' The wig completes the transformation'! That's it, in a nutshell.
This is the aspect that causes the most fear in women. You can explain that you want to dress, but as soon as the wig comes out,...
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' The wig completes the transformation'! That's it, in a nutshell.
This is the aspect that causes the most fear in women. You can explain that you want to dress, but as soon as the wig comes out,...
It would be more realistic to take a hard look at why your wife has concerns about you leaving the house.
The first is safety. You have to be able to go somewhere safe, and trusting to luck is not...
It may surprise readers to know that women have constraints in dressing (appearance), too so the notion that the cder can go out unrestrained is either folly or another fantasy.
Gendermutt's...
Female partners are willing to listen to cders feelings of femaleness. Women tend to rationalise these as opposed to the cders expressing emotionally how they feel. Many women will empathise with...
Phili, any attempt to improve matters is worth a try. Unfortunately, you do not seem to appreciate that there is no persuading to be done to reach acceptance: your writing shows that as with most...
Wife comes to helpline.
Helper tries to cut through all the confusion.
Then the list comes.
Makeup. Breastforms. Heels. Wigs.
Why these cause so much trouble is still a puzzlement to me,...
You are wrestling with two problems, Leslie. Being retired and trying to find time to dress inoffensively.
Much of the difficulty in relationships involving a cder comes from the ideas they have...
These are her emotions and she has a right to them!
Many of the difficulties women experience when trying to accept a partner deressed involve gender and sexuality. these are two huge areas, and...
Shely, if you could be more specific about what you want to share you may have your own answer.
Unfortunately, the cder's assumption that women talk about clothes, makeup, panty colours and nail...
GG here. Historically (like before too many support groups got going) women faced with a cd partner would comment angrily on the presentation as a comment on how cders viewed women. For example,...
There are more couples than you would think who settle for no makeup/wig/ breastforms, some even heels.....but the dress or skirt and blouse does a job. Not what most of you would want, nor a...
The changes you make over the years may be small, baby steps say some, but a woman can wake up after, say, ten years of this and realise that the feminisation has reached a stage where she hardly...
Wen, please clear your box so I can pm you.
Joan, The support group I belong to encourages female partners who do not wish to lose their marriage, and subsequently become lesbian, to make a...
Having been a part of the scene for forty years, before most support groups began, the ratio of accepting women is probably higher than you think. The ones who do make themselves known to a help...
Any local Mac counter (try Debenhams) will offer advice/instruction and choice. The group meet in Manchester is reliable.
As for the female friend, where do you suppose she got her makeup...
What is not fair is that your wife goes to work and you do not wish to contribute to the home by doing your fair amount of chores. Do you guarantee her any down time?
If your wife would not be happy to talk to a doctor about her depression would she consider Cognitive Behaviour Therapy if she knew what it was? Quite often cumulative negative thoughts can result in...
The issue isn't the clothes and this is where so many of you fail to understand the hurt caused.
The basis of mature adult relationships is trust. If you want to try treating your girlfriend like...
At our house the cder operates the DADT!!
You still have occasions to dress or join a support group locally. She obviously doesn't want to see anything or talk about it. You may have to use some...
Why the lack of honesty here? Why put your wife in a situation where she has little choice- as would be the case if you were already in a store?
Choice. That's what she wants. The choice to be...
I tell my cder that there is a different bra for each outfit. When it comes to how well things fit or hang we are precise in the underpinnings as well as accessories. Few GGs would put a necklace...
How understanding would you be to a platonic friend, male, that she went shopping or whatever with? This is not just a cross-dressing issue but a trust issue. She is right to be questioning this. how...
Why not try a support group? This is an excellent option for new dads to dress occassionally.
What exactly is it that you think is shareable about cding?
We choose our girlfriends for very different reasons than a husband. What do you really have to offer when you are dressed?
When...
Quite often when SOs do make it as far as some support they still find it difficult to express their confusion, anger, emotional distress and bewilderment to another woman. If you go to a therapist...