Hi,
When you started to dress when young for how many was it a fetish or for sexual reasons? And as you got older did you girls lose that sexual excitement from dressing? Was it more about the dressing when you got older? Just wondering. :o
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Hi,
When you started to dress when young for how many was it a fetish or for sexual reasons? And as you got older did you girls lose that sexual excitement from dressing? Was it more about the dressing when you got older? Just wondering. :o
I cannot speak for anyone but myself, I started dressing when I hit puberty and it was for sexual reasons. then I got a few years older I realized it was more than the sexual part,it was me connecting with another part of me. Then it was more about the dressing. I would quit for a while,then I couldn't live with myself. I had to dress to satisfy something in me.
I think I was trying to replace the female presence missing so much in my life. As time grew on me I found out the female presence was inside me. Sure I like how I look all dolled up. But I guess it's never been totally a fetish or about sex. I love the girl in the mirror, and I try to be more like her everyday.
I was age 6 or 7 , and wanted to dress like the girls in the neighborhood. I had no ambition to be a girl, I just wanted to look like them. Now I dress as female pretty much most of the time except for work.
I am a firm believer that denial only suppresses feelings, and accentuates things more dramatically as compensation. I think many crossdressers overcompensate in order to achieve a state that they wish they were but aren't.
Nothing excites me or gets my motor running like Sherry does! And, I'm 70.
Sherry, you are a riot. ......10 times better in real person than this forum will ever show.
Cheers!
Love Nathalie
My fascination with wearing makeup and girl's clothes started well before I had any notion of sex (6 years old). When I hit puberty it became sexual, and that is part of why I was unable to come to terms with it. I suppressed for most of my 20s and when I finally broke again I was delighted to find out that it wasn't inherently sexual at all, for me.
At 7.... I don't think I knew what sex or a fetish was....
For me it's always been about the dressing. I've alway liked feeling girly.:hugs:
Angie
Well as I think back I don't think I knew much about sex at the age of four! go figure
Yes for me the excitment was less I still though get a thrill when the makeup starts going on, but mostly it's just a part of well normal but what is that?
Just want to say that it's true, young children are not aware of sexual intercourse or fetishes.
But, they are aware of their own bodies, their sexuality, their gender, and what feels good. As young as 3 to 5 years old. Experimentation continues until full fruition during the teenage years.
http://nsvrc.org/sites/default/files...evelopment.pdf
http://hss.state.ak.us/ocs/Publicati...p-children.pdf
http://kidshealth.org/parent/growth/...__Ages_3_to_5_
This isn't to say that it's sexual for everyone at a preschool age the way it is when older. But it can certainly have roots in sexual awareness at that age.
The OP may not have worded the question clearly (I suppose we can define "young" as toddler or teenager), but for how many of you was it sexual during the teenage years?
I've been dressing ever since I can remember. So no I don't think it was for any sexual needs that young :P I remember not being confused just being very happy, warm and nice feeling when I looked into the mirror and saw a girl staring back c:
I tried to make it sexual at one point. I wanted it to be, I wanted it to be something that was a little easier to explain :P It wasn't, and it still isn't now that I know what I really dress for :)
Reine is right - fetish can and usually does start in early childhood when curiosity and exploration is at its height and long before sex is known about. Then puberty sexualizes whatever activity the child was engaging in and voila, you have a lifelong imprint that can change over time to become an actual lifestyle, or it can remain where it started.
That's not to say this is the case for people here (I know many here are TG) but it's a reality for many people with a fetish. BDSM is considered a lifestyle by some while others just indulge occasionally. Adult Babies are another group that can shift from fetish to lifestyle.
Being the 'vanilla' type married to a kinky guy, I find all this fascinating! :)
The first times I did it I wasn't aware that it was something sexual because I was pretty young, but yes to all three questions.
