Have you ever noticed that most of the people who recommend counseling and therapy are counselors and therapists?
I recommend paying for therapy out of your budget for clothes, shoes, wigs, and makeup.
Have you ever noticed that most of the people who recommend counseling and therapy are counselors and therapists?
I recommend paying for therapy out of your budget for clothes, shoes, wigs, and makeup.
No thank you, I feel fine!
Tina
The answer is no I don't. But, just today I was looking for one online and in the phone book. I told my wife about my desire to dress about 6 or seven months ago. The subject was never brought up again since then.
I got rid of all my clothes and makeup shortly after I told her..I wanted to stop and be the man she married. Well, guess what. Off to the store I go to buy new items this month.
When she got home I told her about looking for some help and she told me that my dressing was OK with her. There are alot of other secrets or feelings that I could have that could be alot worst. My desire is a little strange to her but she excepts it.
Jessica
You Bet I do....
The secret is to find the right therapist. One who help you find who you are, and help you accept what it is. One who will tell you what she/he can or cannot do. For me. it has been really helpful, and it is another reason to get "Dressed Up!". Insurance can be a wonderful thing.
I am so thankful for my therapists. Even though they were Christian counselors, they were very professional and well educated (PHD's), neither condemning or condoning, but first helped me to discover self-acceptance through being open and honest with others and really "letting in" the acceptance and love others give. I found self-acceptance when I learned how to stand up and take care of myself by setting boundries, accepting personal responsibility, but mostly in relating to others in genuine listening to how others feel and letting that affect me, without controlling me. Also giving and taking and having a balance.
"If someone has an issue they want to work out with you, they have every right to tell you how they feel, they do not have the right to tell you how you should be". Dr. Joy Browne
Joni
"Yes, to dance beneath the diamond sky with one hand waving free" Bob Dylan
I have seen a therapist to empty my head of crazy thoughts in a somewhat safe environment (sometimes we have things that just have to get out!). Never went to one for Crossdressing as I accepted that part of me a long time ago. My wife knows about my crossdressing and accepts it fully. I do not currently go to a therapist now and am not sure if I will in the future.
I did years ago at like age 4 and 5 and it was for my dressing but I can't really remember it and have no idea what he came up with
Do you see a therapist?Originally Posted by Rebecca Jayne
> Not right now, but I have on occasion in the past. One in particular allowed me to dress for our sessions. It helped me a great deal in coming to terms with myself. (I guess I should say that I wasn't looking for "approval" other than from myself. I didn't feel that there were any easy answers ... I just wanted to be able to better understand myself.)
I do think about it now and again as my thoughts and desires seem to take me to an ever younger point, down to the point of being a young girl. I'm not sure what that's all about, but that's where I seem to be going.
If so, does your SO know about your cd activities?
> Yes. It was one of the first things I thought she should know. If a relationship is to be strong, I believe that it has to be fully honest and open. She understands and encourages me, although she finds the age regression part something "different".
Has the therapist helped?
> Yes, definitely. i certainly have a better understanding of myself. I am able to accept all of my persona as me.
Cheers!
Jeannie (a.k.a. Black Leotards)
Psychiatrist... Court ordered a few years back, but continued on my own afterwards. I still see her occassionally or talk to her via telephone as a patient or a friend. I credit her for my still being around today.
Kel
No really, I was abandoned in a psychiatric hospital by my mother and school counselor when I was 12, and emotionally tortured by therapists, nurses, and psychiatrists for weeks on end.
I don't have much love for them, at least in that setting.
And so we go, on with our lives...
We know the Truth, but prefer Lies.
Lies are simple, simple is Bliss.
Why go against tradition, when we can admit defeat,
Live in Decline, be the victim of our own design?
Thank goodness for my therapist! I've been seeing him on and off for the past two years. He is a specialist in gender identity disorder and has allowed me to accept who and what I am. He's also gotten me to integrate the female portion of myself with the rest of me. I would not have been able to come out to my wife recently without my therapist. But therapy is not for everyone--it's working for me but may not for others.
Good one Samantha
Was in the closet until my therapist helped me to find the strength to come out to my wife about fifteen years ago. Now my therapy is found by buying a nice skirt which I find to be far cheaper than the therapist.
I attended marriage counseling, and then saw a therapist during the divorce, and at various times over the last couple of years. It helps to a certain extent to talk and get a fresh perspective. I'm looking to find a new therapist who specializes in gender identity issues, and think I may have found one, so we'll see how that goes.
I see a therapist...but it has nothing to do with my crossdressing
-Rachael
See one. Yes, every time I look in the mirror.
I couldn't afford one, but I had GI bill so I went to grad school and became one to get my own bricks stacked in reasonable order. It worked. Along the way since then I've had the honor and profound pleasure of helping other folk unwind their ball of twine and make some sense of their lives.
