Well, I finally did it. After a couple of years on this site, and much encouragement both in general on the site and from a few friends I've made here, I finally took the plunge and told my wife of 9+ years about my crossdressing.
While there are tons of resources on this site I'd like to especially thank Marla for her post "How to tell your partner" (that post is closed or I would have thanked her there!). It's essentially a guidebook and it shows enormous understanding both of "my" side and my wife's.
Anyway, I love her very much and although this has been a big shock to her, she loves me too and we are working on it. Very slow going here at first, I'm not sure when (or if) she will be ready to see me dressed, but it feels so wonderful not having to hide anymore. Notwithstanding the circumstances not being what she would have chosen, there has been a hidden blessing in that we have had a level of deep conversations and vulnerability that we've probably never had before.
So while this story is still being written, I wanted to say thanks to everyone on this site for their encouragement. For those of you that have healthy, open relationships with your wives involving your crossdressing, let me say that you are an inspiration to so many of us.
Anyway, I'll stop rambling now, but I guess I just wanted to say thanks!!
Denise