The sexual aspect of cross-dressing is the big huge pink elephant in the room here.
as a young young kid i'm not sure... i guess i was kind of out of it in terms of WHAT it was when i was that young or experiencing... i was def. later to The Game than most though in terms of coming into sexual feelings ... and then not really dating until much later than most... which kind of makes me feel like it had become sort of a replacement thing for me...
but now i'm stuck with it!
i think my problem is that it is indeed somewhat both... sexual AND lifestyle... i can wear a dress and undies out and be just fine and not turned on really at all but then other times i can be quite turned on! i think it depends on context
having both sides of it is very strange and frustrating... if it was just one side or the other it'd be much easier to deal with! ... maybe i should hope it becomes more just about the dressing as i get older? (then again... maybe not! such fun!)
also yeah... the sexual / fetish side of it IS the big elephant in the room for this place and one of the things that always made me a bit freaked out to post on here... but there's so many awesome issues to discuss with this world that i had to take the plunge... i understand wanting to keep things more civil and pg-rated but it can also be super frustrating to want to talk in a more adult matter about... adult issues!
sorry just had the image of someone then growing into a dinosaur or building block fetish!Quote:
Then puberty sexualizes whatever activity the child was engaging in
I knew from about 5 I had a fetish for certain items, even though I did not know what the condition was called, or why I felt the way I did. By the time I was in my early teens, I knew what it was and could name it. TheMissus was not kidding, this absolutely does happen, at least to some young boys.
However, I felt, almost like it was instinct, it was something to be ashamed of and I had to keep it a secret.
Like most of the girls on this forum I started dressing a little before puberty but I have to say I had a strong attraction to women even before then. Kids seem to be maturing sexually at much earlier ages and I was no exception. Although now dressing satisfies a much deeper part of me I do have to admit there was and still is a very strong sense of sexual satisfaction when I dress. I can only speak for myself but I feel kids have a pretty good understanding of there mind body soul even at a young age. I know I did and the members of the LGBT community that I have had the honor of becoming close friends with had a pretty good understanding even before grade school or even in the peak of development. For them gender identity was never a choice and I feel the same goes for me : )
when i dressed at 6 and begged my mom to let me wear a dress, I am sure I did not have any sexual thoughts. I just wanted to be a girl. But when i hit puberty, my need to dress almost always ended with some sort of a release. But when i got older, it's about feeling like a woman and doing everyday house chores enfemme. It has taken many years of adult life that this is a part of me that I tried to suppress. But now I embrace it and try to be feminine as much as I can to feel whole.
Victoriana, that's about what happened with me. I was primarily a fetish dresser at first, and didn't dress in anything but nightgowns after my first explorations. Then I decided to try an actual dress...and felt differently from when I was wearing my nighties. Not aroused, just happy and content. From that point, I started buying more dresses and other daywear, and building up my femme presentation. Oh, I still like my nightgowns, but they don't arouse me as much anymore, because I have a better picture of myself as a woman now, and am seeing that as an extension of it.
- Amy
Fun, sex and fetish when I was younger.
Still fun and sexy looking when I go to parties.
I enjoy myself then.
Projecting my image as a woman.
For me it was pretty much experimenting when I was in my early teens. Then it progressed over the years to where I found a whole another side of me. There is a girl inside that needed time to find her way out.
The sex part was a by product due to raging hormones. When I started dressing at an early age it was more that I felt it was the thing to do Initially.:battingeyelashes::)
Yes, when I was younger it was a fetish thing for the excitement and danger and forbidden aspects. Of course I began before I knew what any of that was (about 7) so it moved in that direction during puberty. Later on I realized that was not my reason for doing it and found that it was simply to express who I am.
Now there's no longer that feeling, especially since I came out to my wife and have her full acceptance. I dress every day and it's simply to be me. There's no more fetish excitement than any other woman would have getting dressed.
As I started dressing at ages 4-6, all I can say was I was curious then about both the feeling and look of the clothes on me (long tricot nightgowns with lace), and I could imagine myself as a girl. Emotionally role playing gender even then I suppose. Within dressing just a few times the ambivalence set in that I remember and continues to this day.
What started out as curiousity led to 'the' enduring question.
Only in early to mid teens did the sexual component kick in. Even then though, the the 'need' to experience myself as the feminine was the essential driving factor, and remains so to this day some 50 years later.
