She doesn't want me to shave my chest...
My wife has known for years now, and has generally been okay with it. However, I told her that I wanted to shave my chest just to see how it looks, and she did not like that idea. She says that she loves my chest hairs, there soft and fluffy, and she just cannot bear to part with them. I think my luck has finally run out, whatever am I to do?:doh:
Being divorced and single, I loved shaving it all off.
I can say for us divorced or single dressers that the ability to shave it all off is a blessing. I allows us to be as feminine as we can be. There should be equality in the relationship, many times women make unilateral decisions on how they look without consulting their SO's, us girls have the same right. Personally, I think you can shave your chest or anywhere whenever you want, it is your body, just do it.
It's funny people don't like change or the way things look after a change is made. They get so comfortable with the way it is, that when it changes they instantly don't like it. I suggest that you shave it off, don't tell her and when she see's it and most likely freaks a little, tell her you will keep it shaved for 2 weeks and if she still dislikes it after 2 weeks, you will let it grow back for her, but you need to tell her that you need to do this for you and if she loves you, she will allow the trial shave.
For me, the first time I shaved my chest, it looked odd, very different. But after a week I preferred the fell and look of my shaved chest. Do yourself a 2 week trial shave and I am pretty sure your wife or SO will let you keep it shaved. :battingeyelashes:
Have to disagree with Kimberly :)
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Originally Posted by
Kimberly51
.. many times women make unilateral decisions on how they look without consulting their SO's, ......
and if she loves you, she will allow the trial shave.:
My experience is that women may make a unilateral decision - however it is almost always to enhance or reflect their innate femininity. It is NOT to change their presentation from female to male.
I hate such statements "If she loves you, she will...." sorry that's NOT a measure of love to allow a trial shave.
Could change it around .. "If you love her, you will negotiate a trial" ....
Selfish pursuit of personal goals is fine when you aren't in a relationship. However, in a relationship, in my view, it is about mutual giving and occasional compromise.
I would encourage discussion, negotiation and compromise. I wouldn't sacrifice a relationship on the altar of selfishness.
what does marriage mean to you?
That's the real question. What does the marriage mean and how important is your wife? No one is perfect and we all don't think in the same way. That's why we talk, and that's why marriage requires such hard work.
Personnally, I am very interested about differences in thought patterns between the genders. I really want to understand how to think as a women would when dressed, and I want it to be natural and automatic.
My advice is to ask your wife why this is so important so that you can understand it and her. The more the two of you share these kinds of thoughts and the more she sees you are clearly interested in her opinions and thoughts, the more likely "experiments" like shaving this or that can happen. Tell her that you are really interested since you didn't see it as a big deal and she does. Make it clear that you want to know the emotion behind it...and then don't request it again. I would be surprised if one day she offers to shave you if you'll do something for her...just as a trial :)
just my :2c:
tina