Quote Originally Posted by Lorileah View Post
I have agreed with that sentiment for years. For one reason more than anything, I call it amateur night. It's when the guys come out who really try and make CD's look bad, they get drunk (and drive which scares me) and they become total a-holes which then reflects on all the others around them.
I gotta agree with the charming Lorileah on this particular point.

I avoid dressing entirely for Hallowe'en parties. Unless you're at a TG party, the dolts who do dress at Halloween parties almost always look like idiots and act like boors. Their burlesqued (meaning satirical, demeaning and derisive) representations of women more often than not offend me deeply. It's usually a misogynistic, insulting performance. And their SO's probably don't like it either.

I may be a little too sensitive about this, but too bad, that's how I feel. When I dress, I want it to be artful, sensitive and appreciated, not laughed at, or have to try to prove my maleness by acting a fool.

I'd never advise closeted folks to dress femme at Hallowe'en. You won't feel comfortable at a "straight" gathering, unless you really want your acquaintances to wonder about you for the rest of the year, unless you really want those pictures floating around on their facebook pages for eternity, unless you really want to make your wives and SO's uncomfortable, unless you really want to lose a bit of respect in the eyes of your friends (especially female friends).

It's a good bet that we're all gonna be outted eventually. I think it's important for our own security and peace of mind to be able to at least try and control the time and place.

Just sayin'!