Dear all,
I am new here, and I would like to introduce myself:
My name is Tasha. I am not yet officially a SO of a CDer...but I suspect I have the perspective of becoming one. This is the reason why I come here.
I have been in a long distance relationship with my partner for more than 3 years now. Things are going steady, but something always seems to be there to hold him back. In the first glance, he seems to be your typical commitment-phobic guy (40, once divorced), who demands a lot of personal space. But during our last few holidays together, I had a feeling that he had been dropping hints: he told me he wanted to try on some of my clothing; he would like to try a manicure and pedicure and make-up session. In some trips, he also bought a lot of feminine accessories...for himself.
In the beginning I took them as jokes, but eventually due to the frequency of these jokes, I realized it may be no joke at all. I have encouraged him lightheartedly. I jokingly suggested we went for a manicure/pedicure, he then only laughed nervously and said he'd be too shy.
Once he let me use his computer, and I saw on the website address, there were entries of transvestite websites.
He's someone very sensitive. That's why sometimes when he seemed to drop hints, I didn't want to poke further. He also has a great tendency to avoid conflict and confrontation. That's why I wonder if I never bring up the issue, will he ever come out to me? Will he ever be ready??? (Of course, provided if he really is a CDer)
And if I should bring it up, how?
I feel like walking on eggshell :-(
I have to say, I sometimes fail to grasp what all the fuss about telling your CDing to your partner. Because for me, it's the person I love. Yet not until these few weeks I have been doing my research on internet, do I realize what a torment it could be.
How should I go about with the situation now?
Any input? Or experience to share?