Does your SO prefer you as Female? For everyone to answer

[suchacutie]

My wife wants to know that the man she married is there for her, in that mode, whenever she wants/needs it. Within that agreement, Tina flourishes!

The fact is that we both have a fascination with Tina. Both of us keep trying to figure out who Tina is, and find it especially fascinating when Tina and the male in me have different opinions!

Whether fortunately or unfortunately, life is pretty intense and full for us. In that framework, Tina just can't be 24/7, but that's perfect as we like both sides of me.

Tina et al.

[Kerigirl2009]

For me the answer is simple- My wife said to me in a fun and joking way "that B**** has to go" now I know she was laughing at the time but she would love for this to all just disappear forever. So definately man mode only.

[Stitch]

Another SO here.

I'm going to have to say I prefer my partner as a man.
Don't me wrong as I love his femme side and I'm completely accepting but since his femme and male sides are pretty much the same person (his mannerisms, voice and topics don't change at all, just the clothes) I'd much rather see him in sexy man clothes. He presents as male 80% of the time anyway, so it'd would be like me preferring someone I only meet occasionally to my partner.

[Sheila]

While this is more of a fantasy for ourselves, I have yet to date a SO who prefer their man to be their woman. Even within this forum, I think most of the SO deep down want the man in us and it is out of pure love that they accept the female.

Sorry but just because you have not found an SO that accepts you does not qualify you to comment on what accepting SO's really want deep down .......... I met Debs on here 5 months after my previous relationship broke up, I knew Debs long before I knew MR Debs (We had passed in thread previously and PM'd each other occasionally over certain things in threads even when I was with my EX) .. Debs was in fact bothered that I would not accept her guy side ........ I enjoy both but will accept either/and or both as and when She/He chooses to appear ........ Love certainly has a lot to do with it, but not love for the gender, but rather love for the person

[gender_blender]

All my female partners prefer me to be feminine, probably because I don't look too male and pass easily without makeup.

[Kara Connor]

My wife prefers me as male, which is no problem since I am quite happy as my male self as long as I can ocasionally "go girly" and dress. However, since she has become more supportive and I have become more accepting of myself, she loves the fact that I am happier and less stressed in guy mode. For some reason I have also been revamping my male wardrobe, losing weight and just taking more care over my appearence, so my SO says if CD-ing is what it takes to increase my happiness and improve my appearance in both modes then she is all for it. I like to have the best of both worlds

[Jessica Who]

She definitely does not prefer me that way, in fact sometimes she has trouble looking at me because she says I look authentically female when I am dressed. Although she is completely supportive and happy with me crossdressing, she most certainly prefers me in guy mode

[Mirani]

My SO allowed me to see my preference (to present 24/7 as female).

She encouraged me and supported me to understand how much I wanted to be "me" and showed me it was possible.

I know she liked me in male mode, but I also know she is delighted by my choice. She say's it I because I "blossom as Mira" but I existed in my male presentation.

She is right. I have never felt so right.

[LindaMarie]

[SIZE="3"]As an actual SO here, I prefer my partner to be happy. Everything else is moot.

Yeah yeah yeah. I know. Not the answer you want. [/SIZE]

I loved your answer.

[Sandra]

Love certainly has a lot to do with it, but not love for the gender, but rather love for the person

[DemonicDaughter]

[SIZE="3"]

While this is more of a fantasy for ourselves, I have yet to date a SO who prefer their man to be their woman. Even within this forum, I think most of the SO deep down want the man in us and it is out of pure love that they accept the female.

You are sooooo wrong!

I date my partner BECAUSE she is who she is. Not because of clothing, not because of what pronoun she uses, but because of the person she is. Were she to decide right now that transitioning wasn't for her and she felt she had to be in male mode, I'd understand and still love her.

But I would GREATLY miss the woman she has become.

I much prefer the female, she's more easy going and a much nicer person.

I prefer women overall in general as partners, but if given the choice, I'd also prefer my partner as female.

Sorry but just because you have not found an SO that accepts you does not qualify you to comment on what accepting SO's really want deep down ..........

My thoughts exactly

I loved your answer.

Thank you. [/SIZE]

[dennisGTS]

I wish...if that were the case, I would be CDing almost all the time (except for going to work and out in public). But back to reality, she ultimately would want me to be a man - no CDing at all.

[UASIANGAL]

Respectful of all the opinions here but I stand by mine and if you look and take a poll, it is still the MINORITY of SO who would like to see their partner dressed. It is not a matter of right or wrong, statistically, it is the reality.

No need to be angry as this is the reality and those precious women who accepts and encourage their SO to be dressed 24/7 has my highest respect and if I ever find one, I will happily still be in the minority.

