Ze's romance woes

[Ze]

Sometimes, you make us cry.

Is that when you see photos of me?

[FireflyGG]

+1 for My Chemical Romance.

Carry on

[Fab Karen]

Okay, after the outpouring of condolences, compliments, PMs, naughty photos, fan clubs, nominations for prom king, and other forms of sympathy, I'm really feeling better about things.

Naughty photos?! Who would do such a thing?

[Andy66]

Yeah, I'm still alone in real life, but at least I have people on here that make me laugh and are here for me. And that seriously helps.

Hey, I'm real... sort of like that crazy old auntie you never see, but you get Christmas cards from.

It's Aeva's fault. I have no control over it. She made me a facebook page since I refuse to have one. I hadn't realized the link didn't work for other people, though. (I'm not a member of the site and it still somehow works for me. )

Maybe it's just me having a problem with the link, I don't know. I'm not terribly high tech. And I'm not a Facebook member either. Kind of cute and funny that Aeva did that, though.

[Ze]

+1 for My Chemical Romance.

Carry on

I swear, they've saved my life on more than one occasion.

[Lorileah]

Naughty photos?! Who would do such a thing?

[Fab Karen]

"Debbie Does Denver"! I thought recognized that face...

[Ze]

Well, we're back on speaking terms. We hadn't talked since that fatal last exchange, but my Pixie detox has been rough, so I finally gave her a friendly text yesterday. Just seeing if things were going well for her, etc, and that if she didn't want to pursue a friendship, then I understood.

Long story short, she acted like it never happened (or at least didn't mention it), and we pretty much went back to how we've always been. (The session was shorter because I didn't heckle her anywhere near as much.) So, I guess she's accepting, just heterosexual.

It'll be nice to at least try and achieve a friendship. She's too nice to just never see again. And that way, maybe I can slowly charm her over to the dark side. (Yeah, I know that's impossible, but I can dream, can't I?)

So that's my senseless update. I didn't want her thinking that I only wanted her company for my own gain. Did that make sense?

[Lorileah]

*wanders in humming "Friends and lovers" by Gloria Loring and Carl Anderson"*

'cause I'll be your friend
And I'll be your lover
Well, I know in our hearts we agree
We don't have to be one or the other


Hope spring eternal. Things could blossom, you know.

[VeronicaMoonlit]

So, I guess she's accepting, just heterosexual.

It'll be nice to at least try and achieve a friendship. She's too nice to just never see again.

Yay, that's great Ze.

And that way, maybe I can slowly charm her over to the dark side. (Yeah, I know that's impossible, but I can dream, can't I?)

<Vader voice>If you only knew the power of the Dark side</Vader voice>

Veronica Rogers

[Fab Karen]

Long story short, she acted like it never happened (or at least didn't mention it), and we pretty much went back to how we've always been. (The session was shorter because I didn't heckle her anywhere near as much.) So, I guess she's accepting, just heterosexual.

It'll be nice to at least try and achieve a friendship. She's too nice to just never see again. And that way, maybe I can slowly charm her over to the dark side. (Yeah, I know that's impossible, but I can dream, can't I?)

Especially at your age, it takes courage to be a friend instead of running away. Though it won't be too long until it'll become a long-distance friendship.

Dark side: "Pixie, does this smell like chloroform to you?" ( Lorileah already asked, I don't know where you can get that stuff )

[Ze]

So this question has been bothering me since the rejection. She really seems like a nice person and so forth, and those that have been following this thread know the biggest goings-on that happened. Now, to me, there were some very obvious times that I was flirting. (I won't go into all of them here; they're scattered throughout the thread. But the biggest were things like me asking if she'd want to go to see a movie and get dinner afterward, watch a documentary on bisexuality with me, etc., and she'd always say that she really wanted to.) But then when I finally flat-out asked her, she (politely) declined and said she wasn't into that. So let's get a poll going here. Do you think throughout this whole thing she:

A. Had a feeling that I was interested in more than a friendship, yet didn't do anything about it because she wasn't interested. (i.e. Hoping I wouldn't ask her.)

B. Knew, but figured she could take advantage of me for the time being. (I don't feel she did, but it's just a generalized option.)

C. Somehow had no clue whatsoever.

D. Was curious in the theoretical sense, but then got a bit scared when it really happened.

E. Is lying. (i.e. She's bisexual, but just not interested in me.)

F. Something else.

So what say you? I'm still just totally blown away that she's not interested orientation-wise. I could have sworn by this point that she was at least bi-curious. What happened?

"Pixie, does this smell like chloroform to you?"

Okay, that was seriously funny.

[DanielMacBride]

Dude, why does that even matter? She wasn't interested, it doesn't matter what the reasons are, don't torture yourself with overanalysing it :P

[Faith_G]

I think you were reading a little too much into her responses. You should know that girls are socialized to be agreeable and cooperative.

A movie and dinner does not necessarily equal a date. Being curious about the concept of bisexuality (wanting to watch a documentary about it) does not mean someone is bisexual or even bi-curious.

I vote for "C" or possibly "D".

If she really was bi and not interested in you, she would probably have told you that you just weren't her type.

Her responses would likely have been much different had you been presenting as male. That's not to say you would have got her in the sack, or that you would have been rebuffed immediately - just that she would have reacted differently to you.

[Fab Karen]

Maybe C. or D. ( A movie I recommend on this subject "Kissing Jessica Stein" ( straight girl frustrated with seeking Mr. Right answers a woman seeking woman ad ) )
IF it is E. she thought it the easiest way to turn you down.

As mentioned, seeing a movie/having dinner isn't necessarily considered a date unless it's made clear ( phrases like "take you to dinner" are a little clearer indication )

[Ze]

Dude, why does that even matter? She wasn't interested, it doesn't matter what the reasons are, don't torture yourself with overanalysing it :P

I! Must! Know! You understand, dude; it's a Virgo thing.

( phrases like "take you to dinner" are a little clearer indication )

I did that with the movie concept once. I know it wasn't asking her out on a date, but I thought it was a good way to test the ground.

Oh well. I'll probably never know. And that drives me nuts!

[Fab Karen]

Some women are inscrutable.
The Naked Twister question always gets results ( what those results are is another matter ).

[Ze]

I've decided to try and quit cold turkey on obsessing again. I think locking the thread will help.

Thank you to everybody who's given me advice over the past few months. It's really been nice to see so many people interested in a problem totally insignificant and unrelated to them. Hopefully I in turn was able to provide a bit of agonized entertainment.

But yeah, thread closed. I'll be less tempted then. It's also still oddly painful just to have open; not sure why.