All I can say is that it has always been about an ongoing emotional and psychological desire with a strong sensual comonent.
Kate
It's always been an arousing experience for me. It never moved away from excitement to, as some say, expressing the "woman in me". I don't have a woman in me, just a guy who likes to dress up occasionally. I've always wondered why such excitmement started way before I had any awareness of sexual feelings.
My urge to be Petra is exiting to me, and more achievable now than it was when i was a teen, due to my financial situation. I think about being Petra every day, and when I be become the girl within, I am all a quiver. I just love the feeling of being a female, but I am a naughty female !!! And my excitement usually gets the better of me by the end of the day. :@)
It's always been a turn on for me also. There has never been a woman in me, only a girly girl who loves the look and feel of nylon and lace against my skin, and the thrill of putting on makeup. The makeup alone can arouse me. Sure wish I could recall my very young days a lot better. Makes me wonder what type of person I would have been without the mellowing effect of crossdressing.
For me it was sexual when i started at least i got sexually excited, but i think it was more then looking back on it, i had a need to dress like a girl, now some 50 years later that need is still there and it is not sexual at all it is relaxing. when i am dressed i feel whole and at peace with my self.
It's always been and still is a big turnon for me too. The sexual part used to be a much bigger part of getting dressed, but now I enjoy being dressed and staying that way for the entire day when I can.
Missus, there is nothing wrong w/ adding a little spice too a marriage. As I've always said, between a man and his wife, homosexuality, does not exist. It is a right, a perk, for a committed couple.
When I first started experimenting wearing women clothes was @ 10ish. Yes, it was sexually stimulating for me and since I didn't know otherwise, I assumed that why I enjoyed dressing. As the years and knowledge piled on, I realized that this "stimulation" was more than a sexual experience, it was a lifestyle, a state of being. The sexual part of it became more of a partial highlight instead of "the highlight" of my dressing experience. I put it on the shelf @ 15 when "other" things started occupying my interests and time. Then @ middle of last year, it hit me like water from a bursted Dam. I wanted to experience it all. Now, it is just another part of me like anything else. It causes an arousal still but, it's more of an inner feelings arousal, if that makes any sense. Just my two bits.:)
It was always about the dressing and there has always been an arousal factor. It is somewhat different now because I am attracted to the girl in the mirror and I have the comfort factor now that I didn't have when I was young. I am accepting of my dressing and who I am and I have a relationship with myself and my wife where as I don't have to feel ashamed
While dressing has morphed into something a little more for me it is still highly sexual. I am a late bloomer and only started dressing 6 years ago.
Victoriana dear..seems u r very young or kinda new to dressing...
Most of us CDs particularly have the same "story"..
I for one started if i remember correctly when i was perhaps 12 or 13..when i sneaked my mom's bra & a slinky scarf into the bathroom & tried it on..thereafter it is once i became independent at about 21/22 yrs when i started getting my own wardrobe..mostly thru garage & Thanksgiving sales..thru out, whenever i dressed, i guess was for sheer sexual delight..and it continues to this day !!
Well there is a diff in the surge of adrenalin rush that i derive now..the urge to be a perfectionist (in my own terms)..I've yet to lose the excitement from dressing, as u put it..n i don't think i'll ever lose that feeling !
I started off just wanting to know what it was like to be feminine. But then puberty... I don't know exactly how long it was mostly a fetish, but probably all my teen years into the 20s. There is still occasionally a little bit of a sexual edge that creeps in from time to time for sure but generally I just like exploring that part of myself more.
Me! (raises hand). I did a little research on this decades ago and what I found may have changed by now, and I'm totally paraphrase what I remember.
"A family member may dress a little boy in some fem clothing to see how cute they will look. Or the child may out of curiosity try on something on his own. At puberty there tends to be a curiosity to repeat the feeling (from years earlier) of wearing female clothing. The result is strong, sexual arousal."
I'm sure this isn't true in every CD's case, but it is in mine. I remember wearing fem articles of clothing a couple of times when I was very young. But I sometimes wonder if there were more instances that I don't remember.
