first rude comment from stranger.

[Sara82]

So I was standing in line at subway today at work, and these two women were being loud and obnoxious. Then while i'm ordering my sub, the one woman looks me up and down, then says to her friend "She's got a dingy". She was literally standing 5 feet away from me too.

I didn't say anything or look at her, but it really bothered me. Then as i was walking back to my office, I see the two ladies standing near the elevator, and she says it again!.

People are so ignorant...

[Alice Torn]

[SIZE="2"]I applaud you for being cool headed, and not firing back at them! Reminds me of my first time out in daylight, walking sidewalks of a town far from where i stay. I heard teenage girl shouting, in horror, OMG, OMG! I turned, and walked behind a building, between them, and me.[/SIZE]

[tinalynn]

Sorry you had to hear that. Usually, people comment out loud because they are insecure with themselves and feel threatened in some way. Ignore her, she's not worth the worry.

Teenage girls are the worst - they can spot us before they even blink! Two nights ago in a Walgreens I was marked by one, but she didn't say anything. Just followed the aisle I was in from the other side of it to look again.

[KarenHiller]

So I was standing in line at subway today at work, and these two women were being loud and obnoxious. Then while i'm ordering my sub, the one woman looks me up and down, then says to her friend "She's got a dingy". She was literally standing 5 feet away from me too.

I didn't say anything or look at her, but it really bothered me. Then as i was walking back to my office, I see the two ladies standing near the elevator, and she says it again!.

People are so ignorant...

Those aren't ladies, they're b*tches. Consider the source and ignore them.

Karen

[t-girlxsophie]

Ignore the ignorance of others hunny,as far as im concerned,they have the problem,even though i know it can hurt and can rock you back on your heels.It used to annoy me,but now i just hold my head up high and walk on.leaving their ignorance behind
Having said that.i haven't always practised what i preach.I Recall one time after a great night out in Edinburgh me,and some of my friends,t-girls and GGs,Came out of a club.Holding my wifes hand,a girl waiting for a taxi,announced in a very loud,harsh voice,that "it was the most disgusting,thing she had ever seen" Well,ladies i tried to keep my demeanour,but may hackles were raised,i turned to her and said "Well Dear,you obviously haven't looked in the mirror recently" am not proud of it (well maybe a little),but I thought that in that instance,turning the situation round against her was the best way.
Sorry for long winded post,hope your TG life will hold much more positives than negatives

[donnatracey]

Ignore the ignorance of others hunny,as far as im concerned,they have the problem,even though i know it can hurt and can rock you back on your heels.It used to annoy me,but now i just hold my head up high and walk on.leaving their ignorance behind
Having said that.i haven't always practised what i preach.I Recall one time after a great night out in Edinburgh me,and some of my friends,t-girls and GGs,Came out of a club.Holding my wifes hand,a girl waiting for a taxi,announced in a very loud,harsh voice,that "it was the most disgusting,thing she had ever seen" Well,ladies i tried to keep my demeanour,but may hackles were raised,i turned to her and said "Well Dear,you obviously haven't looked in the mirror recently" am not proud of it (well maybe a little),but I thought that in that instance,turning the situation round against her was the best way.
Sorry for long winded post,hope your TG life will hold much more positives than negatives

Nice comeback, sophie...she deserved it......

[t-girlxsophie]

Nice comeback, sophie...she deserved it......

Well,you know what they say,A Girls gotta do what a girls gotta do

[Xenia]

Well, you only had to deal with her for a few moments.....she, on the other hand, has to deal with being a stupid bizznatch every day.

And, come on, "dingy"? How old is she, five?

[linnea]

Sorry you had to hear that. Usually, people comment out loud because they are insecure with themselves and feel threatened in some way. Ignore her, she's not worth the worry.

This is true. I think that you handled it well, though.

[vivianann]

I would have turned to her and said, you jealous you dont have a dingy?

[Alice B]

You could always say "up yours", but then again she may want to take you up on it. Just ignore it. She is most likely jealous because you look better.

