Crossing dressing and dating guys?

[KellyWannabe]

How many of us think about being with a guy while crossdressing?

I know I do! I wanna be a naughty girl!

[Kate Simmons]

LOL. Questions like these usually literally separate the guys from the girls.

[tinalynn]

I think about being on date - dinner, drinks, movie, whatever... It would be a huge thrill to have that attention and treatment as a girl. I've also thought about the intimate parts, but it does nothing for me. So while I'd like a date and would be so happy with one, it ends early...

[KateW]

I think I am very much a lesbian crossdresser in that regard.

[danielle.cd]

I think I am very much a lesbian crossdresser in that regard.

although if there was a really hot ******* i dont know as if i wouldnt at least go on a date with them not necessarily sleep with them

[Girl]

although if there was a really hot ******* i dont know as if i wouldnt at least go on a date with them not necessarily sleep with them

Sleeping with a really hot ******* - one of my ultimate fantasies!

[nuriko_2sama]

I think I am very much a lesbian crossdresser in that regard.

Im bi but still mostly only like girs. like very few men

[MissTelegothika]

...Questions like these usually literally separate the guys from the girls.

Haha! Always good to see a witty forum. :-)

Now thats quite a question... Interesting to see the replies. Quite diverse!
It seems to me that the femininity inside us seems to have its own separate desires and wants alot of the time. Not a split personality as such...but definitely some sort of partition.

EllieOPKS's sentence; "...I kinda feel like its a transformation when I dress like a girl, I will totally act like one." fits me quite well. I'm visually attracted to girls & I like being the dominant one with them. But when I'm feeling girlie - that polarity reverses completely & I find myself wanting to be dominated & treated delicately by a guy. Increasingly I fantasise about wanting to please a guy too. I have sexual feelings about this but its a totally different feeling then when feeling excited about girls.

I think best way to describe this is I'm a guy from the wasit downwards & a girl from the waist up... & I know that makes no sense!

Perhaps its just fantasies where we/I just imagine what it might be like for a girl, based on our pre-conceptions & what society teaches us etc. However... I need some definite answers now... so I hear the ominous words "go experiment!"
looming over the horizon. Anyone else in a similar puzzle of sexual sudoku? lol.

[5150 Girl]

I'm a TG person to rebel aginst things and persons male. So to anser the OP's question, Ain't no plans with a man here!

[Perlita85]

I'm a TG person to rebel aginst things and persons male. So to anser the OP's question, Ain't no plans with a man here!

DITTO, a lesbian to the end

[nancy_babe4]

Some interesting thoughts.... My experience, such as it is, is that the thrill for me is that a man responds to me as a female and kisses me as a female. For that moment I am a female being kissed by a man and that is very exciting to me....

[PantyhoseNPumps]

As far as I am concerned, I have never, ever looked at a man in an attractive way. I have always been the biggest fan of the female form, and aside from a one night stand (experimental) a few years back, with another "girl", I've never even thought of being with a man. However, all my life, I have felt so all alone, I've always thought that there was no one out there how could ever truly love a girl like me, I've always figured that one day, I would die alone, never having experienced unconditional love, someone who would love me, for Who I Truly Am. Recently, I met someone, who is (like me) not gay, but who we both share a mutual and genuine care for eachother, and it does puzzle me quite a bit. He really is a wonderful and sweet guy, hard working single parent of an adorable little daughter who he just cherishes. This, among other things, make me so attracted to him! He has made me sooo happy, for the first time in 20 years, I have those little butterflies in my stomach, when I think of someone..you probably know what that means! I think that at this point in my life, while I have no interest in men, I do find myself open to someone accepting of the Real Me, regardless of gender. I've been too unhappy for most of my life, and at this point, I think that I just need to be with someone who loves and accepts me regardless to their gender. The older that I get, the less important something like gender becomes. We all want to be accepted and loved, and for girls like us, it does not come as easy as for "other" people. Just my two cents. Christine

[Karen43]

Must be a lesbian also because I much prefer being with a female..

[reneecd13]

[SIZE="3"]Oh yes I have. Never in the beganning I would have never thought. But as time went on I met someone that I was attracted to. He would pick me up and take me out. And it was nice being treated like a woman. And yes we were intimate and it was great. But now I am happily married. [/SIZE]

[MarciManseau]

