Well, if crossdressing is "inner demons lite", that is to say, you have much nastier stuff inside, underneath the gender issues, then maybe talking about your clothing/gender identity issues would qualify as "small talk". If not, if in fact the crossdressing is a deep concern, akin to being molested as a child, please spare the world your drama circus, and wait until you have them in your clutches and they can't get away... because they "love" you.
