Be honest and sincere in sharing your story with her. Listen carefully at her response without interrupting. Let the chips fall where they may. Try very hard not to impose your feelings on the...
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Be honest and sincere in sharing your story with her. Listen carefully at her response without interrupting. Let the chips fall where they may. Try very hard not to impose your feelings on the...
Addressing the conflict that is causing the guilt and/or desire to effect change in life will alleviate the desire to purge. If someone is trapped in a cycle of buy and purge, they are not addressing...
Clothing choice really doesn't make an individual feel things on a deeper level. I suspect what is happening is that you're giving yourself permission to do and feel all these more traditionally...
I had an incident with a female friend of a friend one night in a club where she was texting me very forward, flirty messages while we were all sitting together at one table, including my wife....
In situations like these you could just say to yourself, "I will either respect my wife by staying out of her personal items or I will not."
That's an honest question one can ask himself that...
I think there are several workable ways a person can successfully approach balancing gender identities and presentations, and what works for you is what's important. For me, not worrying about all of...
Hi there! I wouldn't advise anyone to try to control their environment and the people in it if they're serious about coming out. If you're going to be out in the open, be out in the open and just...
What do I do when you have to be seen?
Wear fabulous earrings. :)
I suspect you're not getting a lot of responses that are encouraging because, in essence, you're asking for others to help you cope with lying to your spouse. I don't feel that happy healthy people...
Yes, my Lady knows I'm here and occasionally reads what I write. She's very supportive of all facets of me, as I am of her. We hide absolutely nothing from one another.
I doubt, however, that...
Based on my own experiences early on with being a closeted CDer and dating, and my growing knowledge of human psychology, I can say that it is quite impossible to keep a secret as "big" as...
This can be such a difficult lesson to learn, but in sharing your story with others, maybe you will have prevented someone else from having to go through this themselves.
Sometimes we convince...
annaaustintx gives great advise on the subject in my opinion. Some people are able to get under their own hood and do the required internal re-wiring to be with someone who presents his- or herself...
A very wise person once told me, "Normal is nothing more than a setting on your dryer." Trying to merge crossdressing or transgenderism into Western societal norms is HARD. I prefer to concentrate on...
Sorry but rejecting the femme side of someone who has begun the process of establishing a feminine identity within himself will most likely cause resentment within him for you not being accepting of...
Your story sounds very much like mine and my Lady's through the beginning.
In boy mode I cut and chop firewood, build things in the backyard, kill bugs when they get into the house, ect... When in...
Allow me to approach this from an entirely different angle...
People put others down all the time. We live in a broken society in a lot of ways and it churns out broken people who are angry,...
I bookmarked the site for later tonight when my Lady gets home, so we can both read it.
I love your entry on "15 reasons I feel blessed to be a crossdresser"!
I've found that the biggest...
Oh, without a doubt, it would be a Nightwish concert where I could wear all black and be a little more "gothy rocker chick" than usual! :)
I knew that not much time would pass before someone would come by and assert their hetero-only feelings on the matter. :) It's great that you do know yourself well. I thought I did also, up until...
Once I began to better understand how gender identity and attraction work for those of us who blur gender lines, I realized what I think a lot of us simply refuse to admit. It is that those who find...
If someone is keeping a secret, any secret, that he suspects if brought to light, would endanger his relationship, he's being deceitful and disingenuous. It's acting selfishly in the purest sense,...
EXACTLY what I was thinking after I read the OP a couple times through.
Otter, you mentioned that you love him but there's nothing at all in your post regarding any qualities he possesses that...
When is it not a big deal anymore? When we're dead. ;)
From an emotional standpoint, being hurt by others is a choice that we make for ourselves. Strangers and others you do not hold dear to your heart cannot hurt your feelings if you make the choice not...