And the debate goes on. I can only speak for myself. As Granny Gray puts it, I yam what yam. I started at 3 or 4 walking (sliding) in my mothers pumps. I had to do it. no question. 56 years later I still have to do it. My answer is it's nomal for me as inside i know I was born with the wrong plumbing.
Nature or nurture? I really don't care at this point.
Can I live openly as Lily? Not at this time as I have to earn a living. On the other hand my hair and nails are long, and I wear the appropriate under garments. Off work I'm who I am dressing accordingly whether it's food shopping, going out, or just yard work ect..
All I'm doing is making the outside conform to the inside and when that happens I'm content.
Now how the unwashed see us is a whole 'nother bailiwick.