When you are at puberty, breathing is exciting. So many will have dressed at one time or another and felt a sexual charge. I sort of think that some GG do the same early in life (we know they get "over it: quicker than CDs do). But like many above, the idea of dressing was long before sexual feelings. In my case early (teens) I didn't dress as much because, well there were so many other things that were "exciting". Then later after marriage and during college, dressing for sexual purposes increased because it was a quick and easy ...:) But those who continued after that get less and less sexual and more and more internally personal.
Don't recall exactly how young I was, but it started before puberty, before I had any idea what sex or a fetish was.
It has always been about two things, sex and sexuality. Sometimes more of the former, sometimes more of the latter. Just depends.
Regardless of where the pendulum swings between these two, it is always about having fun. If it was not fun, I'd take up fishing or golf ;)
Hugs, Robin
When I first became enamored with "dressing" I did not even know there was such a thing as "fetish"; I just knew that I liked to wear women's clothes and shoes!
As a teenager it was"exciting" but that was not the "why". In fact, I preferred to not have that "excitement". As I grew older
that "excitement" lessened and eventually disappeared. So, I am now able to thoroughly enjoy being en femme!
Funny thing is, this is also common for little girls - we also try on Daddy's shoes and draw on the handlebar moustache and pretend to be doctors or whatever else we are curious about. But we don't have testosterone to then bring back these curious feelings and emotions at puberty (I know I felt great comfort in my father's shoes and jacket for some reason but I never needed to do this past early childhood) so it's rare that a GG will form such a fetish. I mean, we can, but it seems to take more memorable or traumatic experiences to embed something in our sexuality. I think male hormones are just stronger and perhaps it's just easier for a horny boy to 'get off' on props and visuals and even feminine feelings he remembers as a young child.
This, of course, is only relevant for those boys who were typical boys who just felt curious and excited about girls clothing while continuing to feel and behave like boys. Those who were certain they WERE girls from an early age are most certainly dealing with a gender issue and puberty likely just confuses this for a period.
My H never felt like a girl and still doesn't. He can't even fathom this idea even when in full dress. He just sees the bimbo he created and thinks she's hot, lol.
For me I started dressing when I was about 13 or so...I was just drawn to women's clothing for whatever reason. It definitely became sexual through my teen years and twenties. Now the sexual aspect has settled down...but it is still most definitely there. I think it's more now me just expressing how I feel like a girl inside...so it's more of a mental thing.
Prior to dressing I was asexual, It always confused me why I didn't felt attracted to girls or guys even on High school I had absolutely not desire to chase anybody....it was easy to fill that void with lots of different things....I can't really describe the excitement I felt the first time I used make up and wig , it was like if I let loose the person that was hiding inside me all this time free to express many feelings including sexuality
I started trying on my sisters clothes when I was 4. And continued to do it off and on. I started to make it a bit sexual when I was going through puberty. But I was a mess of raging hormones then, what teenage boy in puberty doesn't make almost everything sexual at that point. After 16 or so when the puberty had calmed down it continued to be a part of me. Now I don't believe it is sexual at all. During my time of coming to grips with who I was and what my identity is I fought with myself wondering long and hard if it was sexual. But it has never really felt that way for me. I just want to be able to express the feminine side of myself whenever she wants to come out!
I have days where it's all about fetishistic energy, and days where it's totally not about that. Interestingly enough, I don't have that many days where it's both.
The sexual component has always been there for me, at least since my teens, but over time I think it's become more consistently about sensuality rather than sexuality. There's something about the female form and presentation that is very sensual to me (I'd hope so, as a straight male), even when not presenting traditionally "sexy". I love feeling and projecting that way too.
For me starting at puberty it was very much a sexual thing, I quit dressing for a year but always wanted to go back, ever since going back I feel like I really am Britney for at least one week and thats when i need to satisfy my urge to dress. Long story short, it still brings me sexual arousal but in a way that makes it feel right.
To crossdress still arouses me sexually.
In the beginning there was a sexual component. Now, many years later not so much. I just feel very comfortable and content with myself when I am dressed.