My observation is that secure women [as in attachment theory secure] and women who are very clear that feminine expression is a performance assigned to them and necessary for them to get by/succeed ,...
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My observation is that secure women [as in attachment theory secure] and women who are very clear that feminine expression is a performance assigned to them and necessary for them to get by/succeed ,...
Amen- thanks for the nice way of saying it.
I stopped participating much for this very reason. I understand that traces of maleness ruin the dream for a lot of people- but the dream of being able...
My wife is not supportive. I told her enough, and said I was not going to hide or pretend anymore, but I understood that she, and most people, don't like crossdressing for any number of reasons. That...
Hi Cece,
Thanks for starting a MIAD thread! THere are so many parts to your post- so...
1. Hearing more experiences
I was just like you totally -closeted until I retired and realized that I...
I kind of have woken up as a woman, and it was interesting. Not a female, but otherwise a woman, in that I literally had a woman's personhood which was quite different from my 'man' person. Manhood...
A prisoner between
What is true and pretend
I long to be free
Elegant styling in all ways
Hi Teresa,
First things first- you are an amazingly skilled artist! Wowie zowie- who knew you could paint like that!! Your main problem is not being TG it is scaring off people from wanting to show...
I was violently threatened and told I should be ashamed at age 4 or so, so I hid my crossdressing- I didn't feel shame, I felt ignorance and cruelty and people wanting to look good in the eyes of...
Hey Cassie,
Is your mom still around? It is nice to know one parent at east sticks up for you and accepts you. Glad to hear your story!
Maria,
On the bright side, your wife is the champ here- really stretching to help you. I suppose she now knows better just how difficult and emotion-laden this is for you. You are writing it all out...
I go from intense craving that demands the cutest outfit I can don- to feeling like Ok- I am a woman and don't need to prove it, and it is kind of self-involved to spend a lot of time primping!
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Bravo! What a great end to the year and promising for this one!
I think it is so wonderful that so many medical folks and store sales people communicate perfect welcome and comfort this way. It...
Wow- this is so great!
She sounds like she is well ahead of you and you might want to ask her to talk to you about what she sees, what she thinks you feel, what she feels, etc and keep it very...
My post was a philosophical reflection aimed at redefining the common usage of 'fetish' from a negative label with the idea that someone has left the normal range of behavior, and with the...
I was moved to write this bc fetish is most commonly used with derision or as an emblem of deviancy, and I am saying the behaviors usually called fetishistic exist because of deprivation from normal...
A lot of us have had or still have crossdressing experiences that would on first glance seem fetishistic- an intense emotional response to clothing, and dressing, and often an erotic component that...
I think a lot of neighbors are more tolerant than we think and are excellent stand ins for the general public in our lives to give us that feeling of acceptability as we are. I went over to help my...
Maria, Listening to your account of your conversation brings up a couple of things to me:
-She undoubtedly is a very frank person and it is wonderful that she can lead the conversation gently....
One of te great benefits of zoom! Enjoy to the hilt.
Just let it go! You don't need to feel guilty or strange, and therefore having to explain. I told my daughter- who told her friends who all thought it was interesting- bc there isn't anyone over age...
For a different reason I didn't go out- I had been thinking Oh boy I'll spend the day out, but then I didn't want to treat dressing as a costume! So I just enjoyed myself at home and went out in...
Sounds like it was lots of fun, even if brief! Any time out is good time! I found the face mask very convenient since it covers my beard and people just get to appreciate my happy eyes! I also...
I encourage you to start serious recon of your town- look around carefully for the people who are a little different and how people treat them, when chips are down. Look for women who are masculine...
I'd generalize and say that many of us have multiple 'lives'- sequential and simultaneous. We have options, we wonder, we dream, we try things, we assert things, we give up things, we share one...