That's what I would do!!!
Quote:
Originally Posted by
Fab Karen
Sound advice. And if he decides to shun you, he was never a friend.
The other posts were well put. Let them know ahead of time. Then Fab Karen said it best. If there true blue friends they would want you to be happy no matter how you dress or act!!!!:drink:
Chic, U know him BETTER than WE DO!
Personally, I wouldn't tell a close friend unless it was in person! That way, I could gage his/her reaction as we went along.:thumbsup::thumbsdn:
Most "regular" folks have LOTS of questions! Many may be too personal NOT to be disgusted alone and in person!:straightface:
Maybe just "tone down" your chic look upon meeting him? Then, be yourself AFTER the "talk"!?:brolleyes:
Tone it down, go slow, and recheck as you go.
Quote:
Originally Posted by
thechic
Hi there
Ive basically out of the closet but not all my friends now about me yet.I now have my face and hair with the feminine look ware female tops etc 24/7.
Any way ive got a friend who works on a farm out of this area coming to visit me for the day,Ive changed alot since i last sore him, should i just meet him as i am now and tell him about me,or should i just try and make myself more masculine ,thanks for you advice.:drink::drink::drink::drink:
If you have doubts about how much to do, rather than what to do, dial it down to what you consider your minimal level and let him visit the person closest to what he has every reason to expect you still are.
Then, by way of catching up, tell him what he needs to know for you both to be on the same page, if not necessarily on the same line and same word on the same page.
People need time to process and too much information at once can result in misunderstandings. So, take a minimal approach to the subject and see how things work out. Go slow - you have hours to get this "introduction" worked out.
If you get started talking about "things" and it winds up he has strong views against, for example, gay marriage, or, young people getting tatoos and earrings, you might want to back off on considering this likely to be a close friendship going forwards.
Frankly, I find it best to do a little at a time on such big issues and to do "follow-ups" over time. If I tell someone my views on something, they can just give me lip service at the time. If I mention it four more times, over the next two weeks, I have a much better idea what their true feelings and reactions are...
Again, they need time to think about it - and you need time to think about them and if their words and actions keep matching up favorably.