If I had the guts to go TS
I would be my male self for my kids, in other words Crossdress to a man to be with them.
Since I am 6' 1" I am sure It would work. As far as the EX is conserned I am sure there is no changeing her. There are GG out there that are more understanding so you will not be by yourself. I have met ladies at work that are suportave of a mans female side, unlike my wife.
But I am not TS or TG or even a CD. I am still keeping it to myself to keep my kids and family together.
My wife will never know the work it is for me to suppress it. Except the little depression and stress break downs.