A few years ago my wife wanted to be the Ostrich, she didn't want to talk about crossdressing at all. She wanted nothing to do with it. It was OK if she didn't see it, hear about or know about it.
As I have posted in the past she over time became very supportive of my need to crossdress, but still wanted nothing to do with it. This was a great source of pain for me. Here I was able to go out, shave, dress, be out and about etc. This woman I love wouldn't talk to me or anyone else about these things. I was happy for myself but felt guilty for her.
I posted my concerns for her at the time and got great advice from the members here. You all told me to take it slow and focus on her needs, not to push the crossdressing issue, answer her questions but not to open the flood gates.
The last update I gave on my relationship with her and her dealing with my crossdressing, we had a couple of good talks and she was becoming more comfortable with my gender expression. She didn't want to see it but was fine with me doing it. She even gave me a really pretty cell phone cover. That may seem small to many but it meant the world to me and still does. That was some months ago.
So fast forward to October, The lovely and wonderful Mrs Daphne is dressing me up as Abby from the TV show NCIS for Halloween! Over the past couple of weeks we have gone shopping for skirts and tops which she had me try on, picked out a wig, makeup, shoes etc.
She and I have been having so much fun together. She helped me make a coffin shaped purse for my costume. It was so pretty when it was finished I mentioned that it was so nice its a shame to only use it once. She smiled and said " You should keep it for your make up every girl should have a makeup case " I have to tell you my knees almost buckled! I started to well up we talked a bit more. She is teaching me how to sew and picked out several patterns for skirts and dresses and such that would work for me.
Mrs D is very clear about not wanting to see me dressed other than halloween, she married a man and thats that, but she loves the costume thing and thinks this would be a great yearly tradition. But at the same time she goes out of her way to make sure I have the time and freedom to be Daphne. Also she wants me to be comfortable at home and not feel like I have to hide anything. My clothes hang in my closet, or folded neatly in my dresser. She moved a small antique desk into our bedroom and hung a mirror above it so I would have a vanity! She gave me a jewelry box and, Lavender Sachets for my lingerie drawer. She even said it was OK if I underdressed all the time, to which she added "I know you do already I just want you to know I am OK with it".
I feel so blessed to be married to this amazing woman, I wanted to do something nice for her so I sold a bunch of my stuff on Ebay so we would have money to redo our spare room into a craft/sewing studio. She said "you didn't have to do this" "I wanted to you deserve it" I said. When she asked the occasion I said I wanted to thank her for being so supportive, I said I know it's not easy being married to me" She smiled gave me a kiss and said I know it's not easy being you I want you be happy" She went on to say this is all she could give right now and hoped that it was enough. I said it was beyond anything I could ask for.
I want to thank all for the advice that started me down this road especially all the GGs and CDs who answered my questions I posted in the loved ones section those many months ago. From the bottom of my heart!