What did your wife or SO say when you told her that you are a cross dresser? Has your perception of what she said changed with time?
I told my wife about me on our second date. What did she say? "Wow! Do you have cool clothes?" It is no wonder that I love her so much.
That was four years ago. I have come to realize that she is warmly understanding and very supportive. She immediately accepted the dressing as part of who I am and kept right on developing our relationship with that as an added dimension.
What did your wife or SO say? I am not asking how has your relationship developed; just what was her initial reaction?