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I shave all over now, and can't imagine going back. I've been the pool frequently with the children since I started, and the first couple of times I was worried I'd get comments or at least stares -...

I'm afraid the answer is probably All the Above. I always think that asking 'Why do people crossdress?' is a question a bit like asking 'Why do people drink?' There are many answers that are going to...

But this is entirely culturally determined. My ex never shaved her legs, because in her culture (or rather, her parent's culture, with which she identified) that was quite normal - and also as a...

I'll admit I was shocked by the level of vitriol, and their unconcealed scorn for anyone different from themselves. It's not the kind of thing you expect on a forum like that.

Kisses,

Lucy

In the past, I’ve been a bit irritated when people on this forum go out of their way to say (even when it’s not relevant to the topic in hand) that they are NOT GAY. “Who cares?” has always...

What does it mean to get a knot? Now I'm curious.

Kisses,

Lucy

Er, why not - if they were feminists? Though I'd rather they weren't swigging beer at the time.

It doesn't make much practical difference to me as I'm not much of a one for organized events, but...

Well said, DD. The fact that women have sexual desires and preferences too does sometimes get lost here; but I'm even more puzzled by the frequency with which posters feel the need to say that they...

Agreed.

Kisses,

Lucy

This was kicked off by a recent thread (and many before it) that used words like “permission” in relation to SOs’ attitudes to dressing. As in “My SO won’t give me permission to dress”, or “My SO...

Sounds like an interesting topic - maybe worth a new thread in itself? I too feel uncomfortable about the words "permission" and "let" (in relation to "letting" one's SO dress). They don't exactly...

I'm actually quite surprised at how great the preponderance of preferred cross-dressers is - though perhaps, given the name of this site, I shouldn't be! :D If those were the only two options, I'd...

I agree. Hopefully that'll be more possible for him now her murderers have been convicted.

Kisses,

L

Well yes, absolutely - and I don't think the BBC was being dismissive at all, but it did make me think about what was implied by their choice to use that "dressed as a" phrase.

For example, If I...

Quite right.

Kisses,

Lucy

I know this is a bit off topic, but your bringing up that terrible case reminds me of something I've been thinking about the last few days. The BBC keep referring to the victim as being "dressed as a...

In that sense, one would be equally well advised to discourage a girl dressing in her mother's clothes.

I'm surprised reading through this thread (not for the first time) how common the assumption...

I certainly don't think Mirani's post was malicious, but all the same there is a real difficulty here, as Nicki and Battybats have pointed out. Mirani rightly made a distinction between the CDs like...

Don't misunderstand me: I'm neither offering a corrective nor judging, but giving my take on what Mirani meant to do, and the spirit in which she meant it. (If I'm wrong I'm sure she'll correct me.)...

As with a lot of language, whether or not the "guy in a dress" label is insulting depends a lot on who's saying it and why. (c.f. "queer"). I've seen videos by transgender people on Youtube (some...

I think that must be the experience of many of us, because so many things in our society come 'pre-gendered' - not just clothes but words, tones of voice, gestures, attitudes, occupations, etc etc....

Okay, I see what you mean now. I think that in TreeGG's original analogy, though, it was the SOs and the rest of the family that had acquired the 'debt' unknowingly:


"That logic is based on the...

I absolutely agree with everything after the first sentence, but a debt is something that has to be entered into freely and consciously on both sides, and this doesn't meet that criterion. It's...

Thanks to Batty and TreeGG for your very interesting posts.

I can see the 'making up for lost time' argument, but TreeGG's answer to that is surely the right one: time gone is gone, life is full...

I wonder whether you shouldn't have put percentages rather than raw numbers, since the two exes I'm still friendly with represent a very high percentage of all the gfs I've ever had! In fact, it's...