Sorry but just because you have not found an SO that accepts you does not qualify you to comment on what accepting SO's really want deep down .......... I met Debs on here 5 months after my previous relationship broke up, I knew Debs long before I knew MR Debs (We had passed in thread previously and PM'd each other occasionally over certain things in threads even when I was with my EX) .. Debs was in fact bothered that I would not accept her guy side ........ I enjoy both but will accept either/and or both as and when She/He chooses to appear ........ Love certainly has a lot to do with it, but not love for the gender, but rather love for the person

If you read my comments, I do not disagree on the love for the person and I DID NOT state love for the gender either so I take your comment as the same meaning. Sorry, just because you are an excepting SO does not qualify you (as an minority) to comment for the majority of women in the world. Do you think there are lots of GG even on this forum looking for their mate? Look at the statistics if you can. So you accept MR. DEBS in any form or way, that is absolutely fantastic but sorry, you are still in the minority which I pointed out not as a right or wrong but just as a fact. Nothing wrong with being an exception.

[SIZE="3"]

You are sooooo wrong!

I date my partner BECAUSE she is who she is. Not because of clothing, not because of what pronoun she uses, but because of the person she is. Were she to decide right now that transitioning wasn't for her and she felt she had to be in male mode, I'd understand and still love her.

But I would GREATLY miss the woman she has become.



I prefer women overall in general as partners, but if given the choice, I'd also prefer my partner as female.



My thoughts exactly



Thank you. [/SIZE]

With a comment like that, would you say you are a lesbian? Do you think majority of women in this world thinks like you? Just what percentage of women in the world likes to date a CD man and like to have her man dressed all the time. Tell me I am wrong again. I am not delusional about the world I live in.

[Tamara Croft]

This is a tricky one for me, in some respects I prefer her, but living with her 24/7, not in this life time... it would be like living with a full time tart I like her personality, I could live with that 24/7, he can be hard work... but I still prefer having my man around

[DemonicDaughter]

[SIZE="3"]

With a comment like that, would you say you are a lesbian? Do you think majority of women in this world thinks like you? Just what percentage of women in the world likes to date a CD man and like to have her man dressed all the time. Tell me I am wrong again. I am not delusional about the world I live in.

Okay, you're wrong again.

No, I would say I'm bisexual but far closer to lesbian as I've only had a very VERY few relationships with men. I think that the majority of women love their partners for who they are. Its when that person puts on clothes and the attitudes change that an SO feels they don't know their partner as well. They are uncomfortable with it because its unfamiliar.

And because women who date men, are dating men. Not women. So when a man presents himself as a woman and expects his heterosexual partner to find her attractive its really no wonder there are so many issues. Would you be attracted to a woman who had stubble on her chin, no make up, wearing masculine clothes and acting like a man WHILE YOU ARE IN MALE MODE? Somehow, I think if you truly were, you'd be dating men about now.

Now if you start dating a woman who knows about your cding from the start, you've got a damn good chance that she'll not only be okay with it but into it.

And just so you know, there are TONS of women who are into feminine men. Its a fetish and there are entire conventions dedicated to it![/SIZE]

[UASIANGAL]

[SIZE="3"]

Okay, you're wrong again.

No, I would say I'm bisexual but far closer to lesbian as I've only had a very VERY few relationships with men. I think that the majority of women love their partners for who they are. Its when that person puts on clothes and the attitudes change that an SO feels they don't know their partner as well. They are uncomfortable with it because its unfamiliar.

And because women who date men, are dating men. Not women. So when a man presents himself as a woman and expects his heterosexual partner to find her attractive its really no wonder there are so many issues. Would you be attracted to a woman who had stubble on her chin, no make up, wearing masculine clothes and acting like a man WHILE YOU ARE IN MALE MODE? Somehow, I think if you truly were, you'd be dating men about now.

Now if you start dating a woman who knows about your cding from the start, you've got a damn good chance that she'll not only be okay with it but into it.

And just so you know, there are TONS of women who are into feminine men. Its a fetish and there are entire conventions dedicated to it![/SIZE]

Well now you've convinced me you are delusional and wrong. You went out of your way to find a transman. You speak of TONS of women as if that is the majority while you and me and this forum is of the minority. Just get this right. There ARE women who likes feminine men but not enough to go around and is a MINORITY of the women in this world. Unless you are speaking of another planet in which case, sign us up. All you are saying here is just the facts for the MAJORITY of women. Do you disagree? Do you think you are the majority? The majority of women who found out their husband is a CD ends up divorced. Unless the couple were married when they were more mature and past mid life - which still is in the MINORITY. Now at what stage of dating do would I tell a women I am a crossdresser? First contact: "Hi, my name is Bob. You look fabulous in that dress. I love to try it on sometime." seriously, that would be great and I weed out all the non accepting potentials. I also will be alone for quite sometime. So far, it is getting to know each other, putting all our best features on the table and when things start to get serious, I come out with it. This should be another topic so I'll stop here.

Right or Wrong, its clear to me how the world works. I really do appreciate you taking the time to debate this though and I must thank you for being here because it does show me there are accepting SO for CDmen out there.

[DemonicDaughter]

[SIZE="3"]

Well now you've convinced me you are delusional and wrong.

Well, so much for not taking offense. Geez! Relax. If you're so convinced I'm wrong then why so defensive sounding?

You went out of your way to find a transman.

