Originally Posted by
sarahcsc
Hi ladies,
I'm still lacking in confidence and couldn't make myself go out. Everybody has been very kind to me on the forum by telling me to go out and I get the impression that most of ya'll like the way I look.
You look wonderful and that's the truth. You should have no issue with confidence in how you look if you want to go out.
"What if I see someone I know?"
Do you really think that they would recognize you like this? Unless that's your natural hair and you wear it that way all the time no one would recognize you. I went shopping with a cd friend near her home and she feared that. We entered the mall and withing 2 minutes there was someone she'd known all her life coming towards us and looking right at us. He never suspected a thing...and who would. People don't go about looking at women wondering if they are some guy that they know. The appearance alone triggers something mentally that avoids that comparison.
"what if my wig gets blown away?"
Invest in some double sided wig tape available at any salon. It works great and it will take a tornado to blow your wig off....relax and enjoy the world.
"what if I trip and fell on my heels?"
Don't you think that's happened to women for decades?? Get back up and keep going, it's not the end of the world. If you are unsure on heels wear a lower heel or flats. Women don't wear heels everywhere they go and you don't have to either.
"What if it rains, or I sweat, and ruins my makeup!?"
Carry an umbrella, use your A/C in your car and don't forget, the malls are air conditioned. Don't go to the beach and sunbath, use a sauna, or hot tub. Common sense will help you avoid situations that will affect your makeup.
I've been caught in downpours and gotten my hair soaked. I just head to the ladies room and dry it with some paper towels, brush it out and live with it. It happens to women all the time.
Can anybody suggest baby steps I could take to have a graduated approach to leaving the house?
Go for an evening drive somewhere, anywhere, nowhere...
One foot in front of the other is how I do it.
You don't have to give a speech to a stadium audience your first time out. Just take a walk, a drive, anything. Go to a park for a stroll on a sunny day. Take your camera and look like a tourist. Don't avoid people as that looks odd, just smile and have a great time.