On a forum of outsiders, I'm an even bigger outsider, I've had medical problems a long time now, and cross-dressing for me is fetish, like a John Willie cartoon from the 1940s. If I walked down the street in stilettos, corset, fake boobs and wig I would cause traffic accidents. I think if you dress in a little black dress, you better be on a diet and go to the gym, beauty parlor, plastic surgeon,... there is a multi-billion dollar industry built around making that little black dress look good. If you wear jeans and a blouse with a jacket, like most normal women do, no-ones even going to notice you most likely.
I wear sweat pants and a hoody. I'm cheap. I'm a snob. I've had psychiatrists who wear very expensive Italian loafers. I remember at my old job a few neighborhood ladies would come by and gossip with my partner Joannie, I didn't notice them at first, they were smart, nice, friendly, and after a while I said to myself, hmm, these ladies are really nice, I wonder if they're married. They ALL had wedding rings the sick of ROCKS!
Feeling-good101 says be who you are. STYLE is a bit more broad topic. It's about other people.
I'd like a pair of heels buried deep in my closet, but if I ever get well I'd like some nice man clothes, good skin, a nice haircut. I'd like to be the guy you girls notice.