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wow, at first glance just reading your post definitely makes me feel that you hit "the nail on the head" for sure. and i think that it's comforting to know we are not alone in that many others...

I chose a female name but only after having an alter identity incubator (LICutie). Then from that i birthed my name (Lilian). And i am working on the multiple beings i am loving and accepting each...

Fran, thank you for that; it is short and sweet... and makes sense.

But perhaps reframing CDing is in order in that there doesn't have to be guilt and shame involved. It shouldn't be. Of course...

Very true words indeed, Farrah.

Although quitting and reducing (or taking a break) may be different things, imho.

And when you say "it is a part of you" that also rings true whether we feed...

phew, i feel like i am in the same (or a similar boat) as you, Jessica... and the waters can get rough (yet at other times they seem very still). great replies from the other members, too; very...

Stephanie, i agree with the "looking younger dressed", for sure; although, for me, it may be tied to an internal feeling. perhaps dressing makes us feel both rejuvenated and energized so it shows...

this is a great question and i love the answers you have elicited so far.

for me, i have gotten to a comfortable stage when dressed, even in my birthday suit, and *gasp* in drab, too! perhaps it...

it feels ... better than good! oops, that's 5...

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Thanks Isha et al, for a great thread. Very profound subject and equally insightful replies that i have to say each make valid points on their own and together!

Aging, imho, certainly has has its...

Wow PaulaQ, you bring up some very intriguing and insightful points. I appreciate that and whether people agree with you all the way or not, what you are saying is definitely worth reading, imo!
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Wow, thanks Reine for the reply, you are very wise in your words.

I could be wrong but maybe Katie's (and others in similar relationships) need to bust out all over happens when it all comes to a...

wow that's a sweet and heartfelt post, Jenny.

i tend to believe that life is a rough road no matter how and where we find ourselves; that said maybe makes it easier?

i know the saying goes...

Thanks, PaulaQ, i appreciate you taking the time to reply, and also your take on it; it makes sense the way you say it; I hope that this thread is still helpful to OP (Katie), and others, too, as it...

Thank you for your perspective, Reine; it's great to hear a GG's take on this.

And it's funny because while i feel similar to Katie, what you are saying makes sense, too.

i feel like maybe i...

wow, hope this gets better for you and the SO.

and btw i think you have made some very deep insights as have the other posters.

who knows, it may be that we all have a complementary opposite...

yea, Amanda, great smile!
imo, when you are enjoying yourself, the smile can't be helped; i don't mean that in a bad way... i mean the smile has it's own muscle memory or something like that....

Hi Isha.

First of all, i love the word conundrum; i like how it sounds and what it means. imo, it's like a Zen koan. it also reminds of kumquat another interesting sounding word.

anyway i was...

i like the posts with the idea of an individual's rights for grooming or removing their body hair how they wish, and agree especially with Alice B's "me, myself, and I" post... but also if one's SO...

wow Amanda, the pics look great again!
though i am hoping to see a smile soon.
am not sure what it's like by you but maybe going into the next town over or even taking a ride somewhere a little...

thanks, Amanda

i believe whatever it is (which may be different for each person) that leads us to better understanding and getting in touch with our femme selves is a step closer to reclaiming...

congrats!

i so long to do this, i feel like a weight would be so lifted off my shoulders... and it would be so helpful.

based on your thread, i really am going to look into doing what you did...

this is a great question and also love the replies. sometimes a hotel room even with one's own feminine self is the only place we can truly be that self.

the fact that you are traveling en femme,...

great question. and i am going to refrain from reading others replies until after i answer. this is core of crossdressing imo. where do fantasy and reality meet?

i know sometimes for me what is...

ok, am gonna reply before i read others posts so that i will be uninfluenced in my answer.

i definitely would feel embarassed by getting dressed in front of a spouse... and almost everyone i know...

wow, this is a real eye opener for me.

i love the replies too in that some are short and sweet and others are more detailed and spelled out.

my quick takeaway is that it may be cheaper to be...