Well after 25 years of dormancy Kristy came out of the gate and got a little sloppy. I started spending a little too much time on the forum and got caught here(of all places.) Anyway,I was planning on telling her in the fall,so I was prepared.
First of all I want to thank all the GGs here for their insight,as well as the educational links provided. Also Tri-ess with the information on their site. We've always had a strong marriage and my wife was willing to educate herself. She realizes I'm the same person she married 36 years ago,and was able to learn about some of "the myths" about CDers. She's not embracing it at this point,but accepting it. We're able to joke about it,and I was able to take my things out of hiding,and dress when she's not home. I still get to go out shopping by myself.(Now I can finally get my Dress Barn credit card )We've set boundaries,and issues of trust,and thankfully the ending has been a happy one. Thanks again for all who have shared their experiences ,and helped me prepare for that fateful day.