[Sally2005]

reply... ah, but my husband has a yacht!

[Lorileah]

Then while i'm ordering my sub, the one woman looks me up and down, then says to her friend "She's got a dingy". She was literally standing 5 feet away from me too.

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I would have said "You will never get one, no one would ever want to **** you with that attitude" I might have added a few remarks about her face too but that is just me.

If she was more sophisticated when she said "dingy" I might have countered with "Actually it is a 160 foot yacht." but that would have went right over her head

[SuzanneBender]

You handled it right darling. It is such a shame that stupid people like this beeotch and her friend are allowed to bred.

Young girls can read us in a blink, but I find most of the time they are pretty tolerant.

[Elizabeth Ann]

I like to think I would have turned, smiled at them and said, "yes, but at least I am a lady."

Liz

[Sara82]

yeah thing is, they weren't even young girls, these were grown women.

[docrobbysherry]

I would go out dressed and respond to criticism with witicism! Like many of the girls above have suggested!

But, I'm NOT! So, I stay at home when I dress!

The more to appreciate u girls that actually go out on the FRONT LINES!
Like U, Julia! I think you're VERY BRAVE!

[TabbyJames]

Ahh, the complete ignorance of others, scared, unknowledgable, rude, condesending, stereotypical, unemotionable, and worst of all just plain rude.

I would assume that they were together because they had no-one else to be with (ie... BF, GF, or even ..... CD friend) Too bad for them, in the end, they loose.

[Mandy Burgundy]

"I bet she had a d*ck cause she was acting like one". Ahem, anyways.....best thing to do enfemme is avoid confrontation. Thats my philosophy. I always have thoughts of things getting ugly, ya know, like wigs flying off, and breast forms getting pulled out. So I tend to ignore douches........

[Nicole Erin]

I have had plenty of dumb stares or rude comments, my typical response is "aww F*** you!" Someone trying to call me on something, I am not going to just ignore it.

You notice though that very seldom does anyone say anything if they are alone.

[MissKara]

I have to congratulate you on your resitance to commenting to them. If that was me, I would have turned around and had a go at them (Currently I have a huge chip on my shoulder about CD's in the community and how we are treated by general populis).

Lots of Love,
Miss Kara

[Hope]

yeah thing is, they weren't even young girls, these were grown women.

Just because they are old, does not make them mature. A lot of people never get past high school.

[ReineD]

I would have said something to them, like "Yes, I am transgendered. There are quite a few of us. Is there any question I can answer for you? Anything you'd like to know?"

I would have said this with kindness, my head held high and a smile on my lips. You'd be surprised how much kindness can disarm people. And before you know it, you've dispelled their misconceptions about you, and possibly made knew friends.

This scenario might be idealistic, but on the other hand, it might have gotten positive results. It is difficult to be acerbic to someone who is being friendly.

[erickka]

I would have said something to them, like "Yes, I am transgendered. There are quite a few of us. Is there any question I can answer for you? Anything you'd like to know?"

I would have said this with kindness, my head held high and a smile on my lips. You'd be surprised how much kindness can disarm people. And before you know it, you've dispelled their misconceptions about you, and possibly made knew friends.

This scenario might be idealistic, but on the other hand, it might have gotten positive results. It is difficult to be acerbic to someone who is being friendly.

I agree here. Ignorance is all around us, and if handled with kid gloves, it can be chipped away with positive results. I still think it depends on your location, the degree of success that will be obtained.

[Fab Karen]

I would have said something to them, like "Yes, I am transgendered. There are quite a few of us. Is there any question I can answer for you? Anything you'd like to know?"

I would have said this with kindness, my head held high and a smile on my lips. You'd be surprised how much kindness can disarm people. And before you know it, you've dispelled their misconceptions about you, and possibly made knew friends.

This scenario might be idealistic, but on the other hand, it might have gotten positive results. It is difficult to be acerbic to someone who is being friendly.

Unlikely to get that result. People who say rude things to strangers like that have no compassion ( actually they have self-loathing ) - it's safer to ignore morons.