It is Their Choice and Their Path
I can certainly understand an SO who wants to keep a normal relationship. It's easier to associate with family and friends. So why should they want to accept a CD? Are they not your best friend? Don't they walk the same path?
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Jenniferathome
No, this is purely a cross dressers wish. The simple fact is that cross dressing is weird. No woman wants their husband or boyfriend to be weird. We are not "women" and not a "girlfriend." My wife who is totally accepting of my cross dressing and even goes out with me but would prefer I was not a cross dresser. It's a complication that is easier to NOT live with.
Perhaps... But is it really because the public just perceives a CD as weird and so they, the SO, does not want to be perceived as weird by associating with a CD? What would their family and friends think?
Personally... I don't see myself as weird. I'm different and certainly not normal as I'm breaking with gender norms. I'm making a statement with my life that the gender binary is wrong and that may cause some to say I'm weird. That's an issue to some persons.
When I came out and dressed, as I do full time with my mixed presentation, I had one friend who did not want to be seen with me in a skirt. They were afraid of how others would perceive them out in public when I was with them. Over three or four years now this dynamic has improved some what but not completely. I have other friends and family who did not have a problem and I've been with them out in public many times with no problems that I noticed. They acted perfectly natural.
Not everyone, including your SO, wants to come along with you on your path. And for some of us, like myself, we must go down this path. It is not as simple as a fun hobby. It is a need to feel normal and be my true self. That's very hard for a SO or friend to understand when they don't feel the way I feel. And it is certainly devastating that your best friend, your SO, would not want to be a part of this side of you. So yes... we wish we were accepted.
Yes... they are missing out... but that is their choice and what they feel they need to do for their path, even your best friend. Your paths may cross but we never walk the same path because we are all individuals. :)