clothing for the purpose of trying to be, or trying to look like women. And that's what it's really all about. We can borrow her brush, her toenail clippers, her hot iron and blow dryer, even her car (and if we get into an accident, yeah, she's upset, but no where near how upset she gets if she finds out we borrowed HER PANTIES...hmmm, a ten dollar item bothers her more than one worth $30,000; now, thats a little peculiar, isn't it). Lets face it, the 'nothing's more personal than my underwear and that's the only reason I'm upset' argument is a little bit of a stretch, no pun intended.