Along the way, I dismissed those who insisted that I "fix" them. What the great preponderance of people do not know and many refuse to acknowledge when informed is, the Doctor does not do the work to solve mental and emotional problems... the therapist only guides and encourages the patient to work out her own tangled mess. Granny
If you think you need someone to either agree with you( then why bother) or disagree with you (again why take the abuse) then you should seek a therapist. The best would be one that has gone (is going) through what you are, but then, they would have needed a therapist also. The ONLY way a therapist would be of any value is if YOU want to change in the matter you presenting. So if you believe that your dressing is a curse or a mental problem, then get the reinforcement you need. Even the TS's here really don't need that other person's permission to be who they are but due to the way the health care system is set up, they have to get that person's permission to continue down the road. Personally I would make a recorded loop of "how does that make you feel" "What did you think about that?" "uh huh" "I see" and "What would you do?" Most of the time you know the answer, they just help you find it. There are some things that therapy is helpful with but dressing isn't one in my opinion.
The earth is the mother of all people and all people should have equal rights upon it.
Chief Joseph
Nez Perce
“Love isn't a state of perfect caring. It is an active noun like struggle. To love someone is to strive to accept that person exactly the way he or she is, right here and now.” - Fred Rogers,
Well, you're going to dress if you don't have a shrink and you're going to dress if you do have one. What's the point? If it makes you feel better of trying to discover the "why" and looking for a "cure", fine, whatever floats your boat ... OR ... you can accept the FACT that you are a crossdresser, have been, will be, and have fun with it. It's all up to you, whether you just accept it or if you ignor/fight it. Best to give in, get dressed, and have fun doing it. Stay safe and good luck!
Yes totally let me give you her address: http://www.crossdressers.com
NO SERIOUSLY
I do not see one, I see no reason as I am fine and nothing is wrong with me. What is wrong is that society sees what I am as dirty, gay, homosexual, wrong, odd, pedophiliac, Bi-Polar.
It is society that needs a therapist, not me.
My wife and I enjoy both my feminine and masculine sides. Our marriage takes first priority.
Life is good. More time with my wife in both my genders would be great!!!
tina
I have never considered seeing one as I had been doing this all my life.
my mother dressed me as a girl since I was born she always told me it was ok she was my one biggest supporter. later my sisters always did the same if there was a way back then to go all the way I would have in the blink of an eye. to this day my family will still include something for me to use as jenny.
I wish everyone could have had the same experince. I have had consultataions regarding medical procedures like breast augmentation which it is a given that you lay on the couch and talk somebody about your expatations and concerns. I feel bad for girls that got nothing for their money. sometimes just having this type of format is the best way to know you are human and not somebodys secret.
I dont think there is anything wrong with CDing per say. The problem arises when it takes over everything else.
I agree that us GGs (if we decide to accept the CDing) should bd e open minded and allow our other halves to express themselves.
HOWEVER, I also think that the CDers should be thoughtful and sensitive to the GGs and understand that the revelation is often a major shock and allowing our other halves to dress is a HUGE compromise for us. The problems arise when the cross dressing takes over everything else, the pink fog takes over and nothing else matters. THEN I think that councilling can be helpful. I think this because I think that seeing a councillor can help give perspective about whats important in life. That dressing should be an important part of your life but not the ONLY part. That you can dress but not to the detriment of everything else in your life.
Im sorry if this is a huge sweeping statement. Im not labelling everyone who CD's. Im just going from my own experiences.
I dont mind my husband cross dressing and I dont think he needs therapy for that. But I do think he needs help to control it and to be able to function normally in other aspects of his life rather than everything being affected by his dressing. I feel like his dressing should be one aspect of his life, not affect EVERY aspect of his life which it is at the moment - in a negative way. For that I think he needs help - to balance it all out.
Does that make sense or do I sound like a horribly neurotic GG?!
Just because some of us choose to see a therapist doesn't mean we think there is something wrong with us that needs to be cured or that we're having problems accepting who we are. Maybe it simply helps to have someone to talk to about it. Maybe some of us don't have a strong support network that we can talk to where we live. These on-line web sites are a huge help in many ways, but there is something nice about being able to talk face to face with someone. And maybe some of us do feel it would help us to understand all this a little better, which I didn't think was such a bad thing. Congratulations to all of you have everything figured out and have all the answers. I guess some of us aren't as fortunate. Forgive me if I'm being a bit overly sensitive about this, but I thought we were here to support each other, so I don't quite understand why some people feel the need to be so judgmental.
I do see a therapist and the wife does know about my CD tendencies, but does not approve, at all. That is why I am seeing the therapist, at her request.
Did it help? Yes to some degree, but I was already comfortable with who I am. The only real problem I have is with my wife not accepting my desire to dress. I still do, without her knowledge, but it is hard to keep it from her, I just wish she would understand ME.
Striving for acceptance.
This is probabbly the most supportive and logical GG comment on this site I have read so far. Cheers to you dear
You are correct, but think about it from the other side too. You go on vacation or out on the weekend and have a good time, you come to work on Monday and share with all your coworkers/girlfriends. We cant say a word, we have to bottle all that excitement up and hide it. It becomes to much for some and we feel we have to tell someone we can truly share it with. Sometimes our judgement is misguided. Imagine you have a great weekend and cant tell a sole, it is consuming and overwhelming.
Your SO is lucky you are so open and excepting.
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