I don't know the answer either but your admission has been eating on her for 5 weeks and her kettle is beginning to boil. She didn't talk to you during the interlude but she sure talked to herself.

I think what she said is not what she is talking about.

Wife: "What are you trying to prove by wearing a dress?"
She isn't talking about wearing a dress. I think she is angry that you even want to look feminine because that erodes her concept of a healthy male/female relationship. She is asking what you are trying to prove by acting and looking like a woman. She didn't marry a woman and she may be afraid of losing her man. You are important to her as a man.

Wife: "You don't have the right to wear woman's clothing. You have to earn the right and as a man you can never do hat."
To her this means you don't have the right to be a woman because you were born the wrong gender, and as a man you never will be the right gender. Therfore you don't have the right to wear women's clothes. I know, I know, we wear slacks and jeans too but that isn't part of her argument.


Wife: "Just what I said, you have to pay your dues, you have to earn that right."
I'm not sure what she may have meant here. Does she mean that women have had to struggle to be recognized as a viable part of society and those rights (sufferage, independence, single motherhood, etc.) were hard to come by? Perhaps she feels you are abusing her by asking her to accept something that is out of the norm.

It isn't the litteral words you should pay attention to but an interpretation of the emotions and the meaning behind them from her pespective.

I wish you well Renyta.