Stephanie and Kelly, I am curious to know your thoughts on a few points.
Do you feel that for the most part, CDs and TSs know and accept their transness at a young age and if they marry in their 20s they are deliberately lying to their wives if they do not tell them the full extent of their desires?
If yes, do you feel this would also have been the case pre-internet days before TGs knew they were not alone?
Do you disagree that some TGs struggle for years hoping it will go away and they go through repetitive cycles of purging? That they are ashamed of telling their loved ones because they feel that it is is an aberration?
Do you agree or disagree that CDing becomes more powerful with time especially if it is suppressed for many years?
And last, do you believe that if a TG has struggled with this for many years and later on in life does come to the realization that she cannot continue to ignore or avoid it, and her wife does not approve, then she must at all costs continue to suppress it?
I'm not trying to be rude or flip, but you both seem to be comfortable with who you are and it surprises me that you do not wish to consider that in a marriage, the wife also has a responsibility to try to understand her husband if he has struggled all of his life? I am speaking here mostly of older people who did not have the benefit of the internet when they were first getting into relationships.
Or have I mistaken your points?
Please take my questions in the spirit they are intended. I would very much like to understand your point of view.