Originally Posted by
KayC
I'm not going to quote everything from Lorileah, it seems redundant to, but I am amazed you can't understand our problem being attracted to someone who looks like a woman when we're heterosexual. And it's not just a dress, it's the breasts, the heels, the nails, the wig, the makeup, jewelry, perfume, everything. Come on, when you wear all that, you're trying to look like a woman!
I don't know anyone in their right mind that'd be more comfortable in a dress shoveling snow, but I say, if they want to, more power to them!
I never said a male changes into a female when they dress, I said they LOOK like a woman! Our sexual attraction is more than just to who the inner person is, it's also affected by sight, and smell.
I seriously doubt I could look like a man if I put on a plaid shirt and pair of jeans, my features are too feminine and I'm small.
And I don't "assume" a guy wants to be a woman if he likes feminine things, I never said anything of the kind.
You said I will always harbor these feelings...how can you presume to say how I will "always" be? I continually try to learn and grow and change, hence I do. I suggest you go back and re-read my posts and re-read your responses...you're putting words in my mouth that aren't there. For instance, I never said I have any insecurity about being bi, I'm not bi, I'm heterosexual, I stated that, I could care less what I am, I am just stating a fact...it's not for us to decide or change what we are, to say differently would be kind of an oxymoron, wouldn't it?
Assume my man is gay??? Where the blank did you come up with that? In the beginning when us GGs first learn our SO is a CD, we have QUESTIONS, which when answered, help us know what we're dealing with...however some of the CDers have lied for so long about it that their SO doesn't know what they can believe and what they can't...then the issue is not CDing but trust. And please don't assume you know what I want in a man or what I think a man is, you don't know me well enough to make such a presumption. No matter how gorgeous you are, for instance, I can tell you are a man.