I pretty much have always been single for the most of my life, never have had a relationship much longer than 6 months, and I am 29. While I admit that I am a commitment phobe, before coming clean to myself (and to a few friends) about my gender issues, I've always felt another underlying thing that has made me a little nervous about getting into a serious relationship with some one. However I did date more frequently before coming out to myself and a few of my friends than I do now.
Since coming out, I know that if I seriously dated a girl, I would have to tell her about my situation, to be honest with her and myself, and those few friends would make sure I tell the person as well. (not in a negative way against me, but in order to be true to myself)
I feel lately like I have been avoiding dating girls, and I have had an extreme dry spell lately.
I feel like it is harder for me now to really meet some one because in the back of my mind I am always wondering how she will react when I tell her about my gender issues.
I went out on a date last night with a girl that I think is really nice, and I could be interested in pursuing further. I could use some more intimacy in my life, not only mentally, but physically as well.
We talked a lot about ourselves last night, and I know she is very pro-glbt issues. However, she also said that she likes to date masculine guys, no metro-sexuals or effeminate guys at all. Well S..! I do happen to be pretty metro and effeminate at times, and then there is the whole dressing side as well.
So I am finding myself in a dilemma here already, and the subject has yet to really come up. I know it is mostly in my head at this point too.
I am very certain that if it was to start getting to the point that we are both very interested, I would have to tell her, and I would tell her in a way that is honest and open, and tell her that I understand that I'm not a person she could date. (I do think that even if it changes her views of me as some one to have a relationship with, she would still be friends and supportive though)
So I guess what I am looking for is advice and to see if others kinda feel the same way about dating