Where do you get this? I date a transwoman whom I met on this website. Which would mean I was on this site prior to dating her. I don't date people because of any one facet of their personality. Its extremely rare that anyone does that. So I certainly don't "seek" transpeople out just because they are trans.

You speak of TONS of women as if that is the majority while you and me and this forum is of the minority. Just get this right. There ARE women who likes feminine men but not enough to go around and is a MINORITY of the women in this world.

A quick search on the internet regarding Sissies and you'll find an abundant of websites dedicated specifically to people who like men that dress as women. Both men and women, straight and gay. I never said the were the majority. I just said that they aren't as few as you make it sound.

Metrosexual men wouldn't be so popular if so many women didn't like men being even slightly feminine.

And with all the crossdressers on here who have SO's, if you honestly believe that their wives are completely clueless as to their more "feminine" nature, then who is really being delusional here?

Just because a woman is not sexually attracted to the feminine, doesn't mean she is repulsed by it.

Unless you are speaking of another planet in which case, sign us up. All you are saying here is just the facts for the MAJORITY of women. Do you disagree?

I disagree that I am saying "majority" because I didn't. I'm simply saying its a lot higher than YOU imply.

Do you think you are the majority? The majority of women who found out their husband is a CD ends up divorced.

As if that was their ONLY problem. Do you honestly believe that if we took a poll of the SO's on why they divorced their CDing parters that the majority of them would say, "Because he's feminine"?

Of course it couldn't be that they feel they don't know the man they married. Nor that they feel they have been shut out of a part of their husbands lives. And it couldn't possibly be all the secrecy, right? No, its just the crossdressing because women can't stand the thought of a feminine man. Right.

Unless the couple were married when they were more mature and past mid life - which still is in the MINORITY.

I tend to believe that the younger generations are far more tolerable of this sort of lifestyle than the older generations.

Now at what stage of dating do would I tell a women I am a crossdresser? First contact: "Hi, my name is Bob. You look fabulous in that dress. I love to try it on sometime." seriously, that would be great and I weed out all the non accepting potentials. I also will be alone for quite sometime. So far, it is getting to know each other, putting all our best features on the table and when things start to get serious, I come out with it. This should be another topic so I'll stop here.

Just like anything else of a personal nature, when you feel the relationship is getting serious but before you make any strong commitments to each other.

Right or Wrong, its clear to me how the world works. I really do appreciate you taking the time to debate this though and I must thank you for being here because it does show me there are accepting SO for CDmen out there.

I'm not saying its easy but it has more to do with society's viewpoint of things like crossdressing than it does lumping women into a single category and saying they don't like feminine men.

My exhusband was a CDer though he will not admit it to anyone, even himself. I never cared either way but he did. HE was the one that felt less "masculine" and felt that it was a problem in our marriage. HE was the one that was obsessed with making it the subject of every argument. And if it wasn't CDing it would have been a different topic.

That's the reality of what people do. They obsess over their "faults", they believe that one or two particular factors are the cause of all their heartache. A great deal of people sabotage their relationships because they cannot accept themselves, who they are or what they do.

I apparently AM attracted to feminine men being so far out of the four men I've dated, two were CDers. Otherwise, I date women as I am bisexual. Currently I'm not an SO of a CDer. I'm an SO of a Transwoman (as stated previously). But I do far more than "support" my CDing friends. I am proud of who they are as people, regardless of their attire. So are many of us.[/SIZE]

[JaytoJillian]

Heck no!

[Joan_CD]

Gee.... it was a simple question... which side does your SO prefer... if any preference. Why all the fighting? People give an answer and that should be it. No one has to defend their position... it's what they think and they are entitled to it. DD said what she thinks... what's the big deal? (Oh boy am I gonna get slammed now)!!!!!

[BunnieCashmere]

At times, my SO most definitely prefers me as a woman. She even encourages me to get dressed up sometimes!

[SusanMarie]

My SO just prefers 'me' as I am.



By the way DD, I love your answer! Direct and from the heart.

[stefcd1]

My my girls, didn't know I would have started such a conversation!!

For me, still looking for that GG that would like to keep me in female attire.

[Samantha B L]

My SO is passed away now but she prefered me en fem all the time. I don't know to say that she preferred me as a crossdresser or as a female but whatever either one of those are she enjoyed me as that. I used to go and stay with her all the time and I stayed dressed at her apartment for days. she passed after a long illness in 2005 but I was lucky to have known her. She didn't have long and we both knew it. I was in the process of learning basic email and websearches from a freind of mine. I remarked to her more than once "there's a lot of crossdressers stuff on the web" The last Christmas she was alive she gave me a pc! She knew she wouldn't be around to mentor me so in effect,she gave me what you might call a "coming out" which I might not have had otherwise

[Tora]

Nice Question! Mine would prefer the Male version. She did purchase my first long nylon nightgown for me. She allows nightgowns, panties and a few slips at home, nightgowns any, and most nights.

[Adelaide]

Some of you are so lucky!
My wife absolutely does not support me at all. For all those of you that your SO approves / supports your cding, keep her & take care of her!!!!
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