Although I wouldn't have really gone for Boy George and Tim Curry was a little scary, all the others... mmmmmm, yummy CDers/TG looking guys... I'd love to see my CDer all dolled up like Manson
Yes, Batty, I think you're right... perhaps GGs and men who can find these type of guys attractive should be more encouraged!
Akira
Tal'Aura said - "Being hatred is price we must pay. Nobody wants us,"
Like I said earlier, some people just take comfort in being the oppressed and downtrodden. They take solace in the fact they are the hated minority because it gives them a sense of self.
The truth remains that no one hates them except themselves. It doesn't have to be that way but it's easier than facing the truth and finding a better way to live life. Been there, done it, seen it for what it is and found a way to move on from it. I suggest you all find a way to do the same.
Now I'm depressed, I thought I was loved by my wife, but as she is a GG, I guess that can't be true. I have always felt liked by most people I meet, but I guess that is wrong too, just my optimistic blinders I guess.
Tina
[SIZE="4"]It's surprising how many persons go through life without ever recognizing that their feelings toward other people are largely determined by their feelings toward themselves, and if you're not comfortable within yourself, you can't be comfortable with others. - Sidney J. Harris [/SIZE]
[SIZE="5"]Maybe a quote applicable to a few in this thread [/SIZE]
I allow myself to set healthy boundaries ..... to say no to what does not align with my values, to say yes to what does.
Boundaries assist me to remain healthy, honest and living a life that is true to me
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Born female intended
" Don't die with your music still in you!"
What about the GG who accept us for who we are and love us for being us.
My wife loves me for who I am as I love her for who she is.
We do not love this bit or that bit of each other, we love each other as the whole person which embraces all parts of our beings.
Xx Vicky xX
Like I said there are many GGs out there do that do accept their CD, TG or other without listening to the Morals of many. As I said We need more GGs like this, more open minded, open hearted GGs out there that will accept us as Humans. We have to be who we are and accept ourselves before other will accept us.
I am having the time of my life being Amy and it shows, but I do have a big empty whole in my life and there is where a Mate would be. My problem is I don't want just any relationship, I could have that already. I want someone who really wants to be with me and who will not leave me because I am who I am. I am around many people and I am always pleasant to be around. I do know someday I will find someone, but until then I am heartbroken.
I guess this why I do think it is good for us all to be who we are on the outside that we are on the inside. The more of us out, the more people will accept us. We have made progress in the last several years with the help of the internet, but there are still so many that will not come out or cannot come out.
Ladies have a GREAT time!
Smile GOD LOVES you!!!
GOD BLESS US ALL!!!
AMY Hepker
ROSES ARE RED
VIOLETS ARE BLUE
I'LL BE ME
AND YOU BE YOU
OK, Im fairly new here, but this repetitive post is getting ridiculous and annoying. joanne Wheeler, this was what I was talking about in your thread about this board being depressing and you're adding to it. This whining about everybody hating us is depressing. The bigger problem is in our own minds and in some of our own self loathing.
How many of you are going to keep whining about the same thing? You are WRONG! Some women, some men, some tgs date, love, like sleep with TG's. Half this board can attest to that and I've dated all three. is it easy? No. Does a majority of the populatin lust after TG's? No. But it's not that hard to find.
Quit associating with closed minded idiots and you may find its not that rare. If all of us can find women or men that like, love, want to marry or dates us, why can't you? At some point you have to ask yourself if maybe the problem is yours and not the worlds!!
I apologize for the rant but this is ridiculous.
I guess I'll have to tell my family (and some other people) that they don't want me or like me. That will go over well.
Everyone? I don't think so. Some people perhaps, concentrated in certain areas more than others perhaps, but not everyone. Besides, there's nothing wrong with being gay, or weird. I'm not gay, in the traditional sense, might end up as lesbian some day, but not exactly lesbian now. I am weird, in a geeky nerdy way, and that's fine. I'm more likely to get depressed about my own feelings not about how others feel about trans. The majority of people have no opinion either way because they haven't met any of us.everyone thinks that we are some type of gay, weird, sick people its the baggage that we have to live with and its awful
What? Now my family may not understand 100% and I really don't talk to them as much as I should about what I call IT. But they try. It was my sister and mother who bought me Jenny Boylan's "She's Not There." and JJ Allen's "The Man in the Red Velvet Dress" And there's wives/partners/SO's out there who work hard to understand their TG partners. Not to mention all the mental health professionals with a clue (though there are still some without a clue I admit)- its what makes our lives so difficult - we HAVE to stick together - we are the only ones who know and appreciate what we go through !
I would advise not using that word around the transgender community. Though there are a few who use it as a symbol of pride, Most don't, and consider the use of that word offensive, very offensive.
According to Wikipedia, it's curable, has been since the 1930's though for about 20 years or so it wasn't curable again due to resistance to the original treatment drug, dapsone The Multi-drug treatments that are used now work very well it says. Leprosy's been eliminated in a couple of countries it was endemic in.
