Hi girls,
Outside of this forum, I don't really speak to anyone from the transgendered community, with one exception. A girl was featured on a BBC documentary a couple of years ago, and they followed her transition and eventual SRS. I recently got in contact with her and after many general conversations, recently opened up about myself to her about who I was too. Interestingly, instead of wanting to discuss it, she just said that it was in her past and she didn't want to dig up old feelings again before she transitioned. She politely suggested I contact the beamont society and then changed the subject. I wasn't really looking for therapy or even advice, but just assumed she'd be happy to talk about it as she had done on tv.
Its funny because I have got so used to talking to everyone on here and looking out for rubber bands every friday, that I didn't consider that people that really transition don't want to stay in the transgendered category, or necessarily even talk about it, because in their minds - quite rightly too, they are real women.
I have seen another transgendered person several times in shops near where I live, and haven't yet plucked up the courage to talk to her. However, thinking about it, she may not even want to be approached about it or recognised as transgendered. I know a lot of people are strong spokeswomen and happy to talk about it, but this has drawn me to the conclusion that its better to just smile and leave them about their business. Unless of course they are wearing a rubber band, then we are going shopping!
Kate xxx