As far as I am concerned, I have never, ever looked at a man in an attractive way. I have always been the biggest fan of the female form, and aside from a one night stand (experimental) a few years back, with another "girl", I've never even thought of being with a man. However, all my life, I have felt so all alone, I've always thought that there was no one out there how could ever truly love a girl like me, I've always figured that one day, I would die alone, never having experienced unconditional love, someone who would love me, for Who I Truly Am. Recently, I met someone, who is (like me) not gay, but who we both share a mutual and genuine care for eachother, and it does puzzle me quite a bit. He really is a wonderful and sweet guy, hard working single parent of an adorable little daughter who he just cherishes. This, among other things, make me so attracted to him! He has made me sooo happy, for the first time in 20 years, I have those little butterflies in my stomach, when I think of someone..you probably know what that means! I think that at this point in my life, while I have no interest in men, I do find myself open to someone accepting of the Real Me, regardless of gender. I've been too unhappy for most of my life, and at this point, I think that I just need to be with someone who loves and accepts me regardless to their gender. The older that I get, the less important something like gender becomes. We all want to be accepted and loved, and for girls like us, it does not come as easy as for "other" people. Just my two cents. Christine

Christine, sweetie, that was sooooo amazing! I'm sitting here with tears running down my cheeks. Bless you for being so open and honest, and I hope you and he are friends and happy forever. Cherish him, and I know he'll cherish you.

Hugs 'n kisses, Marci

[Tara Lutschich]

Hi Christine, wonderful heartfelt post. Reading the lines and between the lines I find your experience not much different than my own. My loneliness has been greatly reduced by the development of Tara, (parent of four kids). We are exceptional in our androgyny and our desire to express it, gender is not important, the heart of the parternership is.

[charlie]

Hello Kelly!
I see that you have few posts and must be new to the forum. Welcome and enjoy the camaraderie that you get from being here. As for a date, I fell for that awhile ago. I went on a date with a friend. I dressed to the nines and he acted as the perfect gentleman all night. We dined at a nice Italian restaurant, had after dinner drinks at a pretty bar afterward and I was treated like a real lady. The problems occurred when he returned me home. I got kissed and groped a bit. Kissing men is just that...kissing men. I acted OK, but did not like it. That part was unfair to him. I never should have been with a man in the first place. Being treated like a lady was great. Having to act like a lady that likes men is something else! Unless you could like the idea of being with a man sexually not dressed, I don't think it will make a difference when you are dressed and expected to act like a real lady.

[sherri]

A little experimentation may be the only way you'll find out how real your fantasy is, but unless you're really geared that way, you're probably in for a reality check. Even for someone like me who is open to every aspect of a cd + m relationship, there is a difference between dating and being naughty. IME, cheap sex is a pretty hollow and unsatisfying prospect, and just because some guy wants to have sex with you does not mean that he cares about helping you fulfill your girly desire(s) -- or even knows how. Just my humble opinion.

[victoriamwilliams1]

This is a common question and I think it depends on your current relationship status as well as for me when I am dressed I see myself as a woman and I am not attracted to women while dress nor am I attracted to men when dresses! However it was one time a guy who worked at a store treated me so well and shared his life story and I found myself becoming attracted to him. As with any human if the other person knows what to say you can become attracted to them sexually or as a friend.

[Brandi Wyne]

I guess I never thought seriously about it in my early years of dressing but I have dated and enjoyed intimacy with a male, however it had to be another CD and it had to be with both of us dressed.

I love women and have spent the best part of my life married and trying to please one woman as her man. I guess I've been ok with it but somethng was lacking there, too. I was a bit shocked to see how women would quickly slam a CD as not normal, pervert, etc. I've never dated or been intimate with a woman while dressed in femme.

Like some of you here, I really want an accepting and supportive person in my life. Someone who really understands me and what I am about. I've yet to have that in my life. At this time I am relating to you, my sisters in arms, and the idea of having a casual or even a serious relationship would not have so much to do with gender but rather compatibility with the CD lifestyle.

hugs to all,

[NoraTV]

A little experimentation may be the only way you'll find out how real your fantasy is, but unless you're really geared that way, you're probably in for a reality check. Even for someone like me who is open to every aspect of a cd + m relationship, there is a difference between dating and being naughty. IME, cheap sex is a pretty hollow and unsatisfying prospect, and just because some guy wants to have sex with you does not mean that he cares about helping you fulfill your girly desire(s) -- or even knows how. Just my humble opinion.

Sherri has some good advice.

All of us love being treated like a lady, but being treated like a woman can be something else. Sex is easy to find. What I look for is a guy who really cares about me. Even if it is only for one night, I want to know that for that one night I am the most important woman in his life. That is not easy to find.

[sherri52]

The only men that could get me interested are the ladies here. But then beauty is only skin deep and I would realize that they are men and slap myself silly and keep it straight.

[Barbara Dugan]

I love men and can't live without them...I get weak on my knees when I see a strong masculine guy

[suchacutie]

My personal perspective:

It's the female form for me! If I wanted to be with a guy I certainly wouldn't need to be en femme. However, since I want to have spend time as both genders, I think that is to be expected.

If I were to suddenly decide to be a 24/7 transexual my perspective might have changed.

tina

[MiraM]

I love men and can't live without them...I get weak on my knees when I see a strong masculine guy

Right there with you girlfriend