Last night after the deluge of responses I was so overwhelmed that I had to shut off the computer and go to bed. I thank all of you for the show of support and advice. Some of you have been a bit harsh but I understand that no one knows me, or my wife, and you are only getting my side of the story.
My wife and I have been together for a total of 18+ years, married 15+. During all this time she had a very successful career and brought a very, very decent salary into the household. Much of that money was used to acquire our assets. We did not buy much stock but chose to invest in real estate instead. Her job kept her out of the home much of the time and we decided that she would leave her profession about four years ago and spend more time with me. We've both in our early 60s. She began working w/me in my office p/t (which gave her access to all the e mail addresses) and doing a lot of volunteer work in the community. We were then able to travel together.
Ironically, the two parcels she wants in her name only are not the more expensive but were her favorites. She is not a vindictive person and I truly believe she is only trying to protect herself, not hurt me.
I had her complete respect and trust. I never worried about her 'checking up' where I had been on my computer and she never opened my mail. I had plain brown envelopes on the computer w/order forms for c/d clothes and she never even peeked. I'm certain of this because I would have been confronted long ago about my cross dressing.
I don't think it's the cross dressing that is her main concern. I hear what she's saying and it's more about the lack of honesty and the deception. Sneaking away to attend c/d events and the extensive wardrobe which I had cleverly hidden in the attic. I know she was upset to hear I had visited nail salons for manicures and, for some reason, she was especially bothered to learn I went for a fitting for a corset. These are all things that cross dressers do but certainly not the general male population. This causes her to question my sexuallity.
I'm rambling here but I want you all to know that I hear what you're telling me. I will meet with an attorney for some advice very soon. Thank you all for reading this and your responses.