After knowing my wife for 31 years and being married for 23 years, I finally told her that I was a crossdresser. After the initial shock, we started to talk. We've been talking, hugging, and crying together for the past 48 hours. I am so lucky and blessed to be married to the most beautiful and incredible woman in the world. She said that she had her suspicions, especially from earlier on in our marriage when we would play around with "dressing up" but never telling her my deeper desires to dress fully and go out. Discussing it further, I told her of the few times I've been out dressed and that was a bit jarring for her. She's hurt because of all the lying and deception and scared of the future. But, she understands!!! And she's willing to help so I don't have to suffer with it and sneak around anymore. I know, she's an amazing person! We're taking it slowly, one day, one moment at a time but I feel we're going to be OK.
I want to thank all those in this forum who have helped me with their experiences and advice--thank you!!
I hope to give updates as things progress.