I don't have a child nor am I married, (gay here). But, I do think any small boy who instinctively dresses in fem clothes, as innocent as it may be, is showing a sign of things to come.
As he grows older, he will learn what will be socialably acceptable and expected of him. Yes, that's ashame because like most of us, that's when "they grow out of it". But we know, he won't. "She will be there, resting, learning, and growing.'
That's where mom and dad influnce plays into the picture. Dad is a Tgal as well, so as a Dad, he has a unique opportunity to nuture and love his son as not many Dads have done.
I say, watch, love, teach openness and acceptance of all in a positive nature. I say, get to know him well and let him know you hold no prejudices. Even if he grows up to be the biggest jock, military, or butch type of guy, because we all know, the butchest guys can be the most beautiful women, given the right support. Keep the walls down if you can as he grows up. I like the approach the others suggest to bring the topic to your wife.
A very fine line and delicate situation indeed, but honey, aren't we ones for fine lines and delicate situations ourselves.
Good Luck Barbara
Cassie]