[SIZE=4]I have seem a few threads about "should I tell my SO/wife about my dressing?" and "She got upset when I opened up to her", with "She left me unexectedly" [/SIZE]
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[SIZE=4]In some cases, the marriage was already rocky and yes, women do think things out before they react..most of us 'guys' just never see it.. Guys walk out when they catch her in bed with someone.. Women see the signs and weigh the future.. Most of this is what I KNOW. My ex wife sat and waited.. for almost two years.. funny thing.. i knew too.. and it really had nothing to do with dressing..we just went on different paths.. [/SIZE]
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[SIZE=4]so when i mentioned some dressing..yes at first it was like she was supportive..even gave me a few items of clothes and makeup..reason why? because i was working away from home so she didn't have to see.. [/SIZE]
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[SIZE=4]The rest was just a feeling like we lost each other in passion, etc. [/SIZE]
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[SIZE=4]But she did make a comment once that she didn't know if she could handle that side of me.. [/SIZE]
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[SIZE=4]So it took a bit for me to understand.. she married a man.. and that is what she was attracted to.. even if she sampled a woman in her past.. i was a man that she fell in love with..so she did not see how me as a woman, part time or not.. would fit in what she desired.. [/SIZE]
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[SIZE=4]but I will say it again, it was not the main item that ended our marriage.. [/SIZE]
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[SIZE=4]And I don't blame her for leaving.. I blame her for not giving us a try when I returned.. so many things had changed that I think we would have been okay..even if i had to give this up.. yes it might be in me "chemically" but for love sometimes it can go in dorment.. or be addressed slowly.. who knows.. [/SIZE]
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[SIZE=4]So if you think you want to say something to your SO/Wife.. be ready for the worst.. they fell in love with a man..most do at least.. its great when you find that one.. but its rare.. so if you do..hold on tightly..[/SIZE]
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[SIZE=4]but be honest with yourself..and us.. if its more than just dressing..face that part too.. [/SIZE]
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[SIZE=4]my ex wants to be a part of my life..but I have yet to let her know how far i dress.. and i'm not sure i will.. even though i love her..part of me wants to be her GF.. to shop..to talk.. ect.. and to love..that last part scares me.. since it may not be that forever.. [/SIZE]
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[SIZE=4]Sorry if i just banter.. I just had to post due to so many that seemed surprised when their SO/Wife just can't handle it.. [/SIZE]
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[SIZE=4]Some on here have even said "what would you do if your wife decided to dress like a man..and be the man..?" think about that..fair is fair..[/SIZE]