First I'd like to say that I love this website. I appreciate you all and enjoy hearing your experiences and opinions.
So yes, I'm in the closet with the wife--and everyone else at this point in my life. I'm 44 YO and we've been married for 8 years. I love her with all my heart and am terrified of losing her. I've told two other SO women in the past--one liked it, the other didn't.
I know I should have told her upfront, but I really fell for her and didn't want to have "the discussion" and lose her. Like I said I had a bad experience telling a GF. We're both divorced and bring kids into the marriage.
Last week she almost caught me cross-dressed. She came home unexpectedly, and if I was any further from the bedroom she would have seen me dressed. I guess that's why I'm struggling with this so much now--this was the first REALLY close call.
Anyway, I don't know why I'm posting this other than I don't have anyone else to talk to about it. Maybe there are others who are in a similar situation and can relate to what I'm going through. I'm thinking about talking to her, but again, I don't want to lose her.
Again, love this site--thanks for "listening".