Why tons of M-to-F's and so few F-to-Ms?
If this question hasn't been asked by someone, I'd be VERY surprised!
Why are so many of us males into physically feminizing ourselves to enjoy a sexual/quasi-sexual arousal or to feel "whole" as people...while so very few women (in comparative numbers) have a desire or interest in physically masculinizing themselves?
At this moment, for example, there are 77 people on the M-to-F crossdressing forum and just 1 person on the F-to-M forum. The number of posts are similarly skewed far, far to the "M-to-F" side.
With so many smart, insightful "girls" posting on this internet forum, I can't wait to see if anyone has "the answer!"
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Only the FTMs can say for sure but . . .
I'm pretty sure it's because there ARE fewer FTM's than MTF's. Not to mention that your average woman HAS the freedom to wear male clothing if she wants to, and presumably fewer would feel compelled to seek companionship here.
Kim (Dumb as a box of rocks and trying to sound smart!)
Perhaps for this reason...
Women basically crossdress every time they do not wear feminine clothing and society accepts that. Hence for a woman to wear a men's sports jersey, shirt, pants, shoes, etc. no one says much about it now. But fifty plus years ago it was different. Whatever one says about those days, at least things were consistent: there were men's clothes and women's clothes and one did not wear the clothes of the other. Back then, some women challenged that standard and over time it became accepted for women to wear what was previously considered "men's clothes." I am sure the war helped in that area to no small degree too. But there has been nothing of a similar situation to make these matters consistent -hence you have women who are angered by their boyfriends or husbands wearing feminine clothing but somehow if men acted the same way and insisted that women only wear dresses and the like, the word "discrimination" and other such words would be thrown around.
But because they are not and because it is acceptable to some extent for women in society to "dress like men" but not acceptable for men to "dress like women", that explains the disparity on this site probably as good as anything else. I think we can blame the attitude of many feminists for this: they cultivated the mentality that feminine dress, attitudes, and the like were somehow "demeaning" or constituted a "lesser-class citizen." Look for example at how those sorts treat women who choose to be stay at home sorts and you will see what the problem is.
To some extent a cross-dresser in the eyes of people with that mentality is taking the clothes of a "lesser being" or somehow it is viewed as "demeaning" when men dress in "women's clothes" but not when women dress in "men's clothes." This double standard is implied whenever a cross-dressing woman takes issue with a man for cross-dressing. No one presumes that a cross-dressing woman must be a lesbian (though some of them may well be) but a man who cross-dresses *must* be gay according to these people. Again, an arbitrary double standard.
There are things of value in what is traditionally female, in clothing, in outlooks, etc. Perhaps if cross-dressing becomes uniformally accepted this will be realized but probably not until then (if that even happens at all).
WOW...all wonderful insights into my M-F vs F-M query!
I'm so impressed with most of the 10 replies to my question (thus far). Some of you -- I have to single out mona lisa and Marla S from Germany -- provided nothing short of brilliant insights.
And Tina, Sweet Jane, TxKimberly -- you all make great sense, too. Women can crossdress at will without even raising a ripple; we see entirely unadorned, jeans-and-shirt-wearing women walking around every day.
I suppose a minimum standard for a woman who's a F-to-M might have to expand to include such relative intangibles as classically male personality traits (whatever those are), and a complete lack of interest in feminine clothes/jewelry/cosmetics.
Funny, but women are entirely free to have strong interests in what once were considered the exclusive domain of men: pick-up trucks, cigar smoking, football, target shooting, you name it. At least one of you pointed out how the women's movement opened everything up, and you couldn't be more right.
Thanks for your two cents' worth...it was worth a lot more! :2c:
Most women deep down, wish they were men.
I totally agree with Slendergirl, Mona Lisa. I live in the same house, with a 48 year old gg, who has not put on feminine clthes, since childhood. The only dresses, skirts, lady shoes, hose, and jewelry, are mine! Talk about ROLE REVERSAL!! I remember 1971. That is when the girls were first allowed to wear pants, to my high school. I noticed a definite change, in their attitudes, too, and, it has never been the same! An old 78 year old sage, said, deep down, in the hearts of all women, is at least just a tiny bit, or more, resentfulness ,that they are female, resenting that men are the stronger sex, and heaeds of the home. You may take issue with this, and certainly it is less true, in some gg's. But, it is unmistakable, that gg's tend to usurp male authority, and they HAVE rebelled, and the wearing of men's clothes, and no one says anything, IS a double standard. It is a form of their inner rebellion, even if they don't realize it! Since society says that MTF crossdressing is a perversion, it also should brand FTM crossdressing(though most don't consider it crossdressing), a perversion. Like one said, 50 years ago, it would have been looked on, as very odd, for women to wear men's clothes, and cut their hair short, like a man's. I remember an early Comet commercial, in the early 60's, with a lady plumber in it. It was considered funny. With the feminization of our society, it is still taboo, for guys to dress up, largely, but nothing is said about women dressing in men's clothes, all of the time. A huge double standard. But, it seems, that down through history, the males have always had more expected of them, including to tame the frontier, protect, and lead. J. Edgar Hoover, I heard, was a crossdresser, and he led a powerful FBI, for decades.
