How Many Are Married and Wife Knows?
I have noticed a lot of postings are done by people who are apparently married and whose wife either doesn't know or doesn't approve. Like the other thread asking how many of our members are gay or straight, I was wondering how many of our members are married and whose wife either:
a) knows and approves;
b) knows but doesn't approve; or
c) doesn't know
about their crossdressing.
sort of got caught, so she is aware...
I am married and sort of got caught--she found my waist nipper corset on the floor of our bedroom--so I confessed to her that I was a transvestite and liked to dress in women's clothes when alone. I think she was very relieved that I wasn't having an affair with another women...actually when you think about ALL crossdressers are having an affair with another women...our fem persona inside. Well, we sat down and talked about it for a short while in which she asked the usual twenty questions. I tried to be honest but I was embarassed but more mad at myself for being careless and getting caught. In retrospect, it was a good thing because it gave me the chance to get my secret out in the open between us.
Since then, like MichelleH, we've adopted a pseudo "don't ask, don't tell". However, on occasion, it comes up and happily in positive ways. She has bought me a few pairs of panties from Victoria's Secrets..."so I won't stretch and ruin hers". I'm allowed to wear her panties when we make love and twice now "she sneaks a pair into my luggage" when I travel (don't really need them since I usually take a full set of lingerie). Don't get me wrong, I appreciate her thoughtfulness and I think is her way of telling me she knows that I'm crossdressing while on the road. I'm also beginning to think she realizes that I do crossdress whenever I'm home alone.
She still has not seen me dressed in anything beyond a pair of panties outside our bedroom time. With her blessing, I want to start wearing panties more often to sleep and around the house. I also would like to let her see me wearing a bra but that may be a bit too much for her still. Some time back, she did mention that she doesn't know if she can handle me wearing anything on top.
I'm excited and rambling so I'll stop. Thank you for listening.
Paula J