Pretty much, I think.The more open you are with people the more open they are with you... It's not all honey, but it's not all **** either.
Veronica
Rondelle (Ron) Rogers Jr.
If you believe in it, makeup has a magic all it's own -- Sooner or Later (TV movie)
We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?- Marianne Williamson
Have I also not said that "This Thing of Ours" makes some of us a bit "Barefoot in the Head"? Well, it does.
I think what everyone here are saying is quite correct, allthough I know some GG's, if presented with the situation the right way would love to have a CD'ing man..
My ex girlfriend, who found out about this after we broke up, said she wished she knew before, because then we could go shopping for womens clothes together.. And that she imagined the best man in a womans world must be a man that knows a lot about womens clothes.
And I think that's a quite correct statement, as I know how much most guys hate going shopping for exactly that.
So whenever I meet my next potential girlfriend, I am going to attempt full openness from the start, and use that as my "crowbar" to her positiveness if you want to call it that.
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Failure is the only way of starting over again with improved knowledge (Henry Ford)
It is never good to be quiet. That would make you susceptible to what other people think and want you to do instead of what you want.
My general rule in life. If I walk tall and look people in the eye, they will either greet me or look away if they are feeling guilty. But if I hang my head or look off to the side, then I am open to however they want to treat me.
Be proud of who you are and let others know it!
lisa luv i think your great your out look on life is so positive its uplifting.no matter whats the problem you always look for the good.now everybody take note all you people out there with your woo is me outlook should surrond yourself with people like lisa(at least have one person like her) because when you get all sollom she can give you the good side of things aswell as a much needed slap.live your lifes to its full make the most of everything cause we only get one shot at this and stop moaning.the more you enjoy life the more fun it is the more fun it is the happier you become.
THE BEST THINGS IN LIFE ARE FREE , THE PRETTY THINGS COST A FORTUNE
i was starting to lose faith in this site with all the negativity but when i see comments like yours they make me smile and relise there are happy cheerful people here no matter what there gender is.thank you for restoring my faith in this site.i hope you and debs both have the weddings you deserve and have a long and happy life together.
THE BEST THINGS I LIFE ARE FREE , THE PRETTY THINGS COST A FORTUNE
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I can't wait to get back into the swing of things! I'm almost divorced and coming out has been great! I'm gonna be upfront with any women I meet, and I'm very optimistic! I think the future is bright for me! Bright and pink!
I see... And what are you going to do about it? Would you arrest AnnieMay and take her to court martial?
Be advised that she is probably not referring to every crossdresser on this planet. For example, perhaps she talks about situation in place where she lives... There is a lot of variables we don't know and things aren't always just black and white, so stop labelling someone as a negative person if you don't know the whole story.
Okay, now I'm out of this discussion.
Jolan Tru
We are all unique. We can club together as engineers, hairdressers, fiction writers, homosexual, heterosexual, Latino, Caucasian, transgendered, whatever club you like.
But we are each individuals. All heterosexual men don't just fall in love with all heterosexual women. We seek out the uniqueness in people. You can limit your search for relationships to one club, and say that no-one likes you. You can believe that you only fit in one club, and miss the uniqueness of people all around you.
One can not stay in the closet and still exclaim that no-one likes you, or generalize that no-one likes us. I have more friends now, male and female, straight and otherwise, than I did before.
The implication is that one is a perfectly wonderful adorable person that anyone would want - except that you are a crossdresser. The implication is that your uniqueness is that you are a crossdresser. If that is all there is to you, well good luck.
I am personally offended by the remark. Such misinformation from someone with so much to say is a dis-service at best. We are not a gang walking around looking to make trouble. We are a community in a world of overlapping communities. We pose a challenge to conformal thought and so be it. I think your SO of 38 years would disagree with your exclusive statement.
We are not in a group of our own when it comes to relationships. We are in a world with boundless possibilities. You have to work for those possibilities. Even the best looking super-model has to work to find the right relationship. Gender variant is not an exclusive group. If you look through stereoptypical glasses, you will only see what you expect to see.
Carin
I have gone on a journey in search if myself. If you find me before I return, please hold on to me until I get back.
Telling our Children
But we are each individuals. All heterosexual men don't just fall in love with all heterosexual women. We seek out the uniqueness in people. You can limit your search for relationships to one club, and say that no-one likes you. You can believe that you only fit in one club, and miss the uniqueness of people all around you.
I am a TS
I just did a thread about a wonderful heterosexual man that recently came back into my life with a desire to enter into a relationship with me. It took him a while to come to terms... but he did and what he said was this. I love you for what you are on the inside,not for that which you are on the outside.
Jolan - I wasn't trying to rubbish your experience - I'm sorry if you took it that way.
What I was trying to point out was that you expanded your experience to encompass all the rest of us - and if you spend only a little time reading threads here, you'll see it simply isn't the case for everybody, as you said?
Perhaps you should consider travelling and experiencing other places to try and find somewhere where you are not automatically 'hated' - such hatred usually goes together with a poverty of education, IME?
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Nicki
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