1. I grew up with a LOT of very insensitive male jerks! They had more hot women than anyone could count!
Us "nice" guys didn't do NEARLY as well!
Magick, do U have any trouble getting dates? His response
may SURPRISE a lot of u!
2. This threads BEGS the question:
" Why would ANYONE get married, considering the odds against marriages lasting in this day and age?"
2 people who love each other don't HAVE to get married to stay together, do they? Sometimes, marriage RUINS a good relationship!
U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.
Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!
AKA mothers-in-lawOriginally Posted by Sheila
Paula she is not blaming it on bachelors ............... she is blaming it on dictatorial peeps who believe their way is the only way in a relationship
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Paula
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Magickman, if your so happy being alone then why pander for exterior support, which seems to have been your initial motive, as you seemed surprised your opinion wasn't very popular.
Your foray about you living in a private castle, sounds like a bitter exaggeration, or are you just looking for a reaction? You seem to have an air of defeat about you, is it due to age perhaps, or do you think you feel wiser now? Does your time feel limited in what you can do? Do you have friends in the outside world? I seriously hope you do.
"apparently not popular" ? Well Gee, I wonder why?
...this site ostensibly portrays itself as a non-judgmental outlet to "speak one's mind" without being shouted down by the syncophants adhering to the "party line".
Not being a bandwagon-jumper, and being capable of independent thought, I am of the opinion that the OP's argument has merit.
When an individual has determined that a prospective partner is unsuitable, for any reason, that potential relationship should be terminated.
And to disallow that determination is unwarranted; and, in fact, offensive.
Excuse me Rebecca, but when a member posts a thread literally stating that all women aren't worth marrying in so many ways, then excuse me for saying something. He posted this thread to get a reaction, he got one... if you don't like it, then don't read it. But I for one will not stand for thatfrom anyone.
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If I blamed it on bachelors, I'd have to join the rank of singles myself as I was once there.
Its not people who wish to be eternally single. I've had many times in my life where I didn't want to date anyone at all for my own reasons.
What I was referring to was someone that makes it sound like they would run at the first sign of trouble in the relationship.
That's what's got everyone so riled up. Especially us SO's who have/do work so hard to work through things with our partners. When you are the partner to a CDer the secret isn't theirs alone. It becomes yours. Their issues with dressing becomes your issues. Just as with any other problems someone has, when you start dating, it becomes part of your life.
It hurts to be an accepting member of this community and have someone type up a post on just how easily we can be tossed aside because we might have problems with it or because it causes arguments. And it hurts to make is sound as if us SOs are controlling and manipulative because we don't go 90 miles an hour along with our CDing partners!
*sigh*
I'm just saying, that it hurts to have someone say we are disposable.
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One of my good friends who is single lives by a very similar philosophy. He has no shortage of female companionship, and he is brutally honest with the women he dates. They know exactly what they can expect from him in terms of commitment--absolutely nothing. Those ladies are generally no slouches-- they tend to be working professionals, attractive and very intelligent. He is really a good guy who gets his energy primarily from being alone I.E., he's very introverted. So, as the slamfest continues, just remember that it takes all kinds, different strokes for different folks, etc.
Personally, I'm glad you choose to live alone, the rest of the world is probably better off for it. Enjoy your solitude!
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After reading through this thread, I have just one question remaining......
Has he gone yet?
words of wisdom.Excuse me Rebecca, but when a member posts a thread literally stating that all women aren't worth marrying in so many ways, then excuse me for saying something. He posted this thread to get a reaction, he got one... if you don't like it, then don't read it. But I for one will not stand for that
i am starting feel sick
Tamara, my reading of the OP's thread didn't leave me with the impression "that all women weren't worth marrying in so many ways." I believe that to be your inference, not what may, or may not, have been implied.Excuse me Rebecca, but when a member posts a thread literally stating that all women aren't worth marrying in so many ways, then excuse me for saying something. He posted this thread to get a reaction, he got one... if you don't like it, then don't read it. But I for one will not stand for that
And aren't all threads posted to get a reaction? If not, what's the point?
Not to be redundant, but I DID read the post. And all that followed.
B.S.? That's your opinion. And is respected.
Can't the same consideration be afforded the O.P.?
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the OP's opinion was given consideration and found to be FULL of
I allow myself to set healthy boundaries ..... to say no to what does not align with my values, to say yes to what does.
Boundaries assist me to remain healthy, honest and living a life that is true to me
And if you want to go to the movies go alone
if you want someone to enjoy dinner with you go to your parents
if you want love why bother you live alone
I do live alone and there isn't much I wouldn't give up to have a so in my life.
I have only been on this board for a few months and most people here are nice,respectful and supportive. I knew I would find a A$$hole on here sooner or later. I have a wife and yes there are times she can drive me nutz but I would never trade her. this guy is a total jerk! when blow up Betty goes flat and Rosie palmer gets arthritis I hope he feels his life is complete!
Oh, really. And it appears your contention is "majority rules".the OP's opinion was given consideration and found to be FULL of
And mine is everyone is entitled to voice their opinion.
Debate that; Bring it on!
you wanna take this to PM cause I am more than willing to hun
I allow myself to set healthy boundaries ..... to say no to what does not align with my values, to say yes to what does.
Boundaries assist me to remain healthy, honest and living a life that is true to me
No, I'd prefer an open forum.you wanna take this to PM cause I am more than willing to hun
I've nothing to hide.
I'll say again: bring it on!
I think I smell a troll in the op
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You have a lot to learn and are terribly naive about life and sharing it. You also sound very self centered and extremely selfish. Sorry if it hits nerve but thats how i see it and are calling it. You seem to find criticism in the institution of marriage when you in fact have never experienced it. I feel very sorry for your selfish attitude. If I were GG and knew your feelings on our first date I would never care to see you again.
I have been married 40 years to a wonderful accepting supporting wife and does not fit in to any of those warped stereotyped clichés that you caustically mentioned.
I am with Tamara 100% on this. He is a sad case to needs to be butt slapped.
Megan
And this is why you're aloneI'd be surprised if any woman would want such a person in their life that seems like a dictator.
YOU GO GIRL!!!!!!Give this $_ithead apiece of your mind!!!!!!!!!
I am not much of a believer in marriage.
And committed to childfree life, as well.
But that is just in my own life.
Anyone else can do what they like.
I have noticed that merely saying I am happy never to have marriied and that I never wanted any kids, brings forth a torrent of hostility. That applies out in the world, as well as here.
I don't tell anyone else that they cannot get married. Why do they get so excited that I, personally, don't like marriage?
In my opinion, again, just my opinion, marriage is a bad deal for men. But other men are still free to marry, if they want to.
From observation of society, and reading of marriage statistics, it appears that marriage, as an institution, is in trouble. There is a very high marriage dissolution rate.
But some married people are very happy.
Marriage works for some people, and not for others.
It seems too risky to me, though.
There have been some very nasty personal comments, here. I just consider the source, and disregard them.
Disregard them? seriously... well ok... but I'm going to have the last comment. I feel this thread is nothing but a TROLL thread. You've pissed off a lot of members, congrats.. way to go...
And anyone else want to 'bring it on', you can damn well do it via PM, NOT on this board. And with that all said, this thread is done.
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