GGs attitude to crossdressers

[Danielle Gee]

More GGs in a relationship with a cder, may have a better attitude if they were told about the cding early on, and if a lot of cders didn't push things to far to quick.

Right on Sandra!!

My wife is mostly very accepting of my CD'ing (tho I suspect she finds it sort of amusing). She thinks there are so many disadvantages to being a woman that she wonders why I want to act & dress like one sometimes. I told my wife about 5 years into a 40+ year marrage, but I agree the "before" the ceremony would be much better.

I also agree about "pushing"......I need to be careful to not get carried away with my CD'ing and make her begin to resent it.....After all, there's times when she wants and needs a man....I always try to read her moods and act accordingly......One strange thing ......Why does she always need Danielle about when the Kitchen floor needs mopped?...Hmmmmmmmmm???

In general CD'ing is like every other hobby... If your in a relationship, you need to always consider your SO's feelings

Hug & Kisses" Danielle

[Deidra Cowen]

I would say that in my personal experience, it will depend on the GG, but for the most part they seem to be ok with us.

Thats about right in my opinion!

[Sheila]

More GGs in a relationshipwith a cder, may have a better attitude if they were told about the cding early on, and if a lot of cders didn't push things to far to quick.

We met here and I agree with Sandra

Same here .............. and we get married in October

So it easy in a way for them to be fascinated by how I am and even to take it as a sort of compliment how much I admire them and wish I were like them. But if I were their husband or boyfriend, then things would be different. It's one thing to love someone as a friend and support them, it's another thing when it's closer to home.

Hugs...Joni Mari

yup sometimes that is so true I love and admire our firemen and women ............ would hate to be in a relayionship with one ........... the stress of their job would not be good for me .... so loving and living with applies to all walks of lives not just cding .... My

[Sherry-Stephanie]

Last nite I was out at a gay club as Stephanie and I had 5 different females come up and either talk to me or talk to me and buy me drinks...

Now this was only the second time I've been out dressed to the club...and it literally was blowing my mind away..and several of them were not hesitant to kiss and hug freely....

One girla nd she was straight but out with two of her male gay friends came over started up a conversation and bought me a drink and invited me to join them....we talked for over two hours about the whole issue of dressing gender switching etc....not that I am even remotely close to being knowledgable...but last nite I was out on my own without anyone else being there and it was just an absloutley incredible experience....

But if I were their husband or boyfriend, then things would be different. It's one thing to love someone as a friend and support them, it's another thing when it's closer to home.

Amen....boy have I found that out with wife and all and the fact that she's bailed out on me....she couldn't accpet it as my wife but she's OK with it as a friend....and that I'm still trying to get my head around....

[Karen564]

GG's in here possibly,but I don't think that you can count on the majority having those same feelings. A few who can't cope..ahhh the optomist. lol

That's what I was thinking too..!!!
What I mean is,,,,, to ask for what GG girls think about CD'ing in here is like asking someone if they like car racing on a Nascar web site..Like duh...


In regards to the tread starters question,
If you want an answer from the general population , then go to an open forum, not in here, and then see what happens..

[Sarah...]

[SIZE="3"]Crossdressing doesn't bother me. Stupidity bothers me. You could be intelligent and wear lamp shades on your feet. As long as you don't still have the lamps still in them and plugged in, its fine with me. [/SIZE]

Smile of the day. Fantastic

Sarah...

[stefanie]

hi gurls,

while i haven't surveyed a 100 gg in a 100 places, i have recently run into more gg that are generally very accepting and curious if not interesting or fascinated. Maybe like having a girlfriend even beyond the gay community.....can talk more about clothes, fashion, etc and we actually can relate.

all said, i am married, wife knows before we got marrried. She really hates it. Short story is I have become progressively more girly (even have bikini tan lines.... Can't help myself

I can honestly say, if she met me on the street as friends, we would have a great time, probably go bar hopping, shoe shopping, movies, etc. We would be friends but not lovers. I think beyond the physical, there is simply a deeper emotional connection or perception of what women see in men inately in the whole bell curve thing...we don't naturally have soft smooth skin, we don't have naturally have thin arched eyebrows, we don't naturally like to prance around, we don't naturally get all giddy, etc. Long response i know but have been thinking about this one for years now!

this has been a fun read to see what you all hear and see.

[freeindress]

I think gg's tend to be more accepting of cd's than men are. At the same time, it seems that a lot of gg's don't care to be in a relationship with a cd. It's understandable - many women simply want a masculine man, and there's nothing wrong with that... unless they end up with a closeted cd. That's a recipe for trouble.

Should a single CD trying to date GG's start dating partially dressed (more than half masculine, with feminine overtones), to tell the truth (or at least give enough hints) from the beginning ?

[stefanie]

i kinda think so....

i was more masculine at the time...surfer, mtn bike racer, blah, blah, blah...

now i am more soft, smooth, kind of androgynous i suppose as I look back at old pics.

I suspect if you already have at least some of the physical features and femme characteristics, i suspect a gg would then like you for it and not have to experience the shock treatment that could follow...

my advice, get at least as physically girly as is comfortable for you and see how gg's respond.

good luck!

[DemonicDaughter]

[SIZE="3"]

Smile of the day. Fantastic

Sarah...

*bows gracefully... then realizes she's still at her desk, smacks forehead on the edge, curses, pushes chair away from desk which bumps into the box behind her setting off an avalanche of items that comes clamoring down around her...* What was I saying about stupidity?[/SIZE]

[Stargirl]

As far back as I can recall, I have always been fascinated by crossdressers, both male, and female. It seemed so "right" to me that they chose to dress that way. Most of my exposure came from black and white tv variety shows, and a few dramas depicting someone having to wear a disguise of the opposite sex to evade the law. Any show trying to depict real life crossdressing as "normal" would have been very hard to find on tv back then.

[Fondew2004]

The GG I met online not only seems accepting...but encouraging!

Of course, it's easy to be encouraging "online".

Reality is a whole other universe!

We'll have to see!

[Misty is Kindafem]

Don't mean to ask a dumb question but what is a GG?

Pay attention honey, the acronyms fly fast and furious around here. I see one every now and then that I can't figure out.

I'm gonna start making a few up;
GTR - Gurls That Rock
DC - Damn Cute
HLK - Hot Like Kelly
FLJ - Fierce Like Joni

Look for these and more HNA's (Hot New Acronyms) in a post near you.

-Misty

[Jo Jones]

Like many, my wife is supportive to the point of encouragement (esp in the 'bedroom'!) I don't go out CDd cos I've no interest in doing it.

I guess it depends on the social and moral values of both parties as to how the CDing is eventually outed to the GG, and how that information is accepted?

For me, I have a very strong naughty, risque, double entendre side to my personality and my ladyfriend - now wife - was always used to my being saucy about any aspect of sex right from the start, so there was never a 'bombshell' announcement that I liked CDing.

CDing for us is spicy, rollplay for the 'bedroom'. She loves it cos it's naughty but playful fun, and enjoyment for us both.

JJ xx

[Deborah Jane]

[SIZE="3"]

*bows gracefully... then realizes she's still at her desk, smacks forehead on the edge, curses, pushes chair away from desk which bumps into the box behind her setting off an avalanche of items that comes clamoring down around her...* What was I saying about stupidity?[/SIZE]

Creases up laughing

Falls off chair, cracking my skull and spends the rest of the day in Hospital

[DemonicDaughter]

[SIZE="3"]

Creases up laughing

Falls off chair, cracking my skull and spends the rest of the day in Hospital

Sorry about the bumpers on the head... did any air escape? [/SIZE]

[Kimmie]

Women can be unpredictable. I had a friend, she hung out with gays. A f-- hag if you will. I told her about Kimmie, thinking she'd be cool about it. She was very curious initially and has since quietly distanced herself from me.

[Deb The Brunette]

As far back as I can recall, I have always been fascinated by crossdressers, both male, and female. It seemed so "right" to me that they chose to dress that way. Most of my exposure came from black and white tv variety shows, and a few dramas depicting someone having to wear a disguise of the opposite sex to evade the law. Any show trying to depict real life crossdressing as "normal" would have been very hard to find on tv back then.

Hell !! marry me I'm a weirdo too ..seen your profile

...(I'm free, never been married, no baggage...well except a huge wardrobe)

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[kellycan27]

Dios mio, hermana. (My god, sis.) I'm a Hispanic girl and I'm totally okay with CD's.<G>

Hugs...Joni Mari

I thought the question was with regards to GG's Joni. Ok who brought in the ringer? LOL

[cdbethany]

ive had no problems with ggs over my dressing,my girlfriend lora is being very supportive and a girl came to my defence on xbox live today.i was dressed up in a cute dress with wig and makeup and decided to test the waters and went on my xbox onthe uno game which allows video.i went into a game and one guy started calling me a pervert for dressing,straight away the girl and the other guy in the match turned on the douche and gave him a tongue lashing they said i wasnt a pervert that i was probably a transexual which to save arguements i said i was and the guy who started when i entered the room did apoligise and the game continued fine.

bethany xxxxxx

[kristinacd55]

Well this GG has been married to a cder for 22 years this august and have known about the cding for all but 6 months of the marriage.

More GGs in a relationshipwith a cder, may have a better attitude if they were told about the cding early on, and if a lot of cders didn't push things to far to quick.

That hits the nail right on the head Sandra! Well said

[Satrana]

The "average" woman does not know what a CD is, they think we are all gay drag queens. They may find us fascinating if they run into one on a night out but generally they have no interest in us and do not see how a CD would fit into their lives. As far as dating a CD, the overwhelming answer is No Thanks!

CDs are listed as non-threatening males - OK to befriend but nothing beyond that. The "average" woman is still conditioned to believe in the real man myth, a man whose duty it is to light her romantic desires by playing out standardized roles in the socially approved manner. A feminine man does not fit the bill since we are thought of more as girl friend material.

Fortunately there are plenty of non average women who can think independently for themselves.

[Hali]

yup sometimes that is so true I love and admire our firemen and women ............ would hate to be in a relayionship with one ........... the stress of their job would not be good for me .... so loving and living with applies to all walks of lives not just cding .... My [/QUOTE]

well said..................most GGs might like CD but not as spouses, while men see CDs as sell-out(s).

[Tal'Aura]

I am very much interested what GGs think of crossdressers. Do they feel replused, amused, complimented or what?

Jolan Tru,

This is an ancient debate, but I have solid reasons to believe that ninety-five percent of female population truly hate all kinds of the transgendered persons. Two percent is amused in a mockingly way, and another two percent wants us cured from this "mental illness". The remaining one percent is maybe on our side, but isn't worth the trouble because of extremely low odds...

[Empress Lainie]

[SIZE=4]My experience has been nothing but positive. The only exception being the tranny hater that got me fired from city hall. I was even welcomed with a hug and open arms from one parent who said us girls have to stick together.

Before I realized my transexual status, my girlfriend did get crazy about the fact she saw me turning in to a woman (I didn't, really!) and didn't speak to me until 6 months after my transition. Now she is my best friend.
Another one is a long time friend of my sister I had little to do with before my transition, now I seem to be her best friend.[/SIZE]