Do I want to feel like a woman, look like, dress like or just be a woman?

[Jamie VieJolie]

In the end I'd just like to be myself. I'd like to be able to dress in public (I can't pass) and not be hassled.

I want to do some hair removal. I don't like body hair. It's hot and uncomfortable. I have very sensitive skin.

No hormones for me. I don't want to put my body through that. I wouldn't want to have to inject them for the rest of my life either. No judgement here. I'm just talking about what's right for me.

I would just like society to get over it's very narrow-minded concepts of gender.

I just want to be me.

[tricia_uktv]

I think this is the million dollar question. How far do you go? I'm now out, open and I can pass. I am enjoying myself immensly but there is still a desire to go further inside. First though I have to do it 24/7 and I can't do that for at least a year because of children.

[Greymancd]

I know when I went to my therapist when she asked me I knew inside it was to look pretty and that was the driving force. To me everything feminine is pretty and I try and emulate it all.

[freeindress]

Having just received my first breastforms yesterday and worn them for one day gave some answers: dress like a woman to experience women's pretty clothes, then sometimes look a bit like a woman, not trying hard to pass, not be a woman, staying centered on my 40%F/60%M gender.

[Jennifer Marie P.]

Everyone is different and you have to find that out for yourself. Me I want to be a woman and feel like one.

[Jaclyn NM]

I want to look like a woman, and feel like a woman, but I don't want to be a woman, if that makes any sense.

[Katie Layne]

It's all dependent on the moment! Sometimes I want nothing more than to be a woman. To just lay naked in a tub listening to Billy Holiday with a glass of dry red wine. Other times I just want to be convincing so that I can accomplish a task while expressing my femininity. Then I find myself putting on panties sometimes and I realiZe, I'm reAlly not in the
mood at all. I feel like some briefs. I'm very proud of my masculinity just as I am my femininity. Both are equal in my eyes and each useless without the other. But I can also move through each of these thoughts in a single day. Right now I'm dreaming of lipstick and high heels!

[suchacutie]

First of all...if that avatar is you...we are all jealous !!!!

I went down this road too! My male side is quite happy and it was clearly the feel of stockings that first made me wonder. When my wife loved my legs in stockings we decided I would go another step to see how it all looked in heels.

The heels did it. The whole notion of walking in heels gave me such a feminine rush, and when my wife said we needed to buy me a dress, and then we started talking about the differences between women and men, and the psychology, and the emotions.....

Well, I just got sucked into it all a found there was a feminine person there that needed investigation. So, for me it started as a pleasant feeling with stockings and quickly shot forward to wanting to be as comfortable and happy with my feminine self as I am with my masculine self.

I guess I became incredibly selfish in that I wanted to lose nothing and have both. My wife sure doesn't want to lose any of my male self, so everyone is in agreement and it's the feminine side of existence that I want. I'm in the camp that I can't actually BE a woman. But I can be feminine, can learn to be very comfortable and success with my femininity, and learn to pop back and forth.

To answer your question, I think all of us have gone through this and from experience we have evolved to an answer to your question. You will too, I have faith .

tina

[bridget jones]

I wish I didn't have so much body hair to shave.I wish my skin was softer.I wish I had large breast..I'm not sure about losing IT though,however I often dream and day dream about a man penetrating me as I lay as a complete woman.

[urmilaaa2008]

is the first time I said this just be a woman

I cant understand how can any body say JUST a woman, when it something so special

[Jeanna]

I have been thinking about this a lot.
Do I want to feel like a woman, look like, dress like or just be a woman?

I love my life and I would not like to loose anything I have now so . . .

I love feeling like one or what I think one should feel like.

I cannot even answer this one for myself.
I guess this is one of the reason this great website is here . . . to help me figure this out.

If it even matters that we figure this out.

I believe that you aren't confused at all.You are asking all the right questions. Ponder the thought of really being a woman all of the time. It has it's draw backs, every woman I know says the want to come back as a man in their next life. I ask myself " if I were a woman permanently what would I escape to?" I'd probably end up in the transmen side of this forum in 6 months. You're on the right track
Jeanna

[Wen4cd]

I cant understand how can any body say JUST a woman, when it something so special

Why? Women are just human beings like men. Compared to anything non-human, we're practically identical.

[Adelaide]

Like Miranda wrote, I LOVE the feminine feelings when I dress. I feel & look sexy. My whole body / attitude / mindset changes.... I'm a really happy person...
However, unlike Miranda, I DO want sometimes to BE a woman...it's not an escape....it's being able to experience "the other side" at its fullest... But because of family issues, I don't think that I will ever be able to go that far....
A.

[SFRobin]

For me, I would like to dress like a woman, and feel like a woman as well, without giving up entirely my male side.

[diannecourtney]

I like to feel fresh and vibrant and totally new. My breast forms worn about 60 hrs/wk and my nails one out of nine make these feelings come out all the time. Oh well ladies pouring my bod into girdles and the like are excitement beyond belief.

[Malori Cross]

When I get in that special Pink Way (which is almost daily!), I just want to feel more like a woman--and wear some of the great colorful, soft things they get to wear instead of the drab, unimaginative duds guys have to wear (although it's better than it used to be).

[jennifer3169]

i want so bad to be a woman all the way but i cant even get to dress near as often as i want to
jennifer

[Cathytg]

You said: "If it even matters that we figure this out. "

Right there might be the resolution to your question. I did not say "answer".

There is a growing line of thinking in contemporary spirituality which says it is all about the journey and not the end point. As I apply that to my own struggles with gender and dressing, this concept tells me that I need to focus on how well I am handling it at this exact moment. Where I have been isn't too important and where I am going is a mystery anyway.

So, right now you and I are on a